Zamkati
Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti anthu ochita zachiwerewere sangakhale anthu osavuta kukwatiwa ndipo mwina sichisankho chabwino kuwakwatira koma kuwakwatira timatero.
Zachidziwikire, tikadakhala kuti tikudziwa zomwe tidzapeze mtsogolomo, tiziwona posachedwa kuti bwenzi lathu lokongola, lowoneka bwino, wachikoka, komanso womvera limavala chovala chobisa chomwe ngakhale anthu ozindikira kwambiri angalephere kuzindikira .
Pasanapite nthawi, msilikali wathu wovala zida zowala kapena mwana wathu wamkazi wokongola ayamba kuwonetsa mitundu yawo yowona. Ndi inu nokha amene simudziwa zomwe zikuchitika kapena kuti mitundu yawo yowona ndiyomvetsa chisoni bwanji, mpaka mutakhala bwino ndikudzitchinjiriza m'manja mwawo, ndipo akuyamikani moyo wonse.
Ndiko kukwatira kwa wankhanza kwa inu.
Anthu ena, m'malo mofunsa funso loti 'kodi ma narcissist amakhalabe okwatirana bwanji?', Atha kufunsa momwe padziko lapansi wamisala adakwatirana poyamba?
Chifukwa chake takonzekera kuyankha mafunso onse awiriwa. Pitilizani kuwerenga kuti mudziwe momwe mungachitire.
1. Chithumwa
Chithumwa choyambilira ndi chomwe chimapangitsa kuti wamisala akwatire koyambirira, ndipo iyeneranso kukhala yankho la momwe amisili amakhalira okwatirana.
Zingamveke zachilendo kuti wina yemwe akuwonetsa mikhalidwe yoyipa ngati imeneyi atha kukhala ndi chithumwa chomwe wankhonya amatha kuwonetsa.
Chithumwa chomwe wamisili amawonetsa pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chimaposa kukongola kwa munthu wina aliyense, ndipo chithumwa ichi ndi chomwe chimakopa mitima ya munthu amene angakwatirane naye.
Koma vuto apa ndikuti 'chithumwa' ichi sichiri chenicheni, wotsutsa amangodziwa zomwe akuyenera kuchita kuti apitirire zokonda zanu ndikukhala 'munthu wangwiro kwa inu.
Chithumwachi chikuyenera kukhala chifukwa chomwe ochita zachiwerewere amatha kukwatira komanso gawo la yankho la funso loti 'kodi amisili amakhalabe okwatirana motani?'.
2. Nthawi ya nkhanza
Ndizochitikira chithumwa (chomwe takambirana pamwambapa) chitha kupangitsa kuti mkazi wa narcissist apitilize kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kuti tsiku lina adzayambitsanso zomwe anali nazo kale. Mwina kutsata nkhanza za mnzawo wa narcissist chifukwa chapanikizika, kapena vuto lina labwino.
Zomwe mwina sakudziwa ndikuti machitidwe omwe amawona mwa anzawo sangasinthe chifukwa ndi omwe ali.
Mwayi wake ndikuti wokwatirana ndi wankhanza sadzawonanso mtundu wokondeka komanso wokondana wa mnzawo. Pokhapokha ngati wolemba nkhani amakhulupirira kuti watsala pang'ono kutaya mnzake, machitidwe awo amakhalabe osasinthika.
Ngati wolemba nkhani amakhulupirira kuti atha kutaya mnzawo akhoza kuyesanso kugwiritsa ntchito chithumwa chawo kuti atengenso mtima wa mnzawoyo.
Koma, nthawi yachiwiri chithumwacho chimatsegulidwa mwina sichikhala champhamvu, kapena chothandiza monga kale. Komabe, zidzakhala zokwanira, chifukwa cha zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza.
Izi zonse ndi chitsanzo cha momwe anthu amazunzidwira pomwe munthu amamva kuti ali ndi nkhawa ndi omwe amamuzunza, amapereka zifukwa zamakhalidwe awo ndipo sangathe kusiya machitidwe awo owononga komanso ozunza.
3. Kuperewera mphamvu
Pazaka zonse zokwatirana ndi wanamisili, pakhala pali mwayi wokwanira kuti wanamisili achoke pa chidaliro cha mnzawoyo, kuti awapatule ndikuwapangitsa kudziona kuti ndi osakwanira ngati kuti sangapeze wina wabwino kuposa mkazi wawo wamwano.
Kutha nthawi zonse kumachepetsa kulimba mtima kwa okwatirana, kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira. Zingawapangitse kukayika pakupanga zisankho ndikudzifunsa okha mosafunikira chifukwa cha kuyatsa gasi.
Ndikutaya mphamvu ndikuwunikira gasi komwe kumafotokozanso momwe wamatsenga amakhalira wokwatiwa.
Narcissists amatha kupusitsa kapena kupatsa mphamvu amuna kapena akazi awo.
4. Kulamulira ndi mphamvu
Tsopano popeza kuti amuna kapena akazi awo alibe mphamvu, wogwirizira akhoza kuwalamulira malinga ndi zomwe akufuna.
Ichi ndi chitsanzo china cha momwe wamisala amakhalira wokwatiwa.
Zimatengera kuyesetsa kwambiri kuti mkazi wa narcissist atuluke pamavuto am'maganizo, amisala, komanso mwakuthupi atakwatirana ndi wankhanza.
Nthawi zina, kuyesayesa kumakhala kochulukirapo kuti okwatirana afooka motero amakhala okwatirana. Mpaka pomwe wokwatirana amapeza mphamvu yakuchokapo, wamisalayo amakhalabe wokwatirana (kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji, zimadalira chifuniro cha mnzake).
Kukwatiwa ndi wankhanza kungakhale kovuta koma kumvetsetsa momwe wamisala amakhalira wokwatirana ndikosavuta.
Wolemba zamatsenga sadzakwatirana chifukwa cha chikondi, chifundo, kapena ulemu. M'malo mwake, zidzakhala mwa kupusitsa, kuwongolera, ndi kukakamiza.
Zonsezi zitha kuwoneka ngati nkhanza pamakhalidwe onyansa. Koma, m'maphunziro, owerengeka ochepa omwe adakwanitsa kuwonetsa chisoni, ndipo akakhala nawo, ndi ochepa kwambiri, zomwe zimafotokozera chifukwa chake nkhaniyi ndi yopanda tanthauzo.
Ndizokayikitsa kwambiri kuti wamisili asintha - ngakhale atalonjeza zotani.