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Chimodzi mwamaubwino osangalatsa kwambiri amnzanu komanso maubale achikondi ndikupanga kulumikizana kwakanthawi ndi mnzanu kapena abwenzi.
Tikawona kulumikizana kwathu ndi iwo omwe timawakonda, timamva chisangalalo chonse chokhala munthu wofunika yemwe ali ndi malo ofunika padziko lapansi.
Kudzimva kotereku ndikofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wathu. Zimatikumbutsa kuti miyoyo yathu ili ndi tanthauzo; chimatiteteza ku kusungulumwa ndipo chimatsimikizira kwa ife kuti tonse ndife gawo la banja la anthu.
Kulumikizana mwamalingaliro ndi mnzanu ndi gawo lofunikira pakukondana, ndipo zomwe zimachitika mwachilengedwe mukamacheza ndi mnzanu kuwazindikira komanso momwe amawonera dziko lowazungulira.
Mukamagawana malingaliro anu, mumalumikiza kulumikizana kumeneku, komwe ndi imodzi mwamphamvu kwambiri yomwe imapangitsa kuti chikondi chanu chikhale cholimba ndikuchiteteza kuti chisachoke ngakhale munthawi ya kusagwirizana komanso nthawi zina zosakhala zosangalatsa zomwe zimachitika maukwati onse.
Koma bwanji ngati mukuvutika kulumikizana ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu?
Mukudziwa kuti mumakondana, ndipo mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti chikondi ichi chikhalebe cholimba. Mukudziwa kuti kulumikizana kwamaukwati ndi maubale ndikofunikira monga thupi.
Chifukwa chake, mungalumikizane bwanji ndi mnzanu kapena makamaka momwe mungalumikizire mwamalingaliro ndi mnzanu?
Kodi ndi njira ziti zomwe mungatsimikizire kuti mukuyesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mubzale, kudyetsa komanso kukonda kulumikizana kwanu ndi mnzanuyo kuti iziphuka ndikukhazikika kuti zikuthandizireni pamavuto omwe angachitike nthawi yanu moyo pamodzi?
Onaninso:
Kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu momwe mungathere kapena momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu mwamaganizidwe, nazi njira zina zolumikizirana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
Mgwirizano m'njira yathanzi kwambiri
Kulumikizana motengeka ndi mnzanu kumayamba ndi chomangira, ndipo chomangira chimenecho chimayenera kumangidwa moyenera. Nazi zina mwa zinthu zomwe zimapanga kulumikizana kwabwino:
1. Khalani achifundo
Mukudabwa, momwe mungalumikizane ndi mnzanu mwamalingaliro? Yambani pakuphunzira ndikuyesetsa kumvera ena chisoni.
Chisoni ndikudziyika wekha munthawi ya ena, kuwona zinthu momwe iwo amazionera.
Mukamamumvera chisoni mnzanuyo, mumacheza nawo chifukwa zimawona kuti mumawadziwa bwino, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito "maso ndi mtima" wawo kuti ayang'ane zinthu momwe angafunire.
Okwatirana omwe ali ndi malingaliro amakondana samangomvera chisoni maanja okha koma ndi anthu onse omwe amayenda tsiku lililonse: makolo, ana, abwenzi, anzawo, ogwira ntchito ku Starbucks ... aliyense!
2. Mvetserani mwachidwi
Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumakugwirizanitsani ndi mnzanu momwe zimawawonetsera kuti mukuchita nawo zokambirana. Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumatsimikizira momwe mnzake akumvera.
Kuti mumvetsere mwachidwi, lolani mnzanu kuti alankhule. Kenako bwerezani zomwe mwamvazo, pogwiritsa ntchito mawu anuanu. Zokambirana pazantchito zapakhomo zitha kuwoneka motere:
Iye anati: “Ndatopa kwambiri chifukwa chokhala ine ndekha amene ndikuoneka kuti ndikudera nkhawa za kukhitchini.”
