"Chisamaliro ndi mtundu wowolowa manja wocheperako komanso wangwiro" ~ Simone Weil
Tonsefe timakhala ndi nthawi yolumikizana. Miniti imodzi mumadzimva ngati munthu wofunikira kwambiri padziko lapansi, kenako mphindi yotsatira mumakhala osawoneka. Nthawi zambiri tikamadziona kuti sitikuwoneka, timadziona kuti ndife osafunika. China chake chatenga malo athu. China chake chasokoneza wokondedwa wathu kuchokera kwa ife ndipo sitikuwakumananso ndi momwe timachitira kale. Izi zitha kuyambitsa vuto lalikulu pakati paubwenzi. Ndikofunika kudzifunsa momwe mungathandizire pa izi ndikuwona zomwe zingakupezereni kapena zomwe sizingachitike kwa inu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ndizowopsa komanso zosasunthika kwambiri kuchoka pamalo amodzi kupita kwina, koma mwanjira inayake mumakwera mafunde mukuyembekeza kuti tsiku lina madziwo akhazikika kwakanthawi kuti mufike kunyanja.
Nthawi zina, timayenera kupanga chisankho chosiya, zomwe zitha kukhala zovuta panthawiyo, koma zimatitsegulira moyo wosangalala kwambiri, ngati tingalole. Komabe, musanafike pamalo oyendetsa bwato mwankhanza kubwerera kumtunda, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mutha kulowa mozama kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukuchita gawo lanu kuti mukhale yolumikizana bwino. Izi zikunenedwa, ngati simukuzichita, ndipo mulibe chikhumbo, mwina izi ndizokwanira kwa inu zomwe mwina simuli pachibwenzi komanso mwachikondi ndipo mungafune kugwira ntchito yambiri ndikulola kupita patsogolo.
Ngati muli ndi kulumikizana kwenikweni ndi wokondedwa wanu, koma mukumva kuti mwina mukumutaya kapena mukukumana ndi zovuta zina, onani mfundo zotsatirazi kuti muwone komwe kukula ndi chitukuko chingatheke.
1. Kudziwitsa - Onani njira zomwe mnzanu akuyesera kulumikizana nanu ndikuzizindikira. Adziwitseni kuti mukudziwa njira zomwe akuyesera kulumikizana. Izi zipita kutali.
2. Zing'onozing'ono zokoma mtima - Kupatsa kumatha kubweretsa chimwemwe chambiri m'moyo wa munthu wina. Kukhala wowolowa manja ndi mnzanu kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa zomwe zimawasangalatsa. Izi siziyenera kubwera ndi mtengo wokwera, koma kungoti china chodziwitsa mnzanuyo kuti mumaganizira za iwo. Kupatsa ndi chilimbikitso chachilengedwe ndipo chimabweretsa zambiri zakumverera ndi kuyanjana muubwenzi.
3. Limbikitsani chitetezo muubwenzi wanu - Nthawi zina, timatha kuyang'ana kwambiri mkati tikakhala pachibwenzi. “Ndikumva bwanji”, “Ndikupeza chiyani kuchokera pamenepa”, “Chimodzi mwa zosowa zanga sichikukwaniritsidwa”, ndi zina. Kulephera kuwona zinthu monga momwe anzanu akuwonera kumatha kubweretsa zovuta pamaubwenzi ambiri, monga; kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana kapena kusamvera ena chisoni komanso kumvetsetsa. M'malo mongoyang'ana pa ife tokha, tiyenera kuyesa kuganizira njira zomwe tingakonde nazo kunja. Pangani wokondedwa wanu kukhala woyamba, osati chosankha.
4. Funsani, musaganize - Kupanga malingaliro kungatilowetse m'mavuto ambiri. M'malo mongoganiza pazomwe zikuchitika, phunzirani kufunsa mafunso. Kungoganiza kuti mukudziwa zomwe mnzanu akuganiza kapena kumverera kumatha kukhala gawo lowopsa ndikukuyikani pachiwopsezo chopeza mwayi, gulu ndi / kapena kusagwirizana.
5. Kulandila - Kudziwa ndikofunikira, komanso ndikulandila kulumikizana. Kudziwa koma osalandira ndikopanda phindu komanso kowopsa. Zingathenso kuyambitsa kusweka kwa ubale pakapita nthawi.
6. Kuyamikira - Kuyamika ndikofunikira pamene tikufuna kulimbikitsa zoyesayesa za wina kuti ayandikire ndikulimbikitsa kulumikizana nafe. Izi ndizokhudza kuzindikira zazing'ono zomwe mnzanu angakuchitireni ndikuwapatsa chilimbikitso chotsimikizika.
7. Khalani otengapo gawo ndi otomerana - Ngati tasokonezedwa kapena sitinapezeke, timakankhira kwina kulikonse komwe mnzathu angakhale akupanga. Ngakhale zitha kumangokhala ngati mukukankhira mnzanu kutali pakadali pano, mukulepheretsanso kulumikizana mtsogolo. Funsani kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chomwe wokondedwa wanu kulibe ndikugawana momwe izi zingakukhudzireni.
8. Khalani pachiwopsezo ndipo musatengeke - Ichi ndiye chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri kuchita, makamaka ndi munthu amene mumamukondadi chifukwa pali chiopsezo chachikulu pano. Kukhala ofunitsitsa kumva malingaliro athu ndikukhala osatekeseka mwa iwo pamaso pa wina akhoza kukhala chimodzi mwazolumikizana kwambiri ndikulimbitsa chikhulupiriro (polandiridwa mwanjira yoyenera). Ngakhale zingakhale zachibadwa kufuna kuyika zotchinga zathu tikakhala pachiwopsezo, tikamayesetsa kukhala olimba mtima, timalolera kukhala otseguka ndipo tikakhala otseguka timatha kumva ndikumva chikondi ndi kulumikizana. Ngati m'malo mwake, mudziteteze nokha ndikupereka mantha anu, pamapeto pake mudzakhala osungulumwa komanso osalumikizidwa. Kukhala osatetezeka kumatipatsa mwayi wokumana ndi chikondi komanso chimwemwe chakuya.
9. Kubwererana - M'malo modikirira nthawi kapena nthawi yabwino yoti munene kapena kuchitira mnzanu kanthu, zichiteni pamene mukuzimva.Nthawi zina timadikirira kuti wina achite kapena anene kaye tisanachite kapena kunena zina. Kodi mungatani ngati mutangochita zomwe mukumva ngati munthawiyo? Kupatsa chidwi cha mnzanu kumathandizanso kukulitsa chibwenzicho - izi siziyenera kusungidwa kwakanthawi kokwanira.
10. Ntchito yamkati - Izi zimaphatikizapo kugwira ntchito molimbika. Nthawi zina timangokhalira kufunafuna njira zothetsera okondedwa athu kapena kuwapanga kukhala oyenera kwa omwe ife tiri ndi zomwe tingafune, pomwe m'malo mwake tiyenera kuyang'ana mkati ndikuphunzira momwe tingalekanitsire zomwe zili "zinthu zathu" ndi magwiridwe athu amkati .
M'malo mongoyang'ana zomwe sizikugwirizana m'banja lanu, phunzirani kuyang'ana zinthu zabwino. Maubwenzi ambiri amatha chifukwa anthu amayamba kuganizira kwambiri zoyipa komanso zotsutsana ndi zabwino. Phunzirani kuyang'anitsitsa momwe mukuyankhira, momwe mumamvera, komanso momwe mumakhalira muubwenzi ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe izi zikunena za inu, motsutsana ndi zomwe zingakhale zolakwika m'banjamo.
Ndizowona kuti siubwenzi wonse womwe ungakonzedwe, komanso sayenera kutero nthawi zina. Komabe, pali ena omwe akuyenera kulowa pansi ndikuyenera kuwopsa. Pochita izi sikuti mumangolimbikitsa ubale wabwino komanso watanthauzo, koma mumakula ndikukula monga munthu.