Zamkati
- 1. Mvetserani mwachikondi
- 2. Osakhala akutali kwambiri komanso othandiza nthawi zonse
- 3. Musaphonye mayankho onse
- 4. Sankhani nthawi yanu mosamala
- 5. Lankhulani molunjika komanso mophweka
Kulankhulana bwino m'banja ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakulimbikitsa ubale uliwonse. Kuyankhulana kumachitika nthawi zonse mbanja pamlingo winawake, kaya mwamawu kapena mwamawu.
Ubwenzi umayamba ndi kulumikizana, ndipo pakakhala kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana, ndiye kuti banja limakhala pamavuto akulu. Ndizomveka, chifukwa chake, kuyesetsa kulumikizana bwino muukwati ngati mukufuna kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino komanso wolimba.
Zinthu zisanu zomwe simuyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simukuyenera kuchita zikufotokoza zina mwa njira zofunika kwambiri kuti muzitha kulankhulana bwino m'banja.
1. Mvetserani mwachikondi
Kumvetsera ndi maziko olankhulana bwino m'banja. Tikhozanso kunena kuti kumvetsera ndi chisonyezero cha momwe mumakondera mnzanu.
Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumatanthauza kutchera khutu pamene wokondedwa wanu akuyankhula, ndi cholinga chomudziwa bwino, kumvetsetsa zosowa zake, ndikupeza momwe akumvera ndikuganizira za mikhalidwe ndi moyo.
Kuyang'ana m'maso polankhula kumathandiza kwambiri kuti muwonetsetse chidwi chanu, komanso kuyankha mwachidwi komanso moyenera, ndi mawu ndi zochita zotsimikizira.
Mukapitiliza kumusokoneza mnzanu akamayankhula, poganiza kuti mukudziwa zomwe akananena, posachedwa muletsa kulumikizana kwabwino m'banja. Sizowathandizanso kudikirira mpaka atasiya kuyankhula kuti udzalankhule.
Kusintha nkhaniyi mwadzidzidzi kumapereka chidziwitso chomveka bwino chakuti simukumvetsera, kapena simusamala kuti mumve mnzanuyo pamutu uliwonse womwe amakhala akutanganidwa nawo.
Ichi ndiye chimodzi mwazofunikira kwambiri zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita poyankhulana bwino.
2. Osakhala akutali kwambiri komanso othandiza nthawi zonse
Luso lothandiza kulumikizana bwino m'banja ndikuphunzira kukhala pamlingo wofanana ndi mnzanu pazokambirana zilizonse. Kwenikweni, pali magawo awiri: gawo lamutu ndi mulingo wamtima.
Pamutu, mfundo, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro zimakambidwa, pomwe zili pamtima, zimangokhudza momwe akumvera komanso momwe akumvera, zokumana nazo zopweteka komanso zosangalatsa.
Kulankhulana bwino komanso kumvetsetsa kumachitika pamene onse awiri akukhala limodzi ndipo atha kuyankha moyenera pamlingo umodzi.
Chosiyana ndichowona pamene munthu m'modzi akulankhula pamtima, mwachitsanzo, wina akuyankha pamutu. Ingoganizirani izi: Mwamuna amabwera kunyumba ndikupeza mkazi wake atagona atagona pabedi ndi maso ofiira, otupa komanso nyumba ili njenjenje.
Iye akuti: “Cholakwika nchiyani, wokondedwa?” Ndipo akuti, akupumira misozi, "Ndatopa kwambiri ..." Akuponyera manja ake ndikunena, "Mwakhala kunyumba tsiku lonse; watopa ndi chiyani, ukadakhala utakonza zipinda! ”
Koma, kulumikizana moyenera m'banja sikutanthauza kuyankhidwa kotere. Ndiye, momwe mungalankhulire bwino?
Kuyankha koyenera pamayankhulidwe am'mutu 'ndikumvera chisoni, kumvetsetsa, komanso kukondana, pomwe kulumikizana kwam'mutu' kumatha kuyankhidwa ndi mawu aupangiri ndi mayankho omwe angakhalepo.
3. Musaphonye mayankho onse
Kulankhulana wina ndi mnzake mosakayikira ndi njira imodzi yolumikizirana bwino m'banja. Izi zimafuna kuyankhana wina ndi mnzake munjira yoti mnzanu amve kuyitanidwa ndikulimbikitsidwa kugawana zambiri, komanso mozama.
