Zamkati
- Chowonadi chenicheni
- Kuchira pamakhalidwe oyipa.
- Momwe mungakhalire olunjika pamutu pakabuka mikangano.
Chowonadi chenicheni
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani banja likamaululidwa mwadzidzidzi? Sizimene mumayembekezera, osati zomwe mudasainira, osati zomwe mudalota kuyambira muli mwana, ndipo mnzanuyo amakukhumudwitsani chifukwa sakwaniritsa mndandanda wazomwe mukuyembekezera komanso zomwe mudapanga "UMODZI". Pakadali pano, kukangana kumayamba ... Mukufuna kuti mnzanuyo akusangalatseni, agwirizane ndi malingaliro anu ndikuyembekezera momwe banja lanu liyenera kukhalira, ndipo mumayiwala kuti nawonso ali ndi malingaliro awo ndi ziyembekezo zawo. Ndani anakusangalatsani musanalowe m'banja? Palibe munthu padziko lapansi amene angathe kukupatsirani chisangalalo chilichonse. Ndinu kiyi wachimwemwe chanu. Tsiku lomwe ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinayamba kupereka nsembe banja lomwe linali losangalala lokhala ndi chikondi, ulemu, kumvetsetsa, kuvomereza, kunyengerera, kucheza, ndi kukoma mtima linali tsiku, tidazindikira kuti banja lathu lidawononga. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa tidaloleza ma egos athu osalimba kuthana ndi kusiyana kwathu ndipo zidadzetsa kusagwiranso ntchito, kulimbananso mphamvu, komanso mpikisano wopambana mikangano yambiri.
Kuchira pamakhalidwe oyipa.
Ngakhale tidakhazikitsa njira zambiri mogwirizana ndikugwirizana pamalingaliro, ndidaganiza zogawana atatu mwa omwe ali m'nkhaniyi.
- Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani ndipo thandizirani chisangalalo chanu komanso moyo wanu. Pokhapokha tidziwa ndikumvetsetsa zenizeni zathu, umunthu wathu, momwe timamvera, zochita zathu, ndi zina zambiri, timatha kumvetsetsa anzathu. Ukwati si kufanana kwamasamu.
- Magawo awiri sangafanane kwathunthu, ndichopatsa chidwi kwambiri komanso chodabwitsa pakuchulukaku. Osakhudzidwa, ndi anthu awiri okha okwanira mofanana ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwenikweni komwe mumafunafuna moyo wanu wonse.
- Pangani chisankho kuti musinthe zomwe mukufuna, koma zomwe mnzanu ndi banja lanu amafunikira (zindikirani: sindinalembe "zofuna").
- Gwirani mnzanu akuchita zinazake moyenera, ndipo fotokozani kuyamikira kwanu pazoyeserera zawo. Phunzirani kuyamikira zinthu zazing'ono zomwe nthawi zambiri sizimadziwika.
Onaninso: Kodi Kusamvana Ndi Chiyani?
Momwe mungakhalire olunjika pamutu pakabuka mikangano.
- Phunzirani ndikumvetsetsa zomwe thupi lanu limachita mukakwiya. Magazi ofundawa akamapita m'mutu mwanu, kutembenuzira zonse zomwe zikupita kumtunda kukhala zofiira zosiyanasiyana, kwinaku mukukumana ndi zovuta zakuphulika kosalamulirika, uzani mnzanu kuti mukufuna kukhala panokha, ndipo mukambirana nkhaniyo kenaka pambuyo pake ("pambuyo pake" amatanthauza, mkati mwa maola 24 otsatira). Mukamakangana ndi mnzanu mukadali pamwambapa, kumbukirani kuti ubongo wanu ukugwira ntchito pomenyera ndi kuwuluka m ndege kuti mutsimikizire kupulumuka kwachinyengo. Kutha kwaubongo wanu kugwiritsa ntchito njira zopangira, zachifundo, zopanga nzeru, zachikondi komanso zaulemu, sizigwira ntchito panthawi yopulumuka. Ubongo wanu sungagwire ntchito zonse ziwiri!
- Siyani kufuula, kutukwana, kutchulana maina, kunyalanyaza, kunyodola, ndi kupsa mtima ngati "mndandanda wazomwe muyenera kuchita" pakukula kwa luntha la malingaliro amwana wanu.
- Mverani kuti mumvetse. Lekani kukonza zokangana zanu pamene mnzanu akulankhula nanu. Mukapanda kumvetsetsa bwino, tanthauzirani mwaulemu ndikulankhula mawu awo m'mawu anuanu, ndi mnzanu ngati kutanthauzira kwanu kunali kolondola.
- Muzikumbukira mmene thupi lanu lilili komanso nkhope yanu. Wokondedwa wanu amawona zolinga zanu zobisika kudzera pazomwe amalandira kuchokera mchilankhulo chanu chosanenedwa. Nthawi zonse sungani zolinga ndi zolinga, zoyera, zomangirira komanso zopindulitsa.
- Nthawi zonse khalani owona mtima komanso osamala pofotokoza malingaliro anu. Chititsani kukambiranako mwachikondi ndi mwaulemu.
- Nthawi zambiri ndimawona izi ndi akazi ndipo chonde dziwani kuti sindikupanga zambiri. Pakukangana, azimayi amakonda kumva kufunika kofotokozera mwatsatanetsatane mkangano wawo wonse, kupitiliza kuwonjezera zitsanzo ndi momwe akumvera, kenako pomwe ali pamenepo, amalumikiza zochitika zina, akumva kuti zitha kukhala zogwirizana ndi zomwe akukangana, zonse mwakamodzi. Oo, ngakhale kuyesa kuyika zonsezi mu sentensi imodzi ndizosokoneza. Amuna amayang'ana kwambiri njira zothetsera mavuto ndipo amakhala omasuka kutanthauzira mwambi, kuthana ndi vuto limodzi, limodzi ndi malingaliro ake, panthawi. Amuna amakonda kusanja ndikulumikiza zidziwitso, zomwe zingawoneke ngati zofananira ndi kumvetsetsa kwawo, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kusamvana. Amuna, tsogolerani ndikuwongolera mwachikondi amayi anu kuti athetse vuto lawo, kukhala magawo omveka bwino komanso omveka. Amayi, thokozani okondedwa anu akamachita izi, sakukusokonezani komanso samakupatsani ulemu. Akuyesera kuti akumvetsetseni komanso kutsutsana kwanu.
- Dziwani kuti mnzanu sagawana zenizeni, chifukwa ubongo wamunthu umatanthauzira zokumana nazo kudzera munjira yolumikizira kutanthauzira ndikuwona zokumana nazo zatsopano, pogwiritsa ntchito mawonekedwe anu apadera. Ubongo wathu, chifukwa chake, ndiwokondera mozindikira ndipo chifukwa cha zifukwa zambiri, malingaliro anu, ziyembekezo zanu, ndi malingaliro anu mwina sangakhale olondola nthawi zonse monga momwe mumaganizira. Dziwani zowona zenizeni zenizeni zanu, pofufuza malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake. Mudzadabwitsidwa ndi zotsatira zake ndikuseketsa motere.Ndikukuyesani kuti muzindikire, ndikuchita dala izi. Musatenge mawu anga pa izo; mutha kudzionera nokha. O, musaiwale kugawana zomwe mwazipeza, poyankhapo pankhaniyi.