Zamkati
- Zinthu zoti mukambirane ndi wothandizira ubale
- Gawani zomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa
- Gawani zomwe mukuwona kuti ndizovuta
- Gawani zakukhosi kwanu
- Zomwe simuyenera kugawana
Ubale uliwonse umadutsa nthawi ndi nthawi. Pali chikondi, kukondana, kunyengerera, ndewu, ndi kusagwirizana. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti tisunge mgwirizano muubwenzi kuti pasapezeke kusalabadira komwe kulowemo. Tsoka ilo, kwakanthawi, maubwenzi ena samachitika. Anthu amapatukana, kaya akufuna kapena ayi.
Nthawi zoterozo, ndizosankha zawo ngati akufuna kupitiriza kukhala pachibwenzi, kuyesetsa, kapena kupitiliza moyo watsopano. Kwambiri, Mabanja amapatsa ubale wawo mwayi ndipo nthawi zambiri amapita kwa othandizira kwa upangiri wa maanja.
Zinthu zoti mukambirane ndi wothandizira ubale
Mukapita kukaonana ndi othandizira kapena kupita kuchipatala kwa nthawi yoyamba, mwina mungadabwe kuti mungakambirane chiyani pothandiziridwe. Mutha kukhala ndi mafunso ngati 'Kodi upangiri wa maukwati umathandizadi?', 'Kodi amachita chiyani pothandizirana ndi mabanja?' 'Kodi tingayembekezere chiyani kuchipatala cha maanja?'
Musanapite kwa wothandizira ubale, muyenera kutero kuzindikira vuto mbanja kapena ubwenzi. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zosiyanasiyana za upangiri kwa maanja.
- Mukafuna kugwira ntchito paubwenzi wapabanja
- Nkhani zakulera
- Zovuta zaumoyo, maudindo ndi kutayika kwa okondedwa
- Mikangano ya ndalama
- Nkhani ndi apongozi
- Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
- Kusintha kwa ubale monga kutenga pakati, kupatukana, ndi zina zambiri
- Kusakhulupirika
- Nkhani zopsa mtima
- Pamene banjali likufuna kuthetsa vuto lalikulu kapena laling'ono mwamtendere
Banja likapita kwa othandizira maanja kuti akapeze yankho kudzera muubwenzi, ndi mwayi wokhazikitsa nkhani zonse patebulo ndi cholinga chofuna kukonza chisankho. Kwa ena, chithandizo chamankhwala, makamaka ngati chachitika kwa nthawi yoyamba, chitha kuwonedwa mosamala. Popeza mlendo kwathunthu nthawi zambiri amayendetsa gawolo kwa banjali, pali kukayikira m'malingaliro a omwe ali nawo pachibwenzi pazambiri kapena zochepa zomwe ayenera kugawana ndi omwe adathandizira ubale.
Gawani zomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa
Zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera kuchokera ku upangiri waukwati?
Siziyerekeza kuti aliyense azikhala ndi cholinga chofananira pochiritsa maubwenzi. Ngakhale zotsatira zabwino zidzabwera kuchokera kuchipatala pomwe awiriwo ali ndi cholinga chofanana, chowonadi ndichakuti mnzake akhoza kukhala ndi zolinga zosiyana ndi zinazo. Pomwe pali kusamvana m'banja, kulumikizana kumachepa, ndipo awiriwo atha kulephera kufotokoza cholinga asanapite kuchipatala. Zingakhale bwino ngati simumachita mantha kufotokozera cholinga chanu ndikukhala achilungamo. Umenewu umakhala mutu woyamba kukambirana nthawi iliyonse.
Chifukwa chake mukapita kukaona wothandizira zaubwenzi, muyenera kutero khazikitsani cholinga chomwe muyenera kukwaniritsa ndi mankhwalawa. Ngakhale wothandizira okwatirana atha kukuchitirani. Mwachidule, zikutanthauza kuti kuti mukhale ndi njira yothetsera mavuto, muyenera kugawana vuto laubwenzi ndi yankho lomwe mukufuna kupeza.
Gawani zomwe mukuwona kuti ndizovuta
Nthawi zina, vuto lomwe lidapangitsa kufunikira kothandizidwa ndi ubale limadziwika kwa onse awiri. Komabe, muzochitika zina, wokondedwa aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyana pamavuto. Izi zikuyenera kudziwitsidwa kwa mlangizi wa maanja. Sizopindulitsa kungovomera ndi wokondedwa wanu za vuto lamaubwenzi. Nthawi zonse mukamalandira chithandizo, muyenera kukhala omasuka kugawana malingaliro ndi malingaliro anu; ndipo makamaka zomwe zimasiyana ndi mnzanu.
Kulankhula zamavuto anu kungakuthandizeni nonse kuchira. Itha kukonza mavuto akulu kwambiri ndikuchotsa mavuto ambiri. Sipangakhale kukonza mwachangu, koma kuphunzira kufotokozera mavuto anu ndikugawana malingaliro anu kungathandize kwambiri kufikira yankho.
Gawani zakukhosi kwanu
Kotero, chimachitika ndi chiyani mu upangiri waukwati?
Apa, chithandizochi chikuyimira malo osalowerera ndale komanso osaweruza pomwe mutha kufotokozera ndikugawana zakukhosi kwanu. Kunja kwa malo ano, mnzake akhoza kutetezedwa ndikugawana zakukhosi kwawo kapena kutsekedwa kapena kunyalanyazidwa. Maganizo oponderezedwa samalimbikitsa ubale wabwino. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti mugawane momwe mukumvera komanso momwe mumamvera nthawi zonse.
Mukapeza wothandizira ubale wanu yemwe angakuthandizeni kuchira, njira yothandizirayo imatha kubweretsa zovuta zosadziwika komanso zosasangalatsa. Kumbukirani kuti ichi ndi gawo chabe la mankhwalawa, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzamasuka mukamaliza.
Zomwe simuyenera kugawana
Ngakhale chithandizo chimakwaniritsidwa bwino ngati maphwando ali otseguka komanso owonetseratu, zinthu zina sizingakhale mgawolo. Palibe chifukwa choyitanira mayina kapena mawu achipongwe omwe cholinga chake ndi kukhumudwitsa mnzake. Okwatirana ena atha kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ngati malo atsopano kuti apitilize kuzunzidwa komwe kumachitika muubwenzi. Kuphatikiza apo, palibe phindu kunena zabodza kapena kukokomeza pamaso pa wothandizira ubale. Mmodzi kapena onse awiri omwe akufuna kuti "apambane" atha kuwonjezera kapena kuchotsa chowonadi. Zotsatira zabwino zimapezeka ngati maphwando ali owona m'mawu awo.
Mu kanemayu pansipa, akatswiri a zaubwenzi Harville Hendrix ndi a Helen LaKelly Hunt amalankhula zakulenga chitukuko kuti ubalewo ukhale wathanzi komanso wosangalala. Amakambirana zachitetezo muubwenzi ndizofunikira paubwenzi uliwonse, ndipo zitha kupezeka posalemekeza mnzanu. Mumve pansipa:
Therapy ndipamene awiri amapita kukaika zonse patebulopo. Wothandizira maubwenzi atha kuthandiza kwambiri pochepetsa vuto lanu ndi njira zoperekera upangiri kwa maanja. Kukhala pansi ndikukambirana ndi katswiri kukutsogolerani kunjira yoyenera.
Pali maubwino osiyanasiyana pakulangiza zaukwati. Ngakhale kuti ndi njira yowonongera nthawi, imakhala ndi zotsatira zake kwanthawi yayitali. Chiyembekezo ndikuthetsa mavutowo, kukonza ubale, ndikumanganso mwachikondi. Komabe, ndi zochepa kapena zingati zomwe munganene zomwe zingasokoneze njira yothandizira.