Sitiyenera konse kukakamizidwa kapena kuumirizidwa kuti tigawane. Tonsefe timapereka chitsogozo pafupipafupi pazomwe tikukumana nazo pamtima.
Izi zitha kukhala zisonyezo zopanda mawu monga chilankhulo, misozi, kapena kamvekedwe ndi mawu. Monga momwe utsi umawonetsera moto, izi zimalozera ku zinthu zofunika kapena zokumana nazo zomwe munthu angafune kukambirana.
Mwa kusamalitsa mosamala pazinthu izi, kulumikizana kofunikira kumatha kuchitika kuti mulimbitse ndi kulimbitsa banja lanu.
M'nkhani yomwe tafotokozayi, mwamuna wochenjera akanawona kulira kwa mkazi wake ndikuzindikira kuti pali zina zambiri zomwe zingamuthandize "kutopa". Atamupangira kapu ya tiyi, amakhala pansi pabedi pafupi ndi iye ndikunena, "Ndiuzeni momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa."
Osanyalanyaza luso lazolumikizirana izi chifukwa ndizofunikira kwambiri pakulankhulana bwino m'banja.
4. Sankhani nthawi yanu mosamala
Sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala zotheka kusankha nthawi yolumikizana muubwenzi yomwe, komanso, m'malo opanikizika zinthu zikavuta mwadzidzidzi.
Koma kawirikawiri, ndibwino kudikirira mwayi pomwe pali zosokoneza zochepa kuti mukambirane nkhani zofunika. Pamene mmodzi kapena nonse a inu muli okhumudwa kwambiri komanso okhumudwa, nthawi zambiri si nthawi yabwino kuyesa kulankhulana.
Dikirani kaye mpaka mutakhazikika pang'ono, kenako khalani pansi pamodzi ndikugawana malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu mpaka mutagwirizana njira yopita patsogolo.
Ngati muli ndi nkhani yofunika kukambirana, nthawi yakudya pamaso pa ana mwina siyabwino kwambiri. Mukakhala ndi banja lokhazikika usiku, ndiye kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumakhala ndi nthawi yocheza pazokambirana izi.
Ngati m'modzi wa inu ndi "m'mawa" ndipo winayo sali, izi ziyenera kuganiziridwanso, osabweretsa nkhani zolemera usiku nthawi yogona, ndipo muyenera kugona.
Izi ndizovuta zazing'ono zolumikizirana m'banja kapena kulumikizana kwa ubale komwe kungathandizire kukulitsa maluso olumikizirana kwambiri, zomwe zimadzetsa ubale wabwino komanso wathanzi.
5. Lankhulani molunjika komanso mophweka
Kudandaula kwambiri momwe mungayankhulirane bwino muubwenzi kumatha kutsutsana ndi zolinga zanu zabwino ndikuwononga maluso omwe kulumikizana kwa ubale kulipo
Nthawi zina titha kukhala okhumudwa komanso owopa kukhumudwitsa anzathu mpaka pamapeto pake timangolankhulana.
Njira yabwino ndikunena zomwe mukutanthauza ndikutanthauza zomwe mukunena. Muubwenzi wotetezeka komanso wathanzi, pomwe onse awiri amadziwa kuti amakondedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa, ngakhale pali kusamvana, mukudziwa kuti sanali achinyengo kapena oyipa.
Mwamuna wina wanzeru nthawi ina anauza mkazi wake kuti: “Ndikanena china chake chomwe chingakhale ndi matanthauzo awiri, dziwani kuti ndimatanthauzadi yabwino kwambiriyo.” Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri za maluso oyankhulirana abwino kwa maanja.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kulumikizana kwa anthu okwatirana kuti akhale ndi banja lokhalitsa ndikuti asayembekezere kuti mnzanu angawerenge zomwe mukufuna, kenako ndikukhumudwa akalakwitsa.
Chifukwa chake, njira yolumikizirana m'banja ndikuti ndibwino kufotokoza zosowa zanu mophweka komanso momveka bwino - yankho ndi inde kapena ayi. Ndiye aliyense amadziwa komwe amaima ndipo amatha kupitilira momwemo.
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