Zamkati
- Zinthu zitatu zofunika pakukondana kwambiri ndi izi:
- Kodi mungatani pa zoopsa, kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka, kapena kusakhulupilira anthu?
Ndi chikhalidwe chathu kufuna kudzimva oyandikira komanso kulumikizana ndi ena, komabe, nthawi zina zinthu zimatha kuchitika kuti zilepheretse kuyandikira mosavuta.
Kupanga mtundu wa kuyandikira ndi winawake komwe mungawauze zakukhosi kwanu kozama komanso malingaliro anu ambiri ndichinthu chomwe othandizira amachitcha kuti kukondana. Kukondana m'maganizo kumatha kukhalapo pakati pa abwenzi komanso m'mabwenzi abwino. Ndikofunikira kuti munthu akhale wachimwemwe, wathanzi, komanso thanzi labwino koma nthawi zina kuthekera kwathu kukhala okondana kwambiri kumawonongeka.
Zinthu zitatu zofunika pakukondana kwambiri ndi izi:
1. Kudalira - Muyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro mwa anzanu kuti mukhale omasuka kuwafotokozera. Kudalira ndikofunikira pogawana ndi kulumikizana. Nthawi zambiri, zovuta pakukhulupirirana nthawi zambiri zimachokera kwa munthu wosakhulupirira, m'malo mokhala wosadalirika.
2. Chitetezo - Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale otetezeka mkati mwanu komanso mdera lanu kuti muzitha kukhulupirira. Ngati simukumva kukhala wotetezeka, simungatsegule kukhulupirira wina.
3. Kutseguka Kwapamwamba ndi Kuwonetsera - Kutseguka komanso kuwonekera poyera kumafunika pakukulitsa kuyanjana kwenikweni ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu. Chitetezo ndi kudalirana ndizo maziko okhala omasuka pokhala otseguka komanso owonekera poyera.
Kawirikawiri amanyalanyazidwa, chifukwa chachikulu chomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala otetezeka komanso kukhulupirira anthu amalephera chifukwa cha zoopsa. Kupwetekedwa mtima kumatha kubweretsa kusintha muubongo komwe kumatha kubweretsa kusintha kosiyanasiyana kwamalingaliro, machitidwe, ndi malingaliro. Anthu ambiri amaganiza zakusokonekera ngati chochitika chowawa monga ngozi, kugwiriridwa, kapena kuchitira umboni chochitika choopsa, komabe tanthauzo lenileni lazopwetekedwa ndilokulirapo. M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri adakumana ndi zoopsa zina kapena zina. Zovuta zimatanthauzidwa kuti ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kapena chosasangalatsa chomwe chimayambitsa mavuto am'maganizo kapena am'malingaliro mwa anthu ena nthawi yayitali pambuyo pazochitika zosokoneza kapena zochitika, pokhapokha atachitiridwa mwina.
Ngakhale zovuta zina zitha kubweretsa vuto lotchedwa Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), pali mitundu yambiri yazopweteka monga kukhala ndi kholo lolamulira mopitirira muyeso, wotsutsa, kapena wozunza; kuzunzidwa kusukulu; kapena kukhala muubwenzi wankhanza womwe ungakhudze mayendedwe amitsempha yamaubongo chimodzimodzi popanda kuyambitsa PTSD. Zotsatira zake ndikuti anthu omwe akukumana ndi zoopsa amatha kuvutika kuti akhulupirire anthu komanso kuti azikhala otetezeka ponseponse. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kuti anthuwa akhale ndiubwenzi wapamtima m'mabanja awo.
Kodi mungatani pa zoopsa, kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka, kapena kusakhulupilira anthu?
Pali mankhwala ochiritsira omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pochiza PTSD, yotchedwa EMDR Therapy (kuyimira Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) ndipo tsopano ikugwiritsidwa ntchito pochiza anthu omwe akuvutika ndimagulu onse komanso mwamphamvu. Thandizo la EMDR limagwiritsa ntchito kulimbikitsana kwa ubongo, kaya kudzera m'maso, kumveketsa mawu, kapena kugogoda, kuti athane ndi mantha, nkhawa, mkwiyo, kutayika, komanso kupweteka kwam'mutu. Njirayi imakonzanso kukhulupirika ndi chitetezo kuti anthu athe kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima.
Kuchiza zoopsa kungathandize kuthana ndi zopinga zakukondana. Ngati mukukumana ndi vuto lodzimva kuti mulibe pafupi komanso kulumikizana ndi ena mungafune kukambirana nkhani zanu ndi wothandizira wa EMDR wakomweko kapena pa intaneti kapena katswiri wazowopsa kuti muwone ngati muli ndi vuto lomwe silinathetsedwe.