Zamkati
- Limbitsani ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu
- Zojambulajambula kunyumba
- Kulimbana ndi mavuto anu mosavuta
- Kufunika kofunika kugona
- Kukondwerera ufulu
Kodi mudayamba mwadzifunsapo ngati pali sukulu kapena yunivesite kwinakwake komwe mungaphunzire maphunziro a Masters polera ana ndikukwaniritsa luso lanu la kulera? Moyo ungakhale wosavuta kwambiri mukakhala ndi luso lolera, sichoncho? Kupita ndikutanthauzira kwabwino kwa kulera, muli ndi udindo wothandizira kukula kwamalingaliro, kwamaganizidwe, thupi ndi luntha la mwana wanu kuyambira ali wakhanda mpaka kukula.
Ambiri aife takhala tikufuna kukhala kholo labwino kwambiri kunjaku - ozizira, owalangiza, abwenzi, komanso chitsanzo chabwino kwa ana okoma mtima komanso okonda chidwi. Makolo athu sanachitepo maphunziro otere kuti aphunzire maluso abwino olera ndipo tikudziwa kuti achita zomwe angathe. Umenewu, ndiye maziko ake, ndiye mfundo yayikulu yakulera - kuchita zomwe tingathe.
Zachidziwikire, m'badwo uno wazidziwitso komanso intaneti, timakumana ndi mitundu yambiri ya kulera ndi maluso osiyanasiyana olera.
Ndikufufuza pang'ono, timapezeka kuti tazunguliridwa ndizambiri pakukulitsa luso la kulera. Ndiye tingadziwe bwanji kuti njira yabwino kwambiri yolerera mwana ndi iti? Mwachidule, sititero. Malingana ngati mwana wanu ali ndi thanzi labwino, wokondwa komanso wouziridwa kuti akhale wodziyesa wokha, mumaziphimba. Komabe, tikufuna kuwunikira maluso asanu abwino olerera ana omwe mungafune kuwalimbikitsa.
Limbitsani ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu
Mikangano imasokoneza malingaliro a mwana. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ana amakhala achimwemwe komanso opambana m'kupita kwanthawi akadzachokera kunyumba yopanda mavuto.
Chisudzulo ndi mikangano imatha kudziwonetsera mwa ana anu m'njira zambiri zoyipa, makamaka kudzera mukukhala ndi nkhawa, kukwiya, kudandaula, komanso kusakhulupirira.
Mmodzi mwa anthu okondedwa kwambiri pa TV, Dr. Phil, amalankhula za ana omwe akuvutika m'nyumba zomwe muli mavuto.Iye akuti, mobwerezabwereza, pa chiwonetsero chake kuti ali ndi malamulo awiri pakulera ana. Choyamba, musawakakamize pazinthu zomwe sangathe kuzilamulira komanso ziwiri, musawafunse kuti athane ndi mavuto akuluakulu. Amanena izi kwa makolo omwe nthawi zonse amaphatikiza ana awo m'mikangano yawo. Khalidwe limodzi mwa makolo abwino ndikuti ana awo azikhala pabwino komanso achimwemwe.
Malingaliro a ana athu ali pachiwopsezo chambiri ndipo amapangidwanso nthawi zonse ndi anthu omwe amakhala nawo. Ndikofunika kuti monga makolo, muchite zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhale ndi chikondi komanso chisamaliro.
Manja okoma mtima, aulemu, kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake sizongokhala zabwino paubwenzi wanu, mwana wanu amaphunziranso kwa inu. Chimodzi mwazizindikiro za luso labwino la kulera ndikuwonjezera chikondi, kutentha ndi kukoma mtima kwa mnzanu, kuti ana anu athe kutengera machitidwe awo powonera makolo awo.
Zojambulajambula kunyumba
Ntchito zapakhomo panyumba pamapeto pake zimathandiza ana anu kuti azitha kuchita bwino pamagulu othandizana nawo atakula.
Kungokhala ndi wophunzira wochita ntchito zapakhomo kungasinthe ana akhama kukhala achikulire achimwemwe ndi achimwemwe. Wina aliyense pabanjapo akuyenera kugwira ntchito zapakhomo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti aliyense akutsatira kuti amalize.
Izi sizimangolimbitsa ubale wanu monga banja komanso mukukulitsa ana anu kuti akhale anthu odalirika, odziyimira pawokha.
