Zamkati
- Kodi kukhululukirana ndi chiyani?
- Zomwe taphunzira kuchokera kwa odwala
- Nkhani zolondola za Tamara
- Njira yothetsera vutoli - khazikitsani kukhululukirana
- Ubwino utatu wofunikira pakulimbikitsa kukhululukirana
- Kodi ndi mafelemu ati omwe mukuyang'anapo?
Maanja amakonda kuyang'ana kwambiri pamaganizidwe ndi zakuthupi pankhani yolimbikitsana. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kukula kwaubwenzi ndikufufuza mitundu yosiyanasiyana yomwe imathandizira kulimbitsa ubale wabwino. Kukhululukirana ndi ubale wapamtima ndizochepa chabe. Kukhululukirana ndi kozama kwambiri kuposa kupepesana wina ndi mnzake ndi kulonjezana kuti musabwerezenso.
Kodi kukhululukirana ndi chiyani?
Zimafotokozedwa bwino ngati banja lomwe lazindikira bala lomwe lili pachibwenzi, kumvetsetsa zomwe zavulazidwa, ndikuzindikira zabwino zomwe zachitika zomwe zingawathandize kukula kupita patsogolo.
Ngati zinthuzo sizinafufuzidwe, mawu oti “Pepani” akhoza kukhala opanda pake ndipo angakulepheretseni kukwiya komanso kupitiriza kupsa mtima chifukwa cha zimene munalakwitsa m'mbuyomu.
Zomwe taphunzira kuchokera kwa odwala
Monga Therapist Family Family, ndagwira ntchito ndi mabanja ambiri omwe asankha kukhululuka ndipo amafunadi kusiya zakale m'mbuyomu. Akulongosola zowawa zomwe zidachitika muubwenzi, adatenga umwini wawo, ndikupepesa. Ngakhale zili choncho, ndikumenya nkhondo tsiku ndi tsiku kuti amafotokozabe za wokondedwa wawo kudzera m'malingaliro am'mbuyomu, ngakhale kupita patsogolo kowoneka bwino ndikusintha kwabwino.
Mwachitsanzo -
Mike anali wochedwa nthawi zonse kumayambiriro kwaubwenzi wake ndi Tamara. Adzachedwa ndi mphindi 15-20 mpaka masiku komanso mapulani, zomwe zingayambitse mikangano komanso nkhawa komanso kukhumudwitsa Tamara.
Ankawona kuchedwa kwake ngati chitsanzo cha kupanda ulemu kwake ndipo nkhawa zake zimadikirira ndikudikirira mphindi iliyonse. Mike ndi Tamara adazindikira kuti kuchedwa kwa Mike kumakhudza zochitika zina zambiri m'moyo wake ndipo amafunikiradi kuyang'anira nthawi yonse.
Ndikofunika kutanthauzira matanthauzidwe akale ndi matanthauzo atsopano (olondola) ophatikizidwa ndi mnzanuyo komanso ubale.
Nkhani zakale zomwe zidakamba za Tamara zinali ngati, "Sasamala kuti ndimudikirira nthawi yayitali bwanji," kapena, "Sandilemekeza nthawi yanga. Sakhala woganizira ena komanso amadzikonda ”, ndi zina zotero.
Nkhani zolondola za Tamara
Nkhani zatsopano zomwe Tamara adalemba zimangonena kuti, "Mike akuyenera kuwongolera kasamalidwe kake nthawi zonse ndipo ndiye ameneyo," kapena, "Tonse tikumvetsetsa momwe izi zimakhudzira chibwenzi ndipo Mike akuyesetsa kuthana ndi izi, komanso kutha kwake zikuyenda bwino. ”
Pakhoza kukhala kupita patsogolo kwakukulu komwe Mike angachite monga kukhala munthawi yake kukhala "wachizolowezi". Koma nthawi zambiri, ngati atachedwa ndi mphindi 5, Tamara akhoza kuyamba kumufotokozera kudzera m'malingaliro akale: "Samandilemekeza nthawi yanga. Sasamala za ine ”mipikisano m'maganizo mwake kukulitsa nkhawa zake.
Ngati Tamara angapeze malingaliro awa, osangowasanjika ngati "chowonadi," ndiye theka la nkhondoyo. Cholinga sikuti "musakhale ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro awa." Cholinga ndikuti mukhale achidwi komanso muzindikire zikafika.
Njira yothetsera vutoli - khazikitsani kukhululukirana
Pozindikira kuyambiranso kwa malingaliro akale ndikuwunika ngati atha kukhala olakwika pakadali pano, kukhululukirana kumatha kulimbikitsidwa ndikulimbikitsidwa. "Zikumbutso" izi za mbiri yoyipa yam'mbuyomu zitha kubweretsa zovuta zomwe zimakhala zofunikira zakale koma zimamveka zolondola pakadali pano.
Kugawana za kusatetezeka kwanu kungakhale kothandiza modabwitsa komanso kumakupatsani mwayi wolumikizana nthawi yomweyo. M'malo mokalipira ndi kudzudzula Mike akachedwa mochedwa mphindi 10, Tamara amatha kunena kuti, "Ndikumva kuda nkhawa ngati momwe ndimamvera mukamachedwa. Sindikufuna kukhumudwitsa kapena kukumenyani, koma ndikuvutika ngakhale kuti mwakhala mukugwira ntchito mwakhama panthawi yake. ”
Ubwino utatu wofunikira pakulimbikitsa kukhululukirana
- Zimapatsa Mike mwayi woti atsimikizire momwe Tamara akumvera (popanda iye kukhala "wolakwa")
- Zimapatsa Mike mwayi womulimbikitsa (popanda iye kukhala "wozunzidwa")
- Ikuvomerezanso kuti kupita patsogolo kwachitika ndipo kumapangitsa banjali kulumikizana munthawi yovuta limodzi.
Izi zimapatsa mwayi banjali mwayi wosiya milandu ndi kuwukira komwe kuli koyenera. Gawo labwino kwambiri ndikuti kukhululukirana sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumenya nkhondo nokha kapena kugwera pamapewa a munthu m'modzi.
Kuyika zakale moyenera monga gulu ndichofunikira.
Kodi ndi mafelemu ati omwe mukuyang'anapo?
Tithandizane ngati mukuwoneka kuti mwalakwitsa magalasi atsopano omwe amakuthandizani kuti muwone, kukondana komanso kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake pano. Kugwira ntchito limodzi kuti muzindikire mphindi izi ndikuzindikira mphatso yakukhululukirana kuubwenzi wanu kumachiritsa mabala akale ndikulolani kuti muzitha kudutsa ma handic hand-hand.