Zamkati
- 1. Samachitanso zazing'ono
- 2. Asintha mawonekedwe ake
- 3. Kuchulukitsa pempho lachinsinsi
- 4. Mumathera nthawi yochepa pamodzi
- 5. Mwadzidzidzi amakhala nthawi yayitali akugwira ntchito
- 6. Ali ndi abwenzi atsopano
- 7. Amakhala otanganidwa nthawi zonse
- 8. Sakusangalatsanso zogonana
Simukutanthauza kukhala ndi nsanje, koma kodi pali china chake chikuchitika kumbuyo kwanu ndi mkazi kapena bwenzi lanu?
Ngati china chake m'matumbo mwanu chikuti chibwenzi chanu sichikumva, muyenera kuyamba kuyang'anitsitsa zizindikiritso za akazi ndi zina zomwe mungachite kuti muwone zomwe zikubwera.
Ngati chinachake sichikuyenda bwino muubwenzi wanu, nthawi zina mumangozidziwa ngakhale mulibe chitsimikizo. Chifukwa chake, mungabweretse bwanji kwa bwenzi lanu osawoneka ngati mukungokhala nsanje? Kapena, mungadziwe bwanji ngati bwenzi lanu likukuchitirani zachinyengo?
Zizindikiro zakusakhulupirika kwazimayi ndizosavuta kuwona kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Pali zizindikilo zakuthupi zomwe bwenzi lanu limakusocheretsani. Koma, ngati mwakwatirana, ndiye kuti kumakhala kosavuta kwa inu kuwona zizindikilo zobisika zomwe mkazi wanu akubera.
Zomwe mukuyenera kuchita ndikutsegula maso anu ndi makutu anu kuti agwire zikwangwani zachinyengo kuti ayankhe funso lanu, "akundinyenga ine?"
Nazi zizindikilo zisanu ndi zitatu za kusakhulupirika kwachikazi ndi zizindikiritso zina zachinyengo pachibwenzi.
1. Samachitanso zazing'ono
Zinthu zazing'ono zitha kukhala gawo labwino kwambiri pachibwenzi chilichonse. Kusungitsa zinthu zazing'ono, monga kuphikira khofi m'mawa, kupsompsonana musanagwire ntchito, kuyamika, ndikuwonetsa kuyamikira ndizofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wokhalitsa komanso wachimwemwe.
Kugwirana manja ndikumuuza wokondedwa wanu kuti mumawayamikira pafupipafupi kumapangitsa onse kumverera kuti amakondedwa, amafunikira, komanso samangonyalanyazidwa.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zakusakhulupirika kwa mkazi wanu pomwe mkazi kapena bwenzi lanu lasiya kuchita zazing'ono zomwe ankachita. Ngakhale sakunamabe, ndi mbendera yofiira kuti sakukondana.
2. Asintha mawonekedwe ake
Poyambitsa china chatsopano ndikuphwanya, mkazi amakonda kuwoneka bwino kwambiri. Izi zikutanthauza kuvala; tsitsi, zodzoladzola, ntchito. Amafuna kuti mkazi wake aziganiza kuti ndi wokongola.
Koma, monga momwe mumamutulutsira tsiku lililonse pagulu lachikondi chaubwenzi wanu, pakadali ubale wautali, chidwi chake chofuna kusangalatsa mawonekedwe ake mwina chidatha.
Kumene kale anali kuvala zidendene ndi ma tights, tsopano akumasuka bwino nanu pabedi mu ma PJ ake. Uku ndikusintha kwachilengedwe ndi ubale wanthawi yayitali.
Mkazi wanu akayamba kuyang'anitsitsa mawonekedwe ake, mutha kukupatsani chidwi ndipo mwina ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe mkazi wanu akukunyengani.
Ngati bwenzi lanu kapena mkazi wanu ali pachibwenzi, atha kuyamba kuvala pafupipafupi, kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndikuwonetsetsa momwe amawonekera kuti mwina akufuna kukopa wina.
3. Kuchulukitsa pempho lachinsinsi
Momwe mungadziwire ngati mkazi wanu akunyenga? Chabwino! Chimodzi mwazizindikiro zosakhulupirika zachikazi ndichowonjezera chinsinsi.
Kodi akubisala kwambiri paukadaulo wake? Anthu amatenga mafoni awo kulikonse. Ndizosangalatsa kulumikizana ndi abwenzi, mnzanu, ndikugwira ntchito. Komabe, itha kukhalanso chithandizo chabwino kwambiri chomwe angakhale nacho pakubera. Amatha kuwonjezera kuyankhulana kwatsopano pansi pa dzina labodza, kapena kubisa mapulogalamu azibwenzi kuti asawone.
Zizindikiro zakusakhulupirika kwazimayi zimaphatikizapo kuchoka mchipinda mukamaimba foni, kukhala ndi foni yayikulu, ndikuchotsa mbiri pafoni / laputopu / piritsi lawo.
Ngati mnzanu sagwiritsa ntchito zida zake momwe anali kale, mwina ndi chifukwa chakuti akubisirani kena kake ndipo ndicho chimodzi mwazizindikiro mwamphamvu zomwe mkazi wanu akubera.
4. Mumathera nthawi yochepa pamodzi
Kuchezera limodzi ngati banja ndizomwe zimakuthandizani kupanga mgwirizano. Kaya mumangokhalira kucheza limodzi kunyumba, kupita kokacheza usiku, kapena kucheza ndi gulu limodzi la anzanu, kucheza nthawi yayitali ndikuyembekeza zosangalatsa.
