Zamkati
- 1. Kusintha mogwirizana ndi kusiyana
- 2. Kuyika kudzikonda pambali
- 3. Kutsata wokondedwa wanu
- 4. Makangano achikondi
- 5. Kuthetsa kusamvana mwa kukhululukirana
- 6. Kubwezera chipongwe mokoma mtima
Yambani ndi anthu awiri omwe amadzikonda okha omwe ndi osiyana mikhalidwe yosiyanasiyana. Tsopano onjezani zizolowezi zina zoyipa, kuphatikiza zododometsa zosangalatsa za onse awiri omwe ali ndi mbiri yapadera.
Ponyani gulu la ziyembekezo zopanda pake, ndikuwonjezera kutentha ndi mayesero a tsiku ndi tsiku a moyo. Mukuganiza zomwe zimachitika kenako? Ndizosapeweka, pamabuka mikangano.
Funso silakuti, zabwino ndi ziti njira zothetsera kusamvana mbanja. Mtsutsano ndi m'mene ungathetsere kusamvana mwachindunji komanso momwe mungachitire ndi kusamvana mbanja mwa okalamba
Mikangano ndi chisonyezo chakuti onse awiri amakhala ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro ena mmoyo wawo. Kusamvana kumatha kubweretsa kudzimva kukhala osungulumwa, nsanje, nkhawa, kubwezera, komanso malingaliro ena.
Chisangalalo choyambirira ndi chisangalalo chaukwati zitatha, zenizeni zimayamba. Nthawi zina maanja amadalitsidwa ndi chuma chambiri, ndipo mikangano imayamba. Komabe, nthawi zambiri, zotsalazo ndizowona.
Mabanja omwe akukumana ndi nthawi yovuta limodzi atha kukhala mu mpikisano wosafunikira. Iwo adakali acatsopano kukhala ndi wina ndi mzake ndipo akukumana ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku limodzi.
Chimodzi mwa zinsinsi zobisika za banja laphindu ndikuti mikangano imachitika ngati momwe imachitikira. Mkanganowo ukathetsedwa, mkangano udayambitsidwa chifukwa chakumenyanako sikutchulidwa kawirikawiri. Zomwe timaphunzira pamtsutsowu zimakumbutsidwa nthawi zambiri.
1. Kusintha mogwirizana ndi kusiyana
Munthu yemwe nthawi zonse amakhala wowonekera bwino paphwandopo amakopeka ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi tebulo lokonzekera bwino. Monga anthu, timawona mawonekedwe osiyanasiyananso amakopa.
Nthawi ikamapita, mawonekedwe omwe tidawona kuti ndi okongola amakhala chifukwa chake mikangano imayamba.
Mukasemphana maganizo, tengani msanga ndikuvomereza zosiyana. Mverani zomwe mnzanu anena musananyalanyaze ndi kunyalanyaza malingaliro awo.
Nonse awiri mukanena malingaliro anu, zindikirani zomwe zili zofunika kwa nonse. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa za umunthu wanu ndikupeza yankho lapakatikati labwino kwa nonsenu.
2. Kuyika kudzikonda pambali
Kudzikonda kunafotokozedwa ndi Mneneri Yesaya zaka zoposa 2500 zapitazo. "Tonse tasochera ngati nkhosa, tonse tayenda yense m'njira yake," (Yesaya 53: 6). Mwamuna ndi mkazi atha kukhala ndi zosiyana, monga banja lina lililonse.
Mikangano imangokulira ngati munthu yemweyo nthawi zonse ayenera kuvomereza zomwe mnzake akufuna. M'malo mongofuna kukhala otsogola, tiyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kutero Ikani pambali kudzikonda kwathu ndi kuvomereza kukhala omaliza.
Lolani mnzanuyo mwayi wokhala nanu. Kumbukirani kuti chifukwa chomwe mudakwatirana ndichakuti mumakondana.
3. Kutsata wokondedwa wanu
Anthu ena saiwala kalikonse. Ichi ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita mukamachita bizinesi. Koma ubale si bizinesi.
Anthu ena amakhala ndi chizolowezi chokumbutsa wokondedwa wawo za zolakwa zawo zakale. Mikangano imachitika nthawi zonse pakati pa anthu omwe amachita zofuna zawo moona mtima.
Kuthetsa kusamvana muukwati wanu ziyenera kufunidwa kuti zithetse vutoli komanso kuti musagonjetse mnzanu.
Malangizo abwino panthawiyi ndi a Thomas S. Monson, "Phunzirani kuyambira kale, konzekerani zamtsogolo, khalani munthawi ino." Njira yabwino yokhazikitsanso kukhulupirirana ndikuti musamangokhalira kukumbutsa wokondedwa wanu za zolakwa zakale.
4. Makangano achikondi
Mikangano ndi chisonyezo chakuti onse awiri amasamalirana. Mu banja, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene mumamenyera wokondedwa wanu komanso nthawi zina mukamakangana ndi mnzanu.
Anthu ena atha kudabwa kuti zikutheka bwanji kumenyana ndi mnzako wathanzi. Tengani ichi ngati chizindikiro chabwino ngati bambo ali wofunitsitsa kufotokoza malingaliro awo ndikukhazikitsa kwa wokondedwa wawo.
Zokambirana izi ndi chizindikiro chakuti amasamalirabe ndipo amatha kuchitira nsanje anthu ena akalowerera m'banjamo. Ngati amakukondanidi, adzakhala wokonzeka kukumenyerani nkhondo.
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5. Kuthetsa kusamvana mwa kukhululukirana
M'banja mukamakula mikangano yambiri imayamba kukhala chizolowezi chatsiku ndi tsiku, zaka zimakhudza momwe maanja amathana ndi kusamvana.
Kunena izi m'mawu a Patricia Riley kuchokera pagulu la Writer, "Kuyambira pomwe ndimadzuka mpaka nthawi yomwe ndimagona, nthawi zonse pamakhala vuto limodzi kapena linalo lomwe timalimbana nalo."
Kuthetsa kusamvana muukwati kudzera mu kukhululukirana ndi njira yochititsa chidwi kwambiri momwe maanja amapambana m'mabanja awo. Tengani mnzanu kumalo odyera omwe amakonda kwambiri, kapena pangani mbale yomwe amawakonda ndikuwapatsa khadi ndikupepesa.
Sikuti wokondedwa wanu angakukhululukireni, komanso akulolani kuti mupite nawo limodzi. Mutha kusangalatsa mgwirizano powapezera mphatso limodzi ndi khadi lopepesa.
6. Kubwezera chipongwe mokoma mtima
Padzakhala nthawi zomwe wokondedwa wanu adzatengeka pakukukwiyitsani. Nthawi zina mudzakhala mutapereka manyazi omwewo kwa mnzanu.
Zotsatira zakunja zili ndi gawo lalikulu pamakhalidwe athu. Zochitika zam'mbuyomu zimapanganso mthunzi wawo pazomwe zidachitika.
Simukudziwa chifukwa chake mnzanuyo akuchita mwamphamvu kwambiri pamkangano winawake. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita ndi kubwezera kuwopseza kwawo mokoma mtima. Mpatseni mnzanu chipinda ndi nthawi yozizira.
Uzani mnzanuyo kuti mumawathandiza ndipo mumawakonda. Auzeni motsimikiza kuti mukufuna kuwathandiza kupeza yankho lavutolo.