Zamkati
- 1. Khalani ndi nthawi yopuma
- 2. Sonkhanitsani umboni wanu
- 3. Kayezetseni
- 4. Kambiranani ndi mnzanu
- 5. Musadziimbe mlandu
- 6. Osayika malire pakumva kupweteka
- 7.Sankhani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chanu
Kubera chinyengo si chinthu chophweka kuthana nacho. Kuphunzira momwe mungagwirire ndi wonyenga kungakuthandizeni kuyambiranso moyo wanu ndikukuthandizani kusankha zomwe mukufuna kuchita.
Ngakhale kuyimitsa galimoto ya wonyengayo kumawoneka ngati kovuta, izi sizikuthandizani kuti musamuke, komanso sizingakupangitseni kuti mudzakhale bwino pamapeto pake.
Zotsatira zoyipa zamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro amunamizidwa zitha kukhala nanu kwa moyo wonse. Kubedwa chifukwa chodzichititsa mantha, kudzidalira, kusadzidalira, kulephera kumasuka, kumakupangitsani kudziona kuti ndinu achabechabe, komanso kukupangitsani kukayikira mikhalidwe yanu komanso mawonekedwe anu.
Kuchita ndi wonyenga kumawononga kwambiri komanso kumatha kusintha umunthu wanu zaka zikubwerazi.
Kodi mukufunsa momwe mungasunthire pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika m'banja lanu? Umu ndi momwe mungathanirane ndi wonyenga.
1. Khalani ndi nthawi yopuma
Ngakhale mutaganiza zokhala ndi mnzanu yemwe akuchita zachinyengo kuti mugwire ntchito pachibwenzi chanu, ndikofunikira kuti muzikhala ndi nthawi yopuma.
Ikuthandizani kuti musokoneze. Ikuthandizani kuti musonkhanitse malingaliro anu ndikumva chisoni ndi vutoli. Ngati mwasankha kukhala limodzi kuti muchite zachinyengo, kutenga nthawi muli nokha kungakuthandizeni kuganiziranso izi:
- kaya mukukhalabe pachibwenzi chifukwa mutha kukhala abwinopo, othandizana wina ndi mnzake kapena
- ngati mukungokhala achisoni kapena
- chifukwa ubale wakhala womasuka
2. Sonkhanitsani umboni wanu
Kodi mnzanu akubera muubwenzi, koma simunakumanepo nawo panobe?
Yakwana nthawi yoti mufufuze njira zamomwe mungathanirane ndi wonyenga. Ino ndi nthawi yanu kuti musonkhanitse umboni uliwonse womwe mungafune mukamakumana nawo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mumalemba zithunzi, zithunzi, zokambirana, komanso mayendedwe azomwe mungakhale kuti mwakumanapo ndi omwe ali ndi mlanduwo.
Izi zikuthandizani kuti muthane ndi wonyenga posachedwa kuyimitsa zabodza za mnzanu, ngati angasankhe kukana kutenga nawo mbali ndi wokonda wawo wachinsinsi.
3. Kayezetseni
Ngati mnzanu wakunamizani kuti muli ndi mnzanu m'modzi, ndani anganene kuti sanakhalepo ndi anthu ambiri osadziwa?
Kuyezetsa matenda opatsirana pogonana ndikofunikira mutabedwa. Pitani kwa dokotala wanu ndikufunsani kuti mukayesedwe. Zipatala zaulere komanso malo azaumoyo amapereka mayeso a matenda opatsirana pogonana, HIV, ndi Hepatitis.
Muyenera kudziteteza, ngakhale mnzanu atanena kuti anali 'otetezeka' panthawi yachinyengo. Kutanthauzira kwawo kwa kugonana kotetezeka kumatha kusiyanasiyana kwambiri ndi kwanu.
Ngati mwasankha kuthana ndi wonyengayo pokhala ndi mnzake, ndiye kuti, kubera mkazi kapena mwamuna, afunseni kuti nawonso akayesedwe kuti mutha kuyambiranso kugonana osadandaula.
4. Kambiranani ndi mnzanu
Funsani mnzanu za kusakhulupirika kwawo. Izi ziwapatsa mwayi woti akuimbireni mlandu wawo nanu ndikuti mumveke bwino zakukhosi kwanu. Zomverera zanu zakusakhulupirika, mkwiyo, kunyazitsidwa, ndikumva kuwawa zikuyenera kuwonekera.
Uwu ndi mwayi wowadziwitsanso ngati mukufuna kuthetsa chibwenzicho. Sizikunena kuti ngati mungaganize zothetsa chibwenzi chanu, bwenzi lanu lachinyamata kapena lachinyamata liyenera kuthetsa chibwenzicho.
5. Musadziimbe mlandu
Zomwe anthu obera amasankha kutenga njira zosakhulupirika ndikuchita nawo zinthu atha kukhala ndi zochepa kwambiri, ngati sizikukukhudzani. Kubera mayanjano ndi kudzikonda momwe munthu amadziganizira zake zokha.
Komabe, ambiri amapezabe kumvetsetsa 'chifukwa' monga gawo lofunikira pakumva chisoni.
Yesetsani momwe mungathere kuti musadziimbe mlandu pazomwe mwachitazi. Nthawi zambiri kubera kumayankha ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino m'banjamo. Zilimbikitsidwa kuti abwenziwo akhale pansi ndikukambirana moona mtima za zosowa zomwe akusowa.
Ngati mnzanu wosakhulupirika anali wokhumudwa, amayenera kuti anakuuziranitu zisanachitike. Chifukwa chake, ayenera kuthetsa chibwenzi asanagone ndi wina watsopano.
6. Osayika malire pakumva kupweteka
Ululu ndi kuwawa. Kuchepetsa nthawi sikungachepetse kupweteka kapena kusakhulupirika komwe mudamva mutabedwa. Chisoni ndi njira yomwe imatenga nthawi. Maubwenzi atsopano ndi zosokoneza zina sizingapangitse kuti izi zitheke mwachangu.
7.Sankhani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chanu
Ngati mwaganiza zothana ndi wonyenga, dzipatseni nthawi kuti muganizire moona mtima zaubwino ndi zoyipa zomwe zingachitike mukakhala pachibwenzi.
Ziribe kanthu komwe mukuyendetsa, muyenera kukhala owonamtima kwathunthu pazomwe mukufuna komanso zosowa muubwenzi kuyambira pano. Mukamaganiza zokhalabe paubwenzi ndi munthu amene wakunyengani, dzifunseni mafunso awa:
- Kodi ndingakhululukire mnzanga wosakhulupirika?
Ngati mungasankhe kukhalabe pa chibwenzi, kodi mungakhululukire mnzanu yemwe amabera? Chibwenzi chanu sichidzayenda bwino ngati simungakhululukire zomwezo.
Pambuyo pokhumudwa kwanu, pitirizani kubweretsa zopanda nzeru ndi funso, "Kodi wonyenga angasinthe?" zidzangowononga ndi kukhumudwitsa onse awiri.
- Kodi ndingadzikhulupirire mnzanga?
Wobera kamodzi, nthawi zonse amabera. Chifukwa chake, chidaliro chikangotayika, zimawoneka ngati zovuta kuchipezanso. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wonyenga adzafunika kugwira ntchito 24/7 kuti mukhulupirirenso.
Ayenera kuyesayesa kuthana ndi machitidwe onse amabera owonerera ndikuwonekera poyera komwe ali komanso kuchitapo kanthu mpaka mudzakhale omasuka komanso otetezeka muubwenzi wanu.
- Kodi tipeza upangiri ngati tikhala limodzi?
Onetsetsani zikwangwani zabodza. Kukhululuka ndi njira yovuta, koma itha kuchitika. Njirayi imathandizira maanja kupita kukalandira upangiri wa maanja ndikutsegulira zomwe gulu lililonse limakonda komanso zomwe sizikupezeka m'banjamo.
- Kodi banja / ana anga akhudzidwa bwanji ndi chisankho chanu chokhala limodzi / kutha?
Kubweretsa ana muubwenzi kumabweretsa malingaliro atsopano ambiri. Kodi kulekana kudzawakhudza bwanji? Kodi mungatani kuti makolo anu azikhazikika pa nthawi yovutayi?
Funso likakhala momwe mungachitire ndi wonyenga, pali zambiri zomwe zimachitika pakati pa mayi kapena bambo wonyenga kapena zikwangwani zonyenga zomwe mungaganizire mukaganiza zokhala kapena kuchoka.
Pali zosasangalatsa zamaganizidwe pazomwe mungasankhe. Ena amasankha kukhala ndikuyesera kulimbikitsa maubale. Ena amasankha kuchoka ndikukachita chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe angalemekeze kukhulupirika kwawo komanso kukhulupirika kwawo.
Lucy, m'mawu ake a TEDx amalankhula za maanja omwe amadutsa m'mabanja omwe amachita zachinyengo, kusakhulupirika, komanso kusakhulupirika kudzera muzitsanzo zenizeni.
Ndikusankha kwanu njira yomwe mungatengere momwe mungathanirane ndi wonyenga. Onetsetsani kuti zotsatira zanu ndizabwino kwa inu komanso chisangalalo chanu.