Zamkati
- 1. Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zomwe mudachita limodzi
- 2. Chepetsani khalidwe lanu losachedwa kupsa mtima
- 3. Kusiya kuyambitsa mkangano
- 4. Pezani thandizo
Kodi banja lanu likuvutika pompano? Kodi mwataya zip ndi chisangalalo chomwe mudakhala nacho zaka zapitazo?
Zilibe kanthu kuti mwangokwatirana kumene miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena zaka 60; anthu ambiri amakhala otopa muukwati wawo. Amuna ndi akazi ambirimbiri ku United States okha ali ndi banja losasangalala. Ndipo chifukwa chachikulu chokhala osasangalala ndikuloza mnzanu.
“Akadangosintha. Khalani okoma. Khalani tcheru kwambiri. Khalani oganiza bwino. Khalani okoma mtima. Ukwati wathu sukanakhala ngati wovuta chonchi. ”
Ndipo tikamaloza chala, m'pamenenso chimayamba kukula. Kotero mmalo mochita izo, sizinayambe zakhalapo, sizidzagwira konse ntchito; yang'anani maupangiri anayi omwe ali pansipa kuti mumve chikondi chomwecho muubwenzi wanu.
1. Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zomwe mudachita limodzi
Lembani mndandanda wazomwe mudachita mukakumana ndi mnzanu koyamba; zinali zosangalatsa. Zosangalatsa. Kukwaniritsa. Mumapita pamasabata sabata iliyonse, koma simukuchita izi tsopano? Kodi mumakonda kupita kukaonera makanema limodzi? Nanga bwanji za tchuthi? Kodi pali zinthu zazing'ono zomwe mumakonda kuchita kuzungulira nyumba kapena nyumba mukakumana koyamba zomwe mwasiya?
Aka ndi koyamba kuchita zomwe makasitomala anga amachita ndikamagwira nawo ntchito limodzi kuti ndiyambe kusintha banja. Onani zomwe mumakonda kuchita zomwe mumakonda, lembani mndandanda, kenako sankhani chochita chimodzi pamndandandawu ndikuyesera kuti mnzanu achite lero.
2. Chepetsani khalidwe lanu losachedwa kupsa mtima
Kodi mukuchita chiyani zomwe zikuwonjezera chisokonezo ndi sewero mu chiyanjano chanu? Kodi mumachita zankhanza? Mlandu wolakwitsa? Mkwiyo? Kodi mukuwononga nthawi yochuluka kuntchito kuti mupewe kukhala ndi mnzanu komanso banja? Kodi mukumwa mopitirira muyeso? Kudya zambiri? Kusuta kwambiri?
Mukayang'ana pagalasi, ndikuwona kuti mukuchita chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zatchulidwazi kuti mupewe kuthana ndi mavuto omwe ali m'banja lanu, mutha kuyamba kuchira mukasiya izi. Kutenga umwini pazomwe mukuchita muukwati zomwe sizikugwira ntchito ndi gawo lofunikira, ndipo tikachita izi polemba, zimawonekeratu kuti si vuto la mnzathu. Ifenso ndife gawo lavutoli.
3. Kusiya kuyambitsa mkangano
Mukayamba kuwona zokambirana zikusintha kukhala mkangano, sankhani. Imani. Ndimagwira ntchito ndi mabanja omwe amakonda kulemberana mameseji. Chifukwa chiyani? Palibe amene amafuna kuti winayo akhale wolondola. Zili ngati mpikisano. Tiyenera kupambana pamasewera ankhondo awa.
Zamkhutu! Imodzi mwa njira zamphamvu kwambiri zomwe muli nazo pakali pano zimatchedwa kutaya mtima. Mukawona kuti kutumizirana mameseji sikuyenda bwino, siyani kwathunthu ndikuchita motere.
“Wokondedwa, ndikuwona kuti tikupita munjira yomweyo ndikudzudzulana, ndipo ndikupepesa chifukwa chokhala nawo. Ndikusiya kulemberana mameseji pompano. Ndimakukondani, ndipo sindikupita kulikonse. Ndibweranso pakadutsa maola awiri, ndipo tiwone ngati tingakhale achifundo pang'ono. Zikomo kwambiri chifukwa chomvetsetsa. Ndimakukondani."
Pochita izi mwanjira yapamwambayi, sizitanthauza kuti banja lanu likhala bwino nthawi yomweyo, koma muyenera kuyimitsa misalayo. Chifukwa mukuwerenga nkhaniyi, zili ndi inu kuti mukhale mtsogoleri pakutha zomwe zakhala zikupha banja lanu.
4. Pezani thandizo
Pezani chithandizo panokha ngati mnzanu sakufuna kulowa nanu, ndi mlangizi, wothandizira, mtumiki, kapena mphunzitsi wa moyo. Ndizodabwitsa kuti ndi mabanja angati omwe pamapeto pake ndimathandizira kusintha banja lawo, m'modzi yekha ndi amene angabwere, koyambirira. Zilibe kanthu kuti ndi ndani, kaya ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, koma wina akuyenera kutenga mwayiwo ndikutsegulira wokondedwa wawo kufunsa ngati angadzapange gawo limodzi kuti athetse chibwenzicho.
Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri amakana. Musagwiritse ntchito izi ngati chowiringula kuti nanunso mukhale panyumba. Zimandidabwitsa kuti ndi maubale angati omwe tathandizira pamene m'modzi yekha ndi amene wabwera. Nthawi zina mnzakeyo samabwera, koma amene abwerayo atha kusintha zina ndi zina m'banja ndi kupulumutsa banja ngati akufuna agwire ntchitoyo ngakhale paokha.
Ubale ndi wovuta. Tivomerezane, taya mabuku achikondi kwakanthawi kochepa ndikuwona zenizeni za maubale. Tikhala ndi masiku oyipa, milungu, miyezi, mwinanso zaka. Koma musalole kuti izi zikulepheretseni kuyesetsa kuti musinthe maubwenzi.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ngati mutsatira malangizowo, mudzipatsa mwayi wopulumutsa banja lanu. Ndipo ngati pazifukwa zina banja lanu silikupitilira, mudzakhala mutaphunzira malangizo othandiza oti mudzabwerenso pachibwenzi chanu. ”