Ndiye mwangokhala ndi mwana - zikomo! Mosakayikira mukuchita chidwi ndi kudabwitsaku komanso chisangalalo cha munthu watsopanoyu yemwe wabwera padziko lapansi, makamaka mdziko lanu. Mwinamwake malingaliro anu mwana wanu woyamba asanabadwe anali kwinakwake pamalingaliro akuti, "Kanthu kakang'ono chonchi sikungakhale kovuta kusamalira ..." Mwina mwina mudadabwa ndikudabwa mutazindikira kuti "mwana wanu wamng'ono" amatenga miyoyo yanu, mphindi iliyonse ya tsiku lililonse - ndi usiku!
Kukhala ndi mwana kumafuna kusintha kwakukulu m'banja lanu, kaya ndinu wokonzeka kusintha kapena ayi. Zosinthazi zitha kukhala zosiyana m'mabanja osiyanasiyana, kutengera umunthu wanu komanso momwe zinthu ziliri. Limodzi mwamagawo omwe angakhudzidwe kwambiri ndi moyo wanu wachikondi. Pofuna kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba komanso kuti moyo wanu wachikondi uziyenda bwino mwana akabadwa, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwadala.
Pansipa pali njira zisanu ndi ziwirizi ndi maupangiri omwe angakuthandizeni kupita ku cholinga chosungabe moyo wachikondi ndikukhalabe okonda polera ana anu.
1. Ikani ubale wanu patsogolo
Ngati ubale wanu ndi mnzanu ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wanu, mudzakhala muli paulendo wopatsa mwana wanu mphatso yabwino kwambiri yomwe makolo angapatse ana awo: chitsanzo chowoneka cha ubale wachikondi. Zovuta ndi zovuta zakusamalira mwana wakhanda zitha kuthana ndi izi ndipo mutha kupeza kuti ubale wanu ngati banja wasokonekera pamene mukuyang'ana kwambiri khanda. Kumbukirani, nonse awiri mudali limodzi ana asanafike ndipo tsiku lina anawo adzauluka pachisa ndiyeno nonsenu awiri. Chifukwa chake pangani kuyika wina ndi mnzake patsogolo ndikusunga moyo wachikondi chanu kwa nthawi yayitali.
2. Fotokozaninso tanthauzo la chibwenzi
Kwa milungu ingapo yoyambirira mwana atabadwa kukula kwaubwenzi wanu mwina kumangokhala mukugona pabedi ndikugwirana manja, mwana ali m'manja mwanu! Izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa makamaka kwa omwe amakonda kuphonya komwe mumakhala nako kale. Amuna omwe amathandiza akazi awo pantchito zothandiza, zowapanikiza komanso zowononga nthawi zaubereki adzapatsa okondedwa awo mwayi wabwino wochira ndikukhala ndi mphamvu zowonjezera. Zinthu monga kuchapa zovala, kutsuka mbale, kusamba mwana komanso kusintha matewera zitha kukhala 'foreplay' yothandiza kwambiri.
3. Phunzirani kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi mwadzidzidzi
Lekani kuganiza kuti muyenera kukhala osadodometsedwa maola awiri limodzi pomwe mphindi makumi awiri zitha kukhala zomwe mungapeze. Phunzirani kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wa 'mwayi wagolide' momwe amadzionetsera. Mwina mwana wangogona kuti agone pang'ono ndipo nonse mungasangalale ndi gawo limodzi la chisangalalo. Ana akamakula padzakhala nthawi zambiri pamene mutha kukhala nokha limodzi. Kumbukirani, kudziletsa kumangowalitsa kunyezimira komanso kusewera kumawonjezera chisangalalo m'moyo wachikondi.
4. Dulani chizindikiro cha 'Osasokoneza'
Ana anu akamakula aphunzitseni kuti nthawi zina mayi ndi bambo amafunika kukhala okhaokha pamene chikwangwani cha 'Musasokoneze' chili pakhomo. Aphunzira kulemekeza ndi kusilira ubale wanu wachikondi momwe amakuwonerani mukukondana ndikuyika patsogolo nthawi yanu muli nokha.
5. Konzani ndandanda
Palibe cholakwika ndi kukonza nthawi yocheza pamodzi pa kalendala yanu. Kupatula apo, mumakhazikitsa china chilichonse, bwanji osakhala mbali yofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu pamodzi? Kupeza olera bwino komanso abale ndi abwenzi omwe angasamalire ana kwa maola ochepa atha kuchita zodabwitsa kuti moyo wanu wachikondi ukhalebe wamoyo. Konzani tsiku lokonzekera sabata sabata iliyonse, komanso maulendo apakatikati a sabata kumapeto kwa miyezi ingapo kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino yocheza. Mwanjira imeneyi mutha kukulitsa mgwirizano pakati pa inu nonse ndikukumbukira kuti simuli makolo okha.
6. Kambiranani nkhani zina kupatula ana anu
Pezani nthawi yokambirana momasuka ndi mnzanu. Kuyankhula ndi imodzi mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zosungilira moyo wachikondi chanu. Yesetsani kukambirana nkhani zina zosangalatsa m'malo mongolankhula za ana anu nthawi zonse. Ngati nonse mumakonda kuwerenga, kambiranani za buku lanu laposachedwa kwambiri, kapena kanema. Ndipo musaiwale kuyerekezera za tsogolo lanu ndi kulota za zinthu zomwe mungakonde kuti muchite limodzi.
7. Musaiwale kuseka limodzi
Palibe china choseketsa komanso choseketsa kuti moyo wanu wachikondi ukhalebe ndikukuyandikitsani pafupi. Musalole kuti zovuta ndi zovuta zaubereki zikuchotsereni chimwemwe chanu. Mukamayang'ana mwana wanu wakhanda, sangalalani ndi mphindi zosekazi ndikujambula zithunzi zambiri chifukwa musanapite kukayamba sukulu, kenako ku koleji! Lembani sewero lanthabwala kuti inu ndi mnzanu muwonere limodzi nthawi ndi nthawi ngati mukuwona kuti mukusowa kosangalatsa pang'ono kuti mulimbikitse. Pezani njira zosekererana, ndikugawana nthabwala zilizonse zomwe mungakumane nazo tsiku lonse mukasiyana.
Kumbukirani, kukhala ndi mwana mwina ndiyeso yayikulu kwambiri m'banja lanu ndipo moyo wachikondi wanu udzakumana nawo. Mukamakwanitsa kusintha zinthu limodzi ndikupirira mwayi waukulu wokhala kholo la mwana wanu wamtengo wapatali mutsimikiza kuti mutha kuyesa izi ndikukhalitsa mumakonda moyo wamoyo anawo akafika.