Zamkati
- 1. Mulemekeze
- 2. Lowetsani mosafunsidwa
- 3. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yabwino pamodzi
- 4. Lemekezani kufunikira koti akhale otetezeka m'maganizo
- 5. Dziwani kuti sangangotseka malingaliro ndi malingaliro ake
- 6. Dziwani chilankhulo chake chachikondi ndipo mugwiritse ntchito moyenera
- 7. Muzimulimbikitsa
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwamvapo mawu akuti "Mkazi wokondwa, moyo wosangalala." Vuto ndilovuta (ndipo zitha kumveka zosatheka) kudziwa zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wosangalala chifukwa, tivomerezane, ife azimayi ndife osiyana kwambiri ndi inu anyamata.
Zomwe ndikufuna kuti mudziwe ndikuti mtima wanu uli pamalo oyenera. (Ngati simukadakhala kuti simukuwerenga izi.) Mukungoyenera kusiya kuganiza kuti akazi anu amaganiza ngati inu. (Ndipo ife azimayi akuyenera kusiya kuganiza kuti mukuganiza monga momwemonso.)
Ndipo mwachibadwa kuganiza kuti mnzanuyo amaganiza ngati inu. Kupatula apo izi zimawoneka ngati momwe mudachitira pomwe mudayamba kukondana, sichoncho?
Nayi chinthu chake, atatha mankhwala onse achikondi ndikuyamba kukhala moyo wanu weniweni monga mwamuna ndi mkazi mumasiya kukhala okhudzika wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo mukasiya kutengeka mtima mumasiya kuganiza chimodzimodzi chifukwa zinthu zina, anthu, zochitika ndi zokumana nazo tsopano zimakusangalatsani (kapena mwina ambiri).
Tikukhulupirira, mukupeza lingaliro loti mutengapo gawo pang'ono kuti zinthu zisinthe muukwati wanu mpaka pomwe amakhala wokondwa ndipo muli ndi moyo wosangalala ndi iye. Koma osadandaula, ntchitoyi siyotopetsa chifukwa zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi kukhala mnzake.
Tsopano musanayambe kunena kuti ndinu bwenzi lake kale, kumbukirani kuti mukuganiza kuti amaganiza ngati inu. Iye satero. Ubwenzi kwa iye kumatanthauza kumumvetsetsa ndi kumuthandiza m'njira yomveka kwa iye - osati inu.
Nayi njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zokulitsira ubale wanu ndi mkazi wanu:
1. Mulemekeze
Lemekezani malingaliro ake, malingaliro ake, zikhulupiriro, malingaliro ake, zoyambirira, malingaliro, ntchito, zosangalatsa, zofuna, zosowa, komanso nthawi momwe mumafunira kuti alemekeze zanu. Khulupirirani kapena ayi, amuna ambiri amanyalanyaza malingaliro a akazi awo, malingaliro awo, zikhulupiriro zawo, malingaliro awo, zofunikira zawo, ntchito zawo, zosangalatsa, zofuna, zosowa zawo, ndi nthawi yomwe zinthu izi mwanjira iliyonse zimasemphana ndi zomwe akufuna.
Kwa amuna ambiri, sizongopeka chifukwa ndi momwe angachitire ndi mwamuna wina. Amayembekezera kuti munthu wina angawawuze ayi. Koma, kumbukirani, mkazi wanu saganiza ngati inu momwemonso amadzimva wopanda ulemu mukamapitiliza zolinga zanu patsogolo pake.
2. Lowetsani mosafunsidwa
Kodi mudazindikira kuti mkazi wanu amatanganidwa nthawi zonse? (Chabwino, si akazi onse omwe ali chonchi, koma ambiri ali.) Nthawi zonse amakhala ndi china chake chomwe akugwira ndipo ndizosowa kumuwona akukhala pansi ndikupumula. Amaganizira kuti mukuwona momwe akugwirira ntchito mwakhama kusamalira ana, ziweto, nyumba ndi chakudya. Ndipo mwina mumatero.
Vuto ndiloti amafunika kuthandizidwa posamalira ana, ziweto, nyumba ndi chakudya. Kusamalira nyumba ndi banja lanu kumafunikira nonse chifukwa nonse ndinu anu. Chifukwa chake pitani popanda kufunsidwa. Zindikirani zomwe zimafunika kuchita ndikungozichita. O, ndipo musayembekezere kuti angakuthokozeni chifukwa chochita izi monganso momwe inu mumayamikirira kuti wachita zinthu zosamalira banja lanu komanso banja lanu.
3. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yabwino pamodzi
Tsopano malingaliro ake a nthawi yabwino atha kukhala osiyana ndi anu, onetsetsani kuti muchite zinthu zomwe amakonda kuchita osati zinthu zomwe amachita nanu kuti akusangalatseni. (Chinsinsi chomwe muyenera kudziwa ndikuti mwina amakonda kucheza nanu komanso kulumikizana nanu pamalingaliro.)
4. Lemekezani kufunikira koti akhale otetezeka m'maganizo
Ndinawerenga kuti azimayi amawona kutetezedwa kwamaganizidwe kuposa chuma. Sindikudziwa ngati ndi choncho kapena ayi, koma ndikudziwa kuti azimayi amafunika kuti azimasuka kunena za iwo. Ambiri aife azimayi otengeka mtima ndipo timafunikira kudziwa kuti amuna athu amatilemekeza izi.
(Tikufunikiranso amuna athu kudziwa kuti timaganizira momwe iwonso akumvera.)
Ngati sitimva kukhala otetezeka m'maganizo, timayamba kutseka ndikudalira ena kuti atikhutiritse zosowa zathu. Tsopano sindikunena kuti tifufuza mwamuna wina (ngakhale azimayi ena amatero), koma tiyamba kucheza ndi anthu omwe amakwaniritsa zosowa zathu - monga anzathu komanso abale.
5. Dziwani kuti sangangotseka malingaliro ndi malingaliro ake
Ndikudziwa kuti izi zimawoneka ngati zachilendo kwa inu anyamata omwe amatha kutulutsa zinthu m'malingaliro anu mosavuta, koma amayi ambiri sangachite izi. Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro a bazillion akuyenda m'maganizo mwathu nthawi zonse.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwamva nthabwala za banjali lomwe lili pakatikati pa kukondana ndipo mwadzidzidzi akuti, "Buluu." Akuyesa kupitiliza kuyang'ana, koma sakufuna kumunyalanyaza mwanjira ina ndikusokonezedwa ndikufunsa, "Chiyani?" Iye akuyankha, "Ndikuganiza kuti ndijambula chipinda chogona." Izi zimamuwononga, koma ali wokonzeka kupita chifukwa pamapeto pake adathetsa vuto lomwe akhala akulimbana nalo kwakanthawi! Ndipo, njonda, ndi momwe malingaliro amkazi amagwirira ntchito.
Chifukwa chake mupatseni nthawi ngati agwidwa ndi malingaliro kapena kutengeka ndipo sangathe kungozisiya. Lankhulani naye modekha kuti mumuthandize (ASAYESE KUMUTHANDIZA) ndipo akangomaliza, abwerera kwa iyemwini.
6. Dziwani chilankhulo chake chachikondi ndipo mugwiritse ntchito moyenera
Tikukhulupirira kuti mwamvapo za buku la Gary Chapman The 5 Love Languages kale. Ngati sichoncho, muyenera kuyitanitsa kope nthawi yomweyo. Malingaliro a Chapman ndikuti tonse mwachilengedwe timakumana ndikuwonetsa chikondi munjira imodzi mwanjira zisanu. Ndikofunika kuti muwonetse chikondi chanu kwa akazi anu munjira yomveka kwa iye m'malo mwanjira yomveka kwambiri kwa inu.
Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti chilankhulo chanu ndichakukhudza ndipo mumachikonda akangokukumbatirani ndikupsompsonani pagulu. Ndipo tinene kuti chilankhulo chake chachikondi ndi mphatso. Ngati mukuganiza kuti azimukonda mwaufulu pomupatira ndi kumpsompsona pagulu, mudzakhala olakwitsa kwambiri. Sangamve kuti mukumusonyeza chikondi, akumva kuti mukungopeza zosowa zanu zachikondi ndikunyalanyaza zake.
7. Muzimulimbikitsa
Awa ndi malo amodzi pomwe nonse mumafunikira chinthu chomwecho. Vuto ndiloti amuna mwamakhalidwe amachita izi pafupipafupi kuposa akazi. Chifukwa chake tengani nthawi kuti mumudziwitse kuti mumamuyamikira (komanso koposa kungogonana).
Mukamamulimbikitsa ndikumuyamika, amapeza mphamvu zambiri komanso kuthekera kokulimbikitsani ndikuyamikirani. Ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe ngati mutitsogolera mwachitsanzo azitha kutsatira chitsanzo chanu.
Ndikulakalaka ndikadakupatsirani chitsimikizo chokhala ndi chitsulo kuti zonse kuchita zinthu izi 7 kuti mkazi wanu azikhala osangalala komanso moyo wanu limodzi uzikhala wodabwitsa, koma sindingathe. Amayi onse ndi osiyana, koma pafupifupi tonsefe timavomereza kuti amuna athu achite khama kuti akhale bwenzi lathu lapamtima. Ndipo popeza mphothoyo ndi moyo wosangalala ndi iye, ndikuganiza kuti mudzasangalala kukhala bwenzi lake lapamtima.