Iye anati: "Zikumveka ngati simukupeza chithandizo chomwe mukufunikira kuti mupite kukhitchini."
Iye anati: “Inde. Sindingathe kuchita zonsezi ndekha. ”
Iye "Ndiuzeni momwe ndingakuthandizireni. Kodi mungakonde kuti tigawane ntchito yotchingira khitchini? ”
Kusamvetsera mwachidwi kungakhale kugwiritsa ntchito mayankho achidule monga oh, chabwino, zilizonse, ozizira, u-nhu.
Awa ndi mawu ongodzaza chabe ndipo sizikusonyeza kuti mukutengapo gawo pazokambirana mosamala. (Mutha kukhala ozolowera kumva mayankho achidule awa mukamayankhula ndi wachinyamata!)
3. Pangani mgwirizano limodzi
Ngakhale m'modzi wa inu ali wopezera banja ndalama, Kusankha momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito ndalamazi kuyenera kukhala lingaliro limodzi.
Kaya mukupanga chisankho chodzudzula banja kuti mupeze ntchito yabwinoko kapena kukonzanso nyumba yanu, kuti mulumikizane ndi wokondedwa wanu mverani malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake pazisankho zazikuluzikuluzi ngakhale atakhala kuti m'modzi m'banjamo akuwalembera.
4. Mphamvu ndiyofanana mbanja
Okwatirana omwe ali ndi malingaliro ali ndi mphamvu zolingana, ndipo amawonana ngati ofanana. Liwu lirilonse limakhala ndi kulemera kofanana mnyumba.
Zopinga kulumikizana kwamalingaliro
Pali njira zina zolumikizirana ndi ena zomwe zikuyima panjira yolumikizana ndi wokondedwa wanu, koma zonsezi zitha kulimbikitsidwa ndikudzipereka, mwina ndi munthu wakunja monga wothandizira. Izi zikuphatikiza:
- M'modzi mwa anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi akhoza kukhala womasuka kugwiritsa ntchito njira monga "kumvetsera mwachidwi" komanso "kumvera ena chisoni."
- M'modzi mwa anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi sangakonde kuwunika kwambiri pafupi
- M'modzi mwa anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi angaganize kuti kupatula nthawi yolimbitsa kulumikizana kumafunikira mphamvu zambiri
- Mtundu wa umunthu wa munthu ndi "kulowa ndi kumaliza ntchitoyo" ndipo amakwiya chifukwa cholumikizana ndimaganizo sikofulumira komanso kosavuta
- Maudindo ena apangika mwa banjali, chifukwa cha m'modzi kukhala "wokonda kutengeka", ndipo m'modzi kukhala "wachisito, wosamva." Kusintha maudindo ndi ntchito yovuta ndipo kumafunikira kusintha kwa zomwe banjali likuchita.
Zikatero, Ndikofunika kuti banjali ligwirire ntchito limodzi kuthana ndi zopinga izi. Ngati satero, ubale ukhoza kugwira ntchito, koma popanda kuya komanso kukhutira komwe kulumikizana kumakupatsani.
Chiyanjano chomwe chilibe kulumikizana chimakhala ngati mgwirizano, ndipo sizomwe anthu ambiri amafuna akayamba kukondana.
Mukakhala ndi luso lolumikizana ndi mnzanu, mupeza kuti kuthekera kwanu kulumikizana ndi ena okuzungulirani kumakhala kosavuta, kwachilengedwe, komanso kosangalatsa kwambiri.
Chotsatira chimodzi chotsika ndichakuti mudzakhala omvera; Kumverera uku kophatikizana komwe kumakulimbikitsani ndikukukumbutsani kuti simuli nokha mukamayenda padziko lapansi.
Ndipo ichi ndiye cholinga chenicheni chaukwati: kulumikizana ndi anthu awiri pathupi ndi m'maganizo kuti athe kupatsana mwayi wokhala ndikumverera kuti ali kwawo.