Zamkati
- 1. Kuvomereza ndi kuvomereza
- 2. Kudula kulumikizana ndi inu wakale
- 3. Pangani mtendere ndi osowa
- 4. Lankhulani ndi abwenzi apamtima komanso abale
- 5. Ayi 'bwanji ngati'
- 6. Vomerezani kuti mukukondanabe
- 7. Yambani kudzikonda nokha
- 8. Lowani nawo gulu lothandizira
Anthu nthawi zambiri amalankhula zakukongola kwanthawi yayitali kukhala pachibwenzi, koma si ambiri omwe amalankhula za momwe angasunthire kuchokera pachibwenzi.
Tonsefe timafuna kukhala ndiubwenzi wokhalitsa, komabe, zinthu sizikhala monga momwe timalotera, sichoncho? Idzafika nthawi yomwe munthu amakhala pachibwenzi choopsa kapena choyipa.
Ndikofunikira kuchoka paubwenzi woopsa ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo watsopano.
Sikovuta kwenikweni kuchoka pachibwenzi choipa mukayamba kulumikizana ndi munthu wina. M'munsimu muli njira zina zofunika kwambiri zosunthira mwachangu kuchokera pachibwenzi.
Momwe mungalandire ndikusunthira kuchokera pa chibwenzi?
1. Kuvomereza ndi kuvomereza
Zinthu zikafika poti zisinthe kuchokera paubwenzi wakale, anthu ambiri amalephera chifukwa amakana kuvomereza ndikuzindikira kutha kwa chikondi pakati pawo.
Mukazindikira msanga kutha kwa chibwenzi, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mupite patsogolo. Simungayambitse china chatsopano pokhapokha mutathetsa chibwenzi choyenera.
Chifukwa chake, vomerezani kutha kwa chibwenzi. Ikani katunduyo ndikukonzekera njira yotsatira. Kumbukirani, moyo sutha ndi kulekana, umangopuma. Pali zambiri zomwe zili m'tsogolo.
2. Kudula kulumikizana ndi inu wakale
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mutha kukhala bwenzi ndi wakale wanu, ndiye kuti mukulakwitsa.
Sizophweka monga zikuwonekera. Kuphatikiza apo, izi zimawoneka bwino pazowonekera zazikulu. Mu moyo weniweni, kukhala bwenzi ndi wakale ndi vuto lalikulu.
Njira yabwino yopitilira m'moyo ndikubisa zakale ndikumaliza mutuwo, kwathunthu. Chifukwa chake, dulani kulumikizana kwanu ndi wakale wanu ndikuyang'ana pazinthu zofunika kwa inu. Mukangoyamba kuyang'ana pazinthu zofunika, mudzawona zokumbukira zakale zikutha.
3. Pangani mtendere ndi osowa
Kusuntha kuchoka paubwenzi wanthawi yayitali ndizopweteka. Pofunafuna m'mene mungasunthire kuchokera pachibwenzi, munthu ayenera kuphunzira kudzaza chosowacho ndi china chake chofunikira komanso chofunikira.
Mukakhala ndi munthu kwa nthawi yayitali, kupezeka kwawo kumakhudza kwambiri moyo wanu. Muyenera kukhala opanda kanthu ndipo chidzakusowetsani mtendere ngati simulowetsa m'malo mwake ndi zina kapena chizolowezi chatsopano.
Chifukwa chake, kuti mupite patsogolo, pangani mtendere ndi zopanda pake, zivomerezeni, ndikuzidzaza ndi zizolowezi zosangalatsa komanso zosintha moyo.
4. Lankhulani ndi abwenzi apamtima komanso abale
Cholakwika kwambiri chomwe munthu amachita posuntha kuchokera pachibwenzi ndikuti amasungabe malingaliro awo mkati.
Izi sizoyenera kuchita. Mukakhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa kwambiri, lankhulani. Ndikofunika kuti muuzane zakukhosi kwanu ndi anzanu apamtima, kapena ngakhale banja lanu.
Mukamayankhula zakusokonekera kwamaganizidwe anu, mumamva kuwala mkati. Izi zitha kuthana ndi malingaliro aliwonse olakwika omwe nthawi zambiri amabwera pambuyo povutitsidwa.
5. Ayi 'bwanji ngati'
Kutha kwa positi, ndichizolowezi kuunikiranso zonse zomwe zachitika.
Kenako, imafika nthawi yomwe munthu amalowa mumtundu wa 'bwanji ngati'. Mwanjira imeneyi, ndizotheka kuyambiranso gawo lonselo ndikuganiza zothetsera mavuto onse omwe atha kutha kapena atha kusintha ubalewo.
Izi ndizosokoneza ndipo zimasiya zoyipa zokhalitsa, osalola munthu kuti asankhe zosankha za momwe angapitirire kuchokera pachibwenzi. Chifukwa chake, siyani kuwunikiranso momwe zinthu ziliri ndikusiya kulingalira za 'bwanji ngati'.
6. Vomerezani kuti mukukondanabe
Mwakonda munthu mwakuya kotero zidzakhala zovuta kusintha chilichonse; sizingatheke kuwononga zikumbukiro zokongola izi. Kuyamba kuchoka pa chibwenzi mukadali okondana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndizovuta kwambiri.
Njira yoyamba yothanirana ndi kuvomereza kuti mukuwakondabe. Pambuyo pake, vomerezani kuti sakukondaninso.
Pangani mtendere ndi zomwe ubale wanu sungakhalepo ndipo ndibwino kuti muzitha.
7. Yambani kudzikonda nokha
Izi zikuwoneka ngati zosavuta koma ndizovuta. Zaka zonsezi mudali kupereka kufunikira kwa munthu amene mumamukonda.
Pamene mwadzidzidzi atuluka m'moyo wanu, mungamve kupweteka ndikuyamba kudziimba mlandu pachinthu chonsecho. Mutha kuyamba kunyalanyaza nokha ndipo mutha kukhala mtundu woyipitsitsa nokha.
M'malo mwake, yambani kuganizira za inu nokha ndikukhala munthu wosiyana.
Samalirani kwambiri mawonekedwe anu. Izi zisungitsa chidaliro chanu ndipo mutha kudzipeza nokha bwino kuposa kale.
8. Lowani nawo gulu lothandizira
Ngati mukufuna yankho la momwe mungasunthire pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti kulowa nawo gulu lothandizira kumathandizira.
Pali anthu omwe adakumana ndi zofananazi nthawi ina m'moyo wawo ndipo adakwanitsa kudzichotsa. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukuchita nawo kwambiri, gulu lothandizira lidzakuthandizani kwambiri.
Pali anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro ndi momwe akumvera ndipo adzakuthandizani kuthana ndi izi.