Zamkati
- 1. Sangalalani limodzi
- 2. Khalani oona mtima nthawi zonse
- 3. Mvetserani mosadodometsedwa
- 4. Lembani chikondi chanu
- 5. Muzipeza nthawi yocheza tsiku lililonse
- 6. Kugonana pafupipafupi
- 7. Onetsani kuyamikirana wina ndi mnzake
Kuphunzira kulumikizana bwino muubwenzi kumakuthandizani kuti mulemekezane, kumvetsetsana bwino, komanso kumapangitsa kuti mnzanu azimasuka naye. Onse inu ndi mnzanu mumabweretsa zomwe mumakumana nazo pamoyo wanu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti nonse muli ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zolankhulirana, kumvetsera, komanso kulankhulana ngati banja.
Kulankhulana ndi gawo lofunikira laubwenzi wabwino.
Zimalimbikitsa kukhulupirirana, kukhulupirika, kuwona mtima, ndi chikondi. Ngati mukufuna kulimbikitsa mgwirizano wokhalitsa limodzi, ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ogwirizana ndikuyesetsa kukonza maluso anu olankhulana ngati banja. Malangizo asanu ndi awiri awa akuthandizani kuphunzira momwe mungapangire kulumikizana komanso kulumikizana ndi bwenzi lanu.
1. Sangalalani limodzi
Kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana zimayendera limodzi. Mmodzi sagwira ntchito bwino popanda winayo. Kusangalala limodzi kumakweza ubale wanu ndikukuyanjanitsani. Mukamayandikira kwambiri mnzanu, mumakhala wofunitsitsa kuuza ena zakukhosi kwanu.
Kuchita zosangalatsa limodzi ndikofunika kuti banja lanu likhale labwino. Sankhani zosangalatsa zomwe nonse mumakonda, kukhala ndi tsiku usiku, kapena masana mukugona pansi pa bulangeti ndi chiwonetsero chomwe mumakonda limodzi. Chilichonse chomwe nonse mumakonda kuchita, onetsetsani kuti mumachita zambiri. Mukamakhala ndi nthawi yosangalala limodzi mudzamva bwino kwambiri.
2. Khalani oona mtima nthawi zonse
Mukakhala owona mtima kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wanu, osati za momwe mukumvera komanso ndi zomwe mukutsatira, ndipamenenso adzakukhulupirirani mtsogolo. Mwanjira ina, kutha kwanu kukhala woona mtima kumakhudza momwe mnzanu akumvera za inu. Kodi ndinu wodalirika? Kodi ali ndi chifukwa choti akukayikireni? Poyesayesa kukonza kulumikizana ndi mnzanu, khalani ndi cholinga chokhala omasukirana komanso omasukirana.
Ubale wabwino umamangidwa pakulemekezana ndi kudalirana, zonse zomwe zimalimbikitsidwa ndikunena zowona. Lankhulani za moyo wanu limodzi, zolinga zanu mtsogolo, lankhulani mukasemphana maganizo, ndipo musamayerekeze ngati mukusangalala ngati simunatero. Kulankhula zowona ndi mnzanu kuli ndi maubwino ambiri. Kuwona mtima kudzakuthandizani nonse kukulitsa maluso anu olumikizirana komanso kulumikizana kwambiri. Ikuphunzitsanso nonse momwe mungawerengere wina ndi mnzake komanso kuthetsa mavuto moyenera.
3. Mvetserani mosadodometsedwa
Ngati simunazolowere kukhala chete, mbali iyi yolumikizana ndi kulumikizana ikhoza kukhala yovuta. Koma, ngati mungaphunzire kumvetsera popanda zosokoneza zidzakuthandizani paubwenzi wanu.
Zingakhale zovuta kuti musasokoneze malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu mukamakangana. Koma musatero. Kaya wokondedwa wanu akulankhula za tsiku lawo lopanikizika kuntchito, china chake choseketsa chomwe amawerenga, kapena simukugwirizana, kumvetsera ndikofunikira pakuthandizira kulumikizana ndi mnzanu. Zimathandizanso nonse kupewa kupewa kusamvana.
Phunzirani kuyeseza kumvetsera kwa mnzanu. Lumikizanani m'maso pamene wokondedwa wanu akufotokoza nkhani ndipo mugwiritse ntchito bwino njira zopanda mawu, monga kugwedeza mutu ndikumwetulira. Izi zipangitsa kuti mnzanu akhale womveka komanso awadziwitse kuti mukumvetsera ndikuchita nawo popanda kuwadula. Gwiritsani ntchito mafunso otsatirawa kuti muwonetse chidwi chanu ndi ulemu wanu.
Omvera oleza mtima amatha kuthana ndi kusamvana ndi mikangano muubwenzi. Ngati mukuda nkhawa zakomwe mungakulitsire kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana ndi mnzanu, mutha kuyamba kukhala omvera odekha.
4. Lembani chikondi chanu
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti mukayang'ana m'maso mwa mnzanu ndikunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" ubongo umalimbikitsidwa kutulutsa timadzi tomwe timakhala tomwe timapanga timadzi tomwe timapanga timadzi tomwe timagwirizana. Hormone iyi imakupangitsani kuti mumkhulupirira mnzanu komanso kukulitsa chisangalalo.
Okwatirana ambiri mwachisoni amakhala ndi chizolowezi chonena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kwa okwatirana kapena amangogwiritsa ntchito ngati njira yocheza kuti athetse kukambirana pafoni. Bwerezaninso mchitidwe wowuza wokondedwa wanu momwe mumawakondera komanso chifukwa chake mumawakonda. Kulankhula za chikondi chanu tsiku ndi tsiku, ndikutanthauza, kumalimbikitsa kudzidalira kwa anzanu ndikulimbitsa ubale wanu pamapeto pake.
5. Muzipeza nthawi yocheza tsiku lililonse
Nonse mumakhala otanganidwa, koma sichoncho chifukwa choyika ubale wanu pansi pazomwe mukufuna. Tengani nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse. Khalani ndi mphindi zosachepera 30 tsiku lililonse komwe mumagawana zomwe zikuchitika pamoyo wanu. Nthawi yochuluka yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito limodzi ubwenzi wanu umalimba. Maanja ambiri amachita izi akamwe khofi m'mawa m'mawa chisanayambike, kapena kupanga usiku umodzi ndi botolo la vinyo. Ngakhale mutasankha kulumikizana tsiku lonse, onetsetsani kuti nonse mukuyesetsa ndi mtima wonse.
6. Kugonana pafupipafupi
Mukamaganizira momwe mungakulitsire kulumikizana ndi mnzanu, zochitika zanu zogona zikhala ndi gawo lalikulu. Kugonana ndichinthu china muubwenzi chomwe chimakweza kuchuluka kwa oxytocin. Hormone iyi ndiyopadera ndipo imawongolera mwachindunji kulumikizana ndi kumverera kolumikizana ndi mnzanu. Monga tafotokozera kale, kulumikizana kwanu ndi mnzanu ndikamacheza kwambiri. Kambiranani za moyo wanu wogonana. Ndi kangati pa sabata kapena pamwezi ndikukhutiritsa onse awiri? Mukusowa chiyani kuchokera kwa mnzanu kuti mufike pachimake? Awa ndi mafunso ofunikira omwe amalimbitsa mgwirizano wanu ndikupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi thanzi labwino, ndikukhutiritsa.
7. Onetsani kuyamikirana wina ndi mnzake
Ngati mnzanu akusangalatsani, auzeni. Kusonyeza kuyamikira zinthu zomwe mnzanu amachita kumawapangitsa kudzimva kukhala ofunika ndikuzindikiridwa ndi inu. Ngati simuli pamiyambo yonena za chikondi, mutha kuwonetsa kuyamikira kwanu m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kukumbatirana mokondwera ndi kumenyera patsaya kumagwiranso ntchito zodabwitsa podziwitsa wokondedwa wanu kuti ndiwofunika kwa inu. Muthanso kuchitira mnzanu zinthu zothandiza monga kugwira ntchito zawo zapakhomo, kuphika chakudya chomwe amakonda, kapena kuchita china chaching'ono monga kubanki. Zazikulu kapena zazing'ono, chilichonse chomwe mungachite chomwe chimapangitsa tsiku lawo kukhala losavuta ndichizindikiro chosangalatsa
Kutumiza zolemba zolimbikitsa tsiku lonse ndi njira ina yaying'ono yolimbikitsira kudzidalira kwa mnzanu. Ngati mumanyadira nawo, osazisunga. Wokondedwa wanu amakonda kumva izi. Kupatula apo, ndani sakonda kuyamikiridwa?