Zