Zamkati
- Kukondana ndikofunika bwanji mu ubale
- 1. Chikondi momwe mnzanu amafunikira kukondedwa
- 2. Fotokozani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa mnzanu
- 3. Chikondi chopanda malire
- 4. Ikani wina ndi mnzake patsogolo
- 5. Siyani mpikisano
- 6. Khalani okonda kupereka mkati ndi kunja kwa chipinda chogona
Kodi chikondi ndi kukondana m'banja sizingatheke?
M'njira zambiri, ukwati uli ngati chomera. Mwayi wambiri mukamabzala koyamba. Ndiye, ngati mutaidyetsa, kuisamalira, ndikungoisamalira, imakula.
Chomera chilichonse chimakhala chosiyana ndipo chimafunikira michere yosiyanasiyana m'nthaka, kapena madzi kapena dzuwa lochepa. Koma pophunzira za zosowa za chomeracho, ndiyeno nkuchiyankha mwa kuchipatsa chomwe chikufunikira, chidzakula bwino ndikukwaniritsa zonse zomwe zingathe.
Momwemonso, mukangochita zochepa zokha - kapena zoyipa, zosakwanira - kuti mbeuyo ikhale yamoyo, mutha kuzindikira kusiyana.
Zimayamba kugwa. Masamba amatha kuuma ndikuphwanyika. Mizu yake siyingakhale yathanzi monga momwe ingakhalire. Duwa kapena chipatso si chachikulu kapena chokongola momwe chikadakhalira. Ngakhale kuposa kungoziwona, mutha kungomverera.
Ukwati ulinso chonchi. Pamene inu kapena mnzanu simudyetsa ndikusamalira ukwatiwo, ndiye kuti sungakule. Zimakhala zopanda pake komanso zopanda moyo, kenako moyo, wonse, umakhala wopanda zamatsenga. Zosadabwitsa. Osakonda kwambiri.
Kukondana ndikofunika bwanji mu ubale
Chikondi ndi kukondana m'banja ndizosatheka. M'malo mwake, kukondana komanso ukwati zimayenderana.
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muthandize banja, koma pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe banja lanu silingakhalepo popanda. Zili ngati mpweya kwa chomeracho.
Zomwe tikukamba ndizokhudza kukondana. Tsopano, anthu ena amaganiza zakukondana ngati kungogonana, koma m'banja, ndizoposa pamenepo. Ndiwo chikondi chokwanira komanso choyera.
Chifukwa chake, mungayambitsenso bwanji kukula kwaukwati pamiyeso yaubwenzi muubwenzi? Nazi njira zina zomwe zingakuthandizireni kuti muzikondana m'banja lanu.
1. Chikondi momwe mnzanu amafunikira kukondedwa
Si chinsinsi kuti amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana. Pamwamba pa izo, munthu aliyense ali ndi zosowa zosiyanasiyana.
Si amayi onse omwe anganene kuti amamva kukondedwa amuna awo akamachita XYZ; kotero kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino pamaganizidwe, muyenera kuyang'ana ndikupempha zomwe mnzanu akufuna kuchokera kwa inu.
Mwinamwake nthawi imodzi kumatanthauza zambiri kuposa kukumbatirana, kapena mwina kuwachitira zabwino kumangotanthauza kugula mphatso.
2. Fotokozani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa mnzanu
Muukwati, nthawi zina timayembekezera wina ndi mnzake kukhala owerenga malingaliro. Uku ndikungokhazikitsa zinthu zokhumudwitsa. Ngati mukufuna kukondana nthawi zambiri, nenani choncho (sankhani mphindi yanu ndikusankha mawu anu mwanzeru).
Nthawi zonse samalani kuti musapweteketse mtima pamene muganiza zinthu; mwina khalani ndi nthawi yapadera pamene nonse mutha kugawana mwaufulu malingaliro amtunduwu kuti nonse mukhale omasuka nawo.
Kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima za zosowa za wina ndi mnzake pa nkhani ya chibwenzi ndikofunika m'banja.
3. Chikondi chopanda malire
Anthu ndi zolengedwa zopanda ungwiro.
Ngakhale munthu wokonda kwambiri komanso woganiza bwino amalakwitsa zinthu. Tili ndi tsiku loipa ndikunena zinthu zomwe sitimatanthauza. Mwinanso timawona mnzathu akupereka zochepa kuukwati kotero ifenso timaona kuti tisakonde zochepa.
Musalole kuti izi zichitike. Osayika zofunikira pachikondi chanu. Ngakhale mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu sakusonyeza chikondi monga momwe mumafunira, musachotse chikondi chanu.
Musamaike kukondana pabanja kukhala chobweza chifukwa chosoweka kukondana komanso kulumikizana muukwati ndikosaloledwa.
4. Ikani wina ndi mnzake patsogolo
Ngati nonse mumakhala owona mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake, mutha kunena nthawi yomweyo zomwe cholinga chanu chachikulu m'moyo ndi.
Kodi ndi ntchito? Ana? Kupanga ndalama? Bizinesi yanu yammbali? Kulimbitsa thupi? Mabuku?
Pali zinthu zabwino zambiri zomwe zitha kutichotsera kuti banja liziwoneka ngati malo oyamba. Ngati banja lanu silofunika kwambiri, ndiye kuti yesetsani kutero.
Khazikitsani masiku sabata iliyonse. Chitirani zinthu zazing'ono limodzi, monga kuphika kapena kuyenda. Gwiranani manja.Ganizirani za mnzanu musanabadwe ndipo mudzakhala okonzeka kupanga ubale wabwino m'banja.
5. Siyani mpikisano
Nthawi zambiri anthu m'mabanja amafunafuna thandizo m'mene angalumikizirane ndi abambo kapena amai. Upangiri wofunikira kwa iwo - kukhala otetezeka muubwenzi, ndikukhala ndiubwenzi wolimba, ndikusiya kulemba mphambu m'malo mwake muziyang'ana zabwino za mnzanu.
Osatinso kusunga mphambu. Osatinso "ndasamba mbale usiku watha!" M'malo mwake, perekani thandizo lanu, kapena gwirani ntchito limodzi. Kusunga mphambu sikunathandize banja lililonse kuti likhale ndiubwenzi wapamtima ndipo kwadzetsa mavuto ambiri okwatirana.
M'malo mongoganiza kuti aliyense ayenera kupereka 50% kuti apange chimodzi, aliyense wa inu ayenera kupereka 100% kuti banja lanu likhale lodabwitsa. Kupikisana kumapangitsa kuti izi zisachitike. Lolani kuti muzitha kugwira ntchito limodzi ndikukhala amodzi.
Onaninso:
6. Khalani okonda kupereka mkati ndi kunja kwa chipinda chogona
Ubwenzi ndi chinthu chovuta.
Muli ndi mbali yathupi komanso momwe mumamverera. Nthawi zina timakhala ndi thupi lathu lopanda kudzipereka, ndipo nthawi zina timakhala ndikudzipereka popanda kukondana.
Patsani mnzanuyo zipsompsona zomwe amakonda kwambiri, kapena kugonana komwe iye akufuna. Nthawi zomwe mnzanu wakwaniritsidwa, inunso mudzakhala.
Mukamatha kuchita zinthu ziwirizi muukwati, mumakhala ndi chinthu chogwirizana.
Muli ndi anthu awiri omwe amamva kuti amakondana, ndipo amawonetseranso izi. Chitani izi pokhala okonda mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro mkati ndi kunja kwa chipinda chogona.
Palibe kusowa kwa malingaliro kapena njira zokhalira pachibwenzi popanda kukhala athupi ndipo pamene kugonana sikuli pamwamba pamalingaliro anu, fufuzani njira zina zosangalalira ndi kukondana m'banja.
Pali zochitika zingapo zapaukwati zomwe zingakuthandizeni kulumikizana kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Kungakhalenso kothandiza kuwona malingaliro a momwe mungakhalire okondana kwambiri munjira zosagonana ndi mnzanu.
Kupanda kukondana m'banja kumalepheretsa munthu kukhala wosangalala komanso kukhala ndi banja losangalala. Musalole kuti zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku komanso zosatsimikizika zisokoneze ubale wanu. Siyani zizolowezi zoyipa zoyankhulirana ndikupatsa mnzanu ulemu woyenera.
Kumbukirani, chida chofunikira kwambiri pobwezeretsanso chikondi ndi kukondana m'banja ndikufunitsitsa kwanu kupanga banja, lomwe simungapange ndikumayanjana ngati banja.