Izi zikunenedwa, chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe akubera ngati mukuwononga nthawi yocheperako limodzi kuposa momwe mumakhalira kunja. Osachepera, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zazikulu zakusakhulupirika mwa mkazi, zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti sakukondaninso ndipo mwina akuthamangitsa wina.
Pokhapokha atayamba ntchito yatsopano kapena pakadali pano ali pamavuto am'maganizo, zizindikilo zakuti akufuna nthawi "yekha" sichizindikiro chabwino pakukhulupirika pachibwenzi chanu.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukudabwa momwe mungadziwire kuti mtsikana wanu akubera, ingoyang'anani chimodzi mwazizindikiro zachinyengo za akazi.
5. Mwadzidzidzi amakhala nthawi yayitali akugwira ntchito
Kukhala mochedwa kuofesi mwina ndi chizindikiro chodzipereka pantchito yake kapena kuti wadzipereka kwambiri kwa wina. Ngati kukhala mochedwa kuntchito sizachilendo kwa iye, mutha kutenga izi ngati chimodzi mwazizindikiro za mkazi wonyenga, pali vuto lalikulu pachibwenzi chanu.
Makamaka ngati ntchito yake ikuwoneka kuti ikupita naye kumapeto kwa sabata kapena "usiku" kukagwira ntchito zomwe sizinachitikepo kale.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zodziwika bwino za kusakhulupirika kwa amayi komwe munthu angakumane nako. Ndipo mumadabwa, "ndidziwa bwanji ngati mkazi wanga akundinamiza kapena ayi?"
6. Ali ndi abwenzi atsopano
Kupanga anzanu atsopano komanso magulu azikhalidwe sizitanthauza kuti akazi anu akukunyengani. Komabe, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zakusakhulupirika kwazimayi kuyankha funso lanu, "ungadziwe bwanji ngati bwenzi lako lakunyengerera?"
Kodi mkazi wanu kapena bwenzi lanu tsopano amathera nthawi yochulukirapo ndi anthu atsopano?
Monga tanena kale, kupanga anzanu atsopano sichizindikiro kuti bwenzi lanu likuchita kubera, koma machitidwe ake pa iwo amakhala ndi zisonyezo zosonyeza kuti bwenzi lanu likubera.
Mwachitsanzo, kodi akucheza ndi abwenzi atsopano, koma sakufuna kukudziwitsani?
Kodi "abwenzi atsopanowa" amamutenga kufikira maola onse usiku m'njira yosazindikira?
Kodi amakonda kusiya kucheza nanu kuti muzicheza ndi anzanu?
Ngati mwakhala limodzi kwakanthawi tsopano mwina mukudziwa abwenzi apamtima a mnzanu. Ngati msungwana wanu wasiya kucheza ndi banja lake, banja lanu, kapena anzanu ndipo akukuwa kuti akhale nawo mgulu latsopanoli atha kukhala ndi chidwi ndi wina.
Ndipo ichi ndichimodzi mwazizindikiro za bwenzi lachinyengo.
7. Amakhala otanganidwa nthawi zonse
Sichizindikiro chabwino pomwe mkazi wanu kapena bwenzi lanu sakuwoneka kuti akukupatsani nthawi yamasana. Mosiyana ndi kubera amuna, azimayi omwe amabera mwachinyengo safuna kulumikizana ndi amuna awiri.
M'malo mwake, ataya chidwi ndi imodzi ndikuyang'ana nthawi yawo yonse ndi chidwi china. Ngati bwenzi lanu likuchita chinyengo, mutha kuwona zosintha mwadzidzidzi pamachitidwe ake.
Ngati mukuwona kuti simumutulutsanso musanadziwitsidwe izi mwina ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe mkazi akubera.
8. Sakusangalatsanso zogonana
Njira imodzi yofunika kwambiri yolumikizirana ndi kukondana pogonana. Mzimayi akakhala ndi vuto logonana ubongo wake umatulutsa vuto la oxytocin, lomwe limachepetsa zopinga zakukhulupirirana ndikupanga ubale wolimba pakati pa nonsenu.
Kuphatikana uku ndikofunikira kuti ubale wolimba. Amachepetsanso nkhawa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mabanja azikhala mwamtendere wina ndi mnzake.
Pankhani ya kusakhulupirika kwachikazi, kusafuna kugonana ndichinthu chachikulu. Chifukwa chake, bwenzi lanu likayamba kuwonetsa kusachita chidwi kapena chidwi m'moyo wanu wogonana pali mwayi kuti atha kupanga ubale kwina.
Osanyalanyaza machitidwe akewa chifukwa iyi ikhoza kukhala imodzi mwazizindikiro zabodza / zibwenzi.
Pali china choyenera kunenedwa kuti mukhululukidwe mu maubale, makamaka ngati mwamanga moyo ndi banja limodzi. Koma, simuyenera kupirira kusakhulupirika, mwina.
Osataya nthawi yanu mosafunikira ndi munthu yemwe samakuyamikirani, kapena munthu amene samakonda chikondi chanu.
Kodi mukuganizabe momwe mungadziwire ngati mkazi akubera? Mulole zikwangwani zachinyengo izi zikupatseni mayankho omwe mukufuna.