Julie Lythcott-Haims, wolemba Momwe Mungalerere Wamkulu, akuti “Ngati ana satsuka mbale, ndiye kuti wina akuwachitiranso. Chifukwa chake amamasulidwa osati pantchito yokhayi, komanso pakuphunzira kuti ntchitoyi iyenera kuchitika ndikuti aliyense wa ife ayenera kuthandizira kuti zinthu zitukuke. ”
Kungakhale kovuta kuwona mwana wanu akutsuka mbale zawo kapena kukonza tebulo kuti adye. Komabe, mwana wanu si duwa losakhwima koma kamtengo kamtengo kamene kakuyembekezera kukula kukhala mtengo. Kuwaphunzitsa kuti adzayankhe mlandu komanso kukhala ndiudindo adakali aang'ono kumawakonzekeretsa kukhala achikulire.
Kulimbana ndi mavuto anu mosavuta
Moyo nthawi zonse uzikuponyerani mipira yokhotakhota.
Monga kholo, ndiudindo wanu kuthana nawo mwachindunji ndikupereka chitsanzo kwa mwana wanu. Opondereza amatha kusiyanasiyana ndi thanzi, ntchito yanu, maphunziro a ana, zachuma, kapena mikangano yokhayo yosathetsedwa kunyumba. Kulera komweko kumakhala kovuta. Ngati kupsinjika sikukusamalidwa mosamala, sikungakhudze kukhazikika kwamaganizidwe anu komanso kwa ana anu.
Ndikofunikira kuti tidziwonetse bwino m'maganizo mwathu pochita zosefera.
Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndikutulutsa zovuta zoyambitsa kwakanthawi. Izi zikhoza kukhala nkhani, anthu amwano, malo aphokoso, kuipitsa ndi zina zotero. Zimatanthauzanso kudzicheka pang'ono. Nthawi zambiri mumadzitsutsa nokha.
Pogwira ntchito masiku ochepa komanso kuchita zambiri kuposa momwe mungakwaniritsire, ndiye kuti mukulephera. Makhalidwe amtunduwu amakulitsa kupsinjika kwanu ndikukhudzanso osati inu komanso mwana wanu.
Kufunika kofunika kugona
Kuyankhula zakukhala ndikulanga mwa ntchito zapakhomo ndikulimbana ndi kupsinjika, munthu sangangopewa kungonena zakufunika kwa kugona m'moyo wanu.
Monga achikulire, tikudziwa kusiyana komwe kugona kwabwino kumatha kukupangitsani kuti muzikolola bwino tsiku lotsatira. Koma pakati pamavuto onse, masiku omalizira, ntchito kusukulu, chisokonezo kunyumba, kodi tikupatula nthawi kukhazikitsa kuyera kwa tulo m'miyoyo yathu, makamaka la ana? Kusagona mokwanira kumatha kuwononga zinthu zambiri, osati thanzi lokha komanso thanzi la ana.
Kusagona kumatha kubwera chifukwa cha zinthu zosiyanasiyana chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira ngati makolo kutenga nawo gawo poyang'anira momwe mwana wanu amagonera. Zina mwazomwe zimalepheretsa kugona ndizovuta zakugona, kupsinjika, matiresi osasangalatsa, nthawi yochulukirapo, kukhumudwa ndi zina zambiri.
Itha kukhala nkhani zazing'ono ngati nthawi yogona. Makolo atha kugwiritsa ntchito zida ngati Nectar's Sleep Calculator kuti apange ndandanda yokhazikika ya kugona kwawo ndi ana awo.
Kukondwerera ufulu
Monga makolo, mwachibadwa kuyang'anitsitsa zochita za mwana wanu. Ngati zingafunike, simungavutike kuwachitira chilichonse kuti moyo wawo ukhale wosavuta. Lingaliro ili limatchedwa helikopita kulera.
Ndipamene makolo samangokhala opitilira muyeso komanso khushoni yayikulu, pomwe ana amakhala ogwidwa mowonjezeka m'malo abwino omwe mudapangidwa ndi inu.
Kulera ma helikopita kumalepheretsa kukula kwa mwana wawo, kuwapangitsa kukhala ochepera ochepetsa thanzi lawo. Kulola ana anu kupanga zisankho zogwirizana ndi msinkhu wawo, kuwalola kulephera, kuwalola kuthana ndi zotsatira za zisankho zawo kumangokupangitsani kukhala kholo labwino komanso iwo odalirika komanso odziyimira pawokha.
Nthawi zina, kusiya ndi luso la kulera kuposa kupopera.