Zamkati
- Mitima yathu imafuna chisangalalo nthawi zonse tikatsegulira mzimu wina
- Kuwerenga molakwika pazomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musasunthike
- Kudzigwira bwino ntchito ndichinsinsi chothanirana ndi mkwiyo
- Timakonda kufunafuna zomwe timazidziwa
Kodi chiyembekezo chikuchita chiyani ndi izi? Chirichonse? Ndikuti, Contraire!
Ndazindikira kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zopweteka kwambiri koma zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wachikondi ndikuvomereza kusowa chiyembekezo. Pali nthawi zina, mosiyana ndi zenizeni zomwe zidalipo patsogolo panga, ndimakhala ndikumacheza ndi munthu patadutsa nthawi yayitali kuti andifunire chidwi.
Ngati chidaliro ndikumverera komwe muli nako musanamvetsetse zomwe zachitika, ndakhala ndikudzipereka kuti ndikhoza kukonza chibwenzi chomwe chidasweka kuposa momwe ndimamvera.
Pali china chake choyenera kunenedwa pokhudzana ndi kulimbikira, osandilakwitsa ndipo muukwati kapena mgwirizano uliwonse, kudikirira nthawi yokhayokha ndi zomwe timasainira anthu akuluakulu.
Mitima yathu imafuna chisangalalo nthawi zonse tikatsegulira mzimu wina
Aliyense amene kholo lake kapena wachibale wake wataya nawo amadziwa kukhudzika kosapiririka kuti atha kupewa zoterezi kuti zisawavulaze.
Chomwe ndikutanthauza ndikuti nthawi zina nzeru za wopusa zongotengera chisangalalo zimatha kumulowetsa pansi kalulu wokhala ndi zikalata zina kuyambira ali mwana zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi pano komanso pano.
Kulipira zomwe sindinakhalepo ndili mwana, kudzaza dzenje lomwe ndinakumba kale ndi vuto langa la munthu wakhungu kwanthawi yonse. Kukhulupirira kuti nditha kusintha zinthu mosiyana ndi momwe zidalili ndili wachichepere kuwongolera zomwe zidandichitikira nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta kuziwona.
Kuwerenga molakwika pazomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musasunthike
Nthawi ina ndili wachichepere, ndimakondana ndi woyimba yemwe ankakonda chida chake chowonekera komanso chisangalalo chosewerera ndekha kapena ndi gulu lake kuposa momwe ndimamvetsetsa.
Ndilibe luso kapena chidwi chanyimbo zanyumba ndipo ndimamva kuwawa ndikukanidwa pomwe amakonda kuchita nane masewerawa. Mkwiyo wanga ndi kusazindikira izi zidandipangitsa kuti ndigwire chilonda cha mwana wosungulumwa pomwe amakhala atakondwerera moyo ndi mphatso yake osandipatula pazomwe sindinkafuna kwenikweni.
Kudzigwira bwino ntchito ndichinsinsi chothanirana ndi mkwiyo
Lynne Forrest katswiri wama psychology yemwe adapanga "Triangle ya Drama: Maonekedwe atatu a Ozunzidwa" akufotokozera vutoli. Malinga ndi Dr. Forest, momwe mumalankhulira nkhani ya zomwe mukukumana ndizofunika kwambiri.
Ngati simungaleke kuzindikira omwe adaseweredwa mu seweroli ngati "wozunzidwa" kapena "wozunza" ndikuyesetsabe kupeza wina woti "akupulumutseni" m'malo mongogwiritsa ntchito njira yodziyimira panokha, khalani osasunthika.
Kwa nthawi yayitali pamoyo wanga, ndagwiritsa ntchito luso langa komanso mphamvu zanga kuyesera kukonza zidutswa zosokoneza ubwana wanga ndi achikulire omwe ndinkacheza nawo, pano ndi pano, omwe anali ndi njira ndi maloto osiyanasiyana kuposa momwe ndimamvetsetsa.
Ndinali otanganidwa kwambiri ndikulingalira sewero lachikondi lomwe silinatheke, kotero kuti ndinasiya kuona kuti ndisawakonde ndipo ndinadziona ngati mwana wosiyidwa, wosamvetsetseka komanso wosakondedwa. Chifukwa chomwe munthu amayenera kudutsamo zowawa zamtundu wotayikawu, wotayika m'mbuyomu, wopanda nzeru, sindidzadziwa!
Apa, ndinali kuwakana popanda kuzindikira, ndikuwadzudzula chifukwa chondipweteka.
Izi, anzanga, ndizopanda chiyembekezo!
Timakonda kufunafuna zomwe timazidziwa
Zomwe ndimazidziwa sizinali njira yosangalalira.
Zinanditengera mankhwala ndi magulu opitilira 12 kuti ndione mavuto omwe ndimadzipangira ndekha komanso "ozunzidwa" anga omwe ndimawawona ngati "olakwira".
Ndisanasinthe njira iyi yopweteketsa mtima, ndimayenera kulowa m'matope a kusowa chiyembekezo. Ndisanabwerere ku zojambulajambula, kukondana, kutseguka m'maso, ndimafunikira nthawi yomwe ndimatha kuyang'ana paubwenzi wachikondi ndi ine.
Tsopano izi zimamveka ngati kusowa chiyembekezo kwenikweni!
Ndizovuta kumva kuti ndimakonda mukamadziimba mlandu pazomwe zidakuchitikirani muli mwana. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ngati simukudziwa kuti mukuchita.
Kupeza chiyanjano, kumvetsera, kulola kuti anthu azindikonda, osakondana, adayamba kutembenuza sitimayo.
Lero, ndayika chiyembekezo m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndimakhala wopanda chiyembekezo kuti ndidzakhala wangwiro; kuti ndidzasintha wina aliyense; Wopanda chiyembekezo kuti china chilichonse koma zolinga zowona mtima, kukoma mtima ndi kuwonekera bwino ndizo mbewu zomwe zimalola kuti chikondi chikule. Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndikhoza kuchita izi, tsiku limodzi.