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Ngati mungafunse anthu 100 mumsewu, ngati akuwopa kukhala okha ngati sanakwatirane, osakhala pachibwenzi, 99% anganene kuti alibe vuto kukhala okha kapena saopa kusungulumwa.
Koma limenelo ndi bodza lamphamvu kwambiri.
Kwa zaka 30 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa wamkulu wachiwiri, Life Coach wamkulu, ndi Minister David Essel akhala akuthandiza anthu kuti adziwe chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale wawo usakhale wathanzi monga momwe ungakhalire.
Pansipa, David amagawana malingaliro ake pazosavuta kuti anthu ambiri amawopa kukhala okha m'moyo.
Wowononga wamkulu waubwenzi wachikondi
“Kwa zaka 40 zapitazi, zaka 30 ndili phungu, mphunzitsi wamkulu pa moyo, komanso nduna, ndaona zikhulupiriro zokhudzana ndi chikondi ndi maubale zikusintha.
Koma kusintha komwe sikunachitike, ndikuwononga maubale athu achikondi, ndi mantha ndi nkhawa zokhala nokha m'moyo.
Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa ngati mukuwerenga izi pompano ndipo ndinu osakwatiwa mwina mukuti "David samandidziwa, sindili ndekha m'moyo, ndipo sindichita mantha kukhala ndekha, Ndimakhala bwino nthawi zonse ndikakhala ndi kampani yanga, sindikufuna kuti anthu ena azisangalala ... Ndi zina zambiri.
Koma chowonadi ndichosiyana kwambiri.
Anthu ambiri sangayime kukhala okha. Pali kukakamizidwa kwakukulu, makamaka kwa amayi, kukhala paubwenzi, kuchita chinkhoswe, kapena kukwatiwa kotero kuti kwa mayi wazaka zopitilira 25 yemwe sanakwatiwe amawonedwa ngati "payenera kukhala china chake cholakwika ndi iye."
Chifukwa chake ndikamagwira ntchito ndi azimayi omwe akufuna kulowa mdziko la zibwenzi, kuti ndipeze bwenzi langwiro, ndidzawafunsa kaye kuti aganizire zopuma patatha chibwenzi chawo chomaliza kuti achite ntchito yofunikira kuti atulutse mkwiyo wawo.
Ndikawafunsa kuti ayang'ane pagalasi ndikuwona momwe adagwirira ntchito zomwe zidapangitsa kuti ubalewo usayende bwino ndikudzidziwa pang'ono. Kuti adzidziwe okha ngati mkazi wosakwatiwa kapena wosakwatiwa.
Ndipo yankho limakhala lofanana nthawi zonse: "David ndili womasuka kukhala ndekha ...", Koma zenizeni ndizosiyana; ndiroleni ndikupatseni zitsanzo.
M'buku lathu latsopano kwambiri, logulitsa kwambiri, "Zinsinsi za chikondi ndi maubwenzi ... Zomwe aliyense ayenera kudziwa!" Tikupereka zifukwa zotsatirazi momwe anthu amathandizirana kukhala okha, osakhala pachibwenzi m'moyo, omwe alibe thanzi zonse.
Momwe anthu amachitira ndikakhala okha
Nambala wani. Anthu omwe amawopa kukhala okha kumapeto kwa sabata apeza njira yodzisokonezera, mwina mwa kumwa, kusuta, kudya mopitirira muyeso, nthawi yayitali yomwe amakhala pa Netflix.
Mwanjira ina, samakhala omasuka kukhala okha; Ayenera kusokoneza malingaliro awo m'malo mongokhala munthawi ino ndi iwo okha.
Nambala ziwiri. Anthu ambiri, akakhala pachibwenzi chomwe sichili bwino, amafuna mayi wamapiko kapena mtsikana wamapiko, wina woti akhale naye pambali, kotero kuti ubalewu ukadzatha, sadzakhala okha. Zikumveka bwino?
Nambala firii. Tikamagona hop, tithetsa chibwenzi ndikupita kwa wina, kapena tithetsa chibwenzi chathu, ndipo patatha masiku 30, tili pachibwenzi ndi wina watsopano ... kuopa kukhala ndekha m'moyo.
Pafupifupi zaka 10 zapitazo, ndimagwira ntchito ndi mayi wachichepere yemwe zonse zimamuyendera: anali wanzeru, wokongola, amasamalira thupi lake kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi ... Koma anali wopanda chitetezo nthawi zonse amafunika kukhala ndi amuna pafupi naye.
Anali pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata m'modzi yemwe anatuluka ndikunena kuti sakufuna china chilichonse kupatula kugona naye ... Koma amadziwa kuti atha kusintha malingaliro.
Izo sizinagwire ntchito.
Ndipo popeza adazindikira kuti alibe chidwi ndipo sangasinthe malingaliro ake paubwenzi, nthawi yomweyo adayamba kuyankhula ndi mnyamata wina, akadali ndi mwamuna wani woyamba, kuti awonetsetse kuti sangakhale yekha .
Adandiuzanso kuti ndi mkazi wamtundu wina, kuti akuyenera kukhala pachibwenzi kuti amve bwino za iyemwini.
Izi zimatchedwa kukana. Palibe amene ayenera kukhala pachibwenzi kuti adzimve bwino za iwe, ndipo ngati uyenera kukhala pachibwenzi, umatchedwa "munthu wodalira 100%."
Ndipo pomwe wachiwiri adamuwuza kuti samakhudzidwa ndi china chilichonse kupatula kuti amangokhala ndiubwenzi ndi zabwino, adapitilizabe kumuwona kwinaku akuyang'ana wina aliyense kuti adzaze malo ake pabedi.
Izi zitha kumveka zopenga, koma ndizabwinobwino, zopanda thanzi, koma zabwinobwino.
Nawa maupangiri oti muwone omwe angatsimikizire kuti ndinu athanzi, osangalala, ndipo simuopa kukhala nokha:
Nambala wani. Lachisanu, Loweruka, Lamlungu, pomwe wina aliyense ali kunja masiku kapena maphwando ... Mumakhala omasuka kukhalapo, werengani buku; simuyenera kuchita kuziziritsa ubongo wanu ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, shuga, kapena chikonga.
Nambala ziwiri. Mumakhala ndi moyo wodzazidwa ndi zosangalatsa, mwayi wodzipereka, ndi zina zambiri kuti muzimva bwino za inu nokha, kubwezera, kukhala gawo la yankho padziko lino lapansi kukhala gawo lavutoli.
Nambala firii. Mukamakonda kampani yanu, mulibe vuto kutenga masiku 365 patatha chibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali, chifukwa mukudziwa kuti muyenera kukonza malingaliro anu, thupi lanu, ndi mzimu wanu kuti mukhale okonzekera chibwenzi chotsatira.
Tsatirani malangizo omwe ali pamwambawa a momwe mungathanirane ndi kukhala nokha, ndipo mudzayamba kuwona moyo wosiyana kotheratu, moyo wodzazidwa ndi kudzidalira kwamphamvu komanso kudzidalira chifukwa mulibe mantha kukhala nokha, moyo.