Zamkati
- Khalani ndi zokambirana m'malo abata
- Gwiritsani ntchito luso lomvetsera mwachidwi
- Sungani zinthu zabwino ndikupita patsogolo
- Mphamvu yakukhudza
- Onetsani mnzanuyo kuti mukufuna kumvetsetsa malingaliro awo
- Khalani okonzeka kusintha malingaliro anu
- Lemekezani mnzanuyo pogwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Ine"
- Kutseketsa kulumikizana kwabwino
- Pumirani kwambiri
- Pangani nthabwala
- Malizitsani ndi kukumbatirana
- Tengera kwina
Funsani maanja omwe ali osangalala zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi zofunika kuti banja lawo likhale lowala ndi losangalala, ndipo “luso lolankhulana” likhala pamwamba pa mndandanda wawo, kuphatikizapo kulemekezana, kusirira, komanso kugonana kosangalatsa.
Kulankhulana bwino kapena kulankhulana mwaulemu ndi mnzanu wa m'banja si nthawi zonse. Sitinabadwe tikudziwa kugawana malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu mosalala, mwaulemu ndi mnzathu.
A ife omwe tinali ndi mwayi wowona makolo athu akuchita nawo kulankhulana mwaulemu mu ubale yambani kuyambitsa momwe izi zimagwirira ntchito.
Koma kwa ambiri omwe sanakule m'mabanja momwe makolo samalankhulana mwaulemu komanso moyenera, ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire njira zopindulitsa, zothetsera malingaliro zolumikizirana ndi mnzathu, makamaka pakuwunika zinthu zomwe ndizofunika koma zofunikira pakumanga maubwenzi ndi kukonza.
Kulankhulana bwino kumamangidwa pamaziko a ulemu.
Ganizirani za anthu omwe mumawadziwa omwe samayankhulana bwino kapena samadziwa kuyankhulana m'banja.
Amakuwa, amatsutsana pamalingaliro awo kwamuyaya, amalamulira pazokambirana, ndipo osalola kuti mnzakeyo amve mawu mozama. Mwachidule, olankhula osauka samayankhulana mwaulemu.
Amalengeza uthenga wawo mwamphamvu kotero kuti omvera amangomva kuti, “Sindikukulemekezani mokwanira kuti ndiyankhule nanu modekha, mosangalala.”
Izi ndizopanda tanthauzo pakupanga kulumikizana kwabwino ndi wokwatirana naye. Kodi ndi njira ziti zomwe mungakhazikitsire kulumikizana kwanu zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti mumalemekeza mnzanu?
Khalani ndi zokambirana m'malo abata
Kukumana ndi nkhani yotentha mphindi yomwe mnzanuyo adutsa pakhomo lakumaso pambuyo pa tsiku logwira ntchito ndi njira yotsimikizika yowasiyanitsira ndikuwayika kumbuyo.
Chimodzi mwazofunikira njira zochitira kulankhulana bwino m'banja ndipo kulemekeza mnzanu ndiko kukonzekera zokambirana zanu zofunikira pa nthawi yomwe mungamvetsere ndikuyang'ana wina ndi mnzake.
Mwina ndi ana atagona kapena Loweruka masana pamene ntchito zanu zonse zatha. Onetsetsani kuti zosokoneza ndizotsika, ndipo nonse mutha kuyika zokambirana.
Gwiritsani ntchito luso lomvetsera mwachidwi
Langizo lina lolumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu ndikuti nonse mukhale nawo pazokambirana. Simukufuna kumvetsera mwatcheru kwinaku mukuganizira zomwe mukufuna kuchita kapena kukonzekera zomwe mukufuna kunena mnzanu akulankhula.
Kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi njira imodzi yolankhulirana ndi mnzanu. Zikuwonetsa mnzanu kuti mukukhudzidwa kwathunthu pakadali pano ndikumva zomwe akukuuzani.
Ngati mnzanu akukuwuzani kuti akumva kuti sakuthandizidwa chifukwa mukugwira ntchito yambiri, mutha kunena kuti, "Zikumveka kuti mwakhumudwitsidwa chifukwa choti mukuyenera kugwira ntchito zonse zapakhomo."
Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akavomereza kuti ndi zomwe akunena, njira yabwino yotsatirira kumvera kwanu ndikufunsa funso lofunsidwa kuti: "Ndingatani kuti ndithetse yankho la izi?"
Sungani zinthu zabwino ndikupita patsogolo
Mukuganiza momwe mungayankhulirane bwino ndi mnzanu?
Onetsetsani kuti palibe otchulana maina, kunyozana, kapena kulemba mndandanda wazolakwika zomwe mnzanu wachita muubwenzi wanu wonse. Umu ndi momwe mabanja opanda thanzi amamenyera, ndipo sizimabweretsa chisankho choyenera.
Ngati mukuyamba kukambirana, mungafune kuti ndi mawu ofewa- kupuma pang'ono ndikuyambiranso mavutowo zinthu zitakhala bata.
Akumbutseni mnzanu kuti cholinga cholumikizirana ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ogwirizana, osakusiyanitsani.
Onani zomwe Fawn Weaver, mlembi wogulitsa kwambiri wa Happy Wives Club akunena zaukwati wopanda ukwati:
Mphamvu yakukhudza
Kuyankhulana mwaulemu kumaphatikizapo kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe. Koma kodi mumadziwa kuti ngati mungakhudze mnzanu pomwe mukuyankhula- pamkono, kapena mwawagwira dzanja- ziwathandiza kuti azigwirizana nanu kwambiri?
Kukhudza kulinso kotonthoza komanso kumakumbutsa mnzanu kuti ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukukambirana zovuta, mumawakondabe ndipo mumafuna kukhala nawo pafupi.
Onetsani mnzanuyo kuti mukufuna kumvetsetsa malingaliro awo
Mabanja omwe ali ndi luso loyankhulana bwino amadalira izi kuti zokambirana zipite patsogolo. M'malo mongokakamiza munthu wina kuganiza za mnzake, iwo amafuna kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mkazi kapena mwamuna wawo amaona nkhaniyo.
M'malo molimbikira kunena kuti lingaliro lanu ndi lolondola, tengani kanthawi kuti mnzanu anene chifukwa chake amawona zinthu momwe iwo amazionera.
Kumbukirani kutero gwiritsani ntchito luso lanu lomvetsera mwachidwi kuvomereza kuti mwawamva musanauze ena malingaliro anu momwe mumaonera zinthu.
Khalani okonzeka kusintha malingaliro anu
Izi zikugwirizana ndi mfundo yomwe ili pamwambayi ndipo zikuwonetsa mnzanu kuti ndinu omvera komanso omvetsetsa. Mwina mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu atakuuzani maganizo ake pa nkhani imene mukukambirana, mumazindikira kuti akunena zoona.
Olankhula bwino alibe manyazi posintha malingaliro awo.
Kuuza mnzanu, "Mukudziwa chiyani? Ndikumva zomwe mukunena. Ndipo ukunena zoona. ” zimawalola kuti amve kuti simukungovomereza malingaliro awo komanso kuti adawafotokozera bwino kotero kuti tsopano mukuwagawira!
Lemekezani mnzanuyo pogwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Ine"
Kugwiritsa ntchito ziganizo za 'Ine' m'magaziniyo kumathandiza mnzanu kuzindikira kuti mukumva mwamphamvu za nkhaniyi ndikusunga njira zolumikizirana mwaulemu komanso zopanda mavuto
"Ndimapweteka kwambiri ndikamakukakamizani nthawi iliyonse kuti ndikutulutseni zinyalala" zimamveka bwino m'makutu a mnzanu kuposa "Simungakumbukire kutulutsa zinyalala ine ndisanakutsutseni."
Kutseketsa kulumikizana kwabwino
Aliyense wa inu munali ndi nthawi yolankhula ndi kumvetsera. Mwagwirizana mogwirizana. Kodi mumamaliza bwanji zokambiranazi kuti malingaliro abwino apitilize?
Nonse mwangochita china chodabwitsa paubwenzi wanu. Gawani kuthokoza. “Ndimakonda momwe tingalankhulire za izi popanda kukangana. Zimandipangitsa kuti ndizimva kuti ndili pafupi nanu ”ndiyamikiro yabwino yopatsa mnzanu.
Auzeni zomwe mwaphunzira pazokambiranazi, malingaliro aliwonse omwe simunaganizirepo kale. Tsimikizani zomwe akugawana nanu, ndipo afunseni momwe akumvera.
"Amuna, titha kukambirana Pangano Lamtendere lotsatira!" ikuvomereza momwe nonse mumalankhulirana mopepuka. Kulankhulana moyenera sikutanthauza kungolankhula kwakuya chabe komanso kumatanthauzanso momwe nonse mumakhalira kuti muzitha kukambirana bwino, ngati kuli kotheka.
Izi zidzabwera mwachibadwa kwa inu chifukwa mwakhala mukugwira bwino ntchito inayake yayikulu ndikutuluka kuyandikira kwambiri kuposa kale. Sangalalani ndi mphindi ino!
Tengera kwina
Kulankhulana popanda ulemu sikungatengere kena kalikonse koma mavuto enanso.
Ulemu ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wabwino ndipo tikadziwa kuphatikiza kulankhulana ndi ulemu, zokambirana zonse zimakhala zabwino, ndikuthandizira kuthetsa mavuto omwe angakhalepo pakati pa abwenzi.