Othandizira maukwati ndi mabanja samaponyera malingaliro mabanja omwe akuvutika "mosasamala." M'malo mwake, akatswiri aluso komanso osamalawa amabweretsa maluso komanso luso lapadera pameza awo poyesera kuthandiza mabanja kuthana ndi nyengo zovuta kwambiri m'miyoyo yawo.
Ngati mungafike pamiyoyo yanu yaukwati yomwe imafuna kuti mlangizi athandizidwe modzidzimutsa komanso kwa nthawi yayitali, fufuzani omwe akukupatsani chidziwitso chokwanira.
Zitha kukhala choncho ndizovuta kupeza mlangizi wabwino waukwati ndi mabanja, koma mutha kutero funsani achibale anu, anzanu, kapena dokotala wanu chisankho chabwino. Komabe, kufunsa kutumizidwa mwina sikungakhale koyenera kwa munthu yemwe sali womasuka kufotokozera zakukhosi kwake pamaso pa ena.
Muzochitika zotere mungathe nthawi zonse yesani mwayi wanu ndikusaka intaneti kuti mupeze mlangizi wabwino wa maukwati.
Kufufuza mawebusayiti odziwika omwe ali ndi akalozera alangizi, monga American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) kapena National Registry of Marriage-Friendly Therapists ndizofunikira kusankha.
Chitsimikizo cha chithandizo chabwino cha mabanja ndi mabanja chimadalira kwambiri momwe wophunzitsirayo alili wophunzitsira bwino. Aphungu aukwati ophunzitsidwa bwino komanso osadziwa zambiri atha kuvulaza koposa zabwino.
Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kupeza wothandizira okwatirana ndi mabanja omwe ali ndi maphunziro oyenera komanso zokuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja.
Nazi zinthu zingapo zofunika kuziganizira momwe mungapezere mlangizi woyenera maukwati? kapena momwe mungapezere othandizira mabanja?
Zolemba za Katswiri
Kuti muchite zothandizira mabanja ndi mabanja, othandizira amafunika kupeza layisensi, zomwe zimatha kusiyanasiyana kudera lina. Wothandizira kuchitira ukwati akhoza kukhala:
- wovomerezeka wazokwatirana komanso wothandizira mabanja (LMFT),
- mlangizi wovomerezeka wa zamisala (LMHC),
- wogwira ntchito yothandizira odwala (LCSW), kapena
- katswiri wamaganizidwe
Ogwira ntchito zamankhwala am'mabanja amachokera m'mabuku osiyanasiyana koma amakhalanso ndi mabanja omwe ali ndi ziphaso zovomerezeka kuti athe kuthandiza mabanja.
Ku United States, Akwati ndi Mabanja Therapists amakhala ndi digiri ya master. Nthawi zambiri, a Masters mu Art kapena a Masters mu Sayansi mu upangiri wamankhwala, psychology, kapena ukwati ndi chithandizo chabanja ndizoyenera kukhala wovomerezeka kwa wothandizirana naye m'banja.
Atamaliza maphunziro awo, omwe akufuna kuti MFTs azigwira ntchito yoyang'aniridwa ndi akatswiri omwe ali ndi zilolezo ndipo amatha kuwunikiridwa ndi anzawo.
Nthawi zambiri, ngakhale ma MFTs odziwika bwino kwambiri sangathe kuyika khoma pakhoma ndikuyamba chithandizo chamankhwala mpaka atavutika ndi kuphunzira ndi anzawo.
Zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana kwa othandizira
- Ngakhale madigiri otsogola ndi gawo lofunikira pantchito yopambana monga okwatirana komanso othandizira mabanja, ogula ambiri ayenera kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kupeza chithandizo cha munthu wodziwa zambiri kumunda.
Popeza kutambalala ndi kuzama kwa nkhani zabanja ndizosatheka kuposa momwe tingaganizire, mabanja ayenera nthawi zonse funani katswiri wodziwa zambiri pazinthu zingapo monga kuzunza, kusuta, kusakhulupirika, kulowerera machitidwe ndi zina zotero. Zimakhala zabwino nthawi zonse kuyang'ana kwa dokotala yemwe ali ndi banja lake.
- Chifukwa chiyani mungafune kupitilizabe ntchito za munthu yemwe samvetsetsa mavuto omwe banja lanu limakumana nawo? Ngati sing'anga alibe chidziwitso pakulera banja kapena kukhala pachibwenzi, ndimaopa kuti kuthandizira kwake kumakhala kochepa.
- Wothandizira anu akuyenera kuyang'ana kukuthandizani kuthana ndi banja lanu m'malo mothetsa banja lanu.
- Kumverera ulemu kuchokera kwa wazachipatala ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muzimasuka nawo. Inu kapena mnzanu muyenera kukhala omasuka kuti mupereke malingaliro mukamakambirana ndipo wothandizira ayenera kulemekeza malingaliro anu.
- Wothandizira wanu sayenera kukhala wokondera kwa inu kapena mnzanu. Zomwe mudasankhira chithandizo chokwatirana ndi mabanja ndikuti mupeze malingaliro opanda tsankho kuchokera kwa akatswiri.
Wothandizira okwatirana komanso mabanja atha kukhala okondera chifukwa cha malingaliro awo komanso zomwe amayang'ana pachibwenzi. Ngati mukumva machitidwe okhwima ochokera kwa othandizira, ndiye kuti sangakhale chisankho choyenera kwa inu.
Kukhazikitsa zolinga ndikuti musataye kwa iwo ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mupeze yankho kudzera kuchipatala. Komanso, yesetsani kuganizira zamtsogolo osati zakale, kupita patsogolo kwanu m'mankhwala kuyenera kulunjika mtsogolo osati zolakwa zam'mbuyomu.
Mukamagwira ntchito ndi ukwati wololeza komanso wothandizila pabanja, mogwirizana kuchita zolinga zokhazikitsidwa, ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi khama lanu pantchito, mudzawona zotsatira ndipo banja lanu liyamba kuyenda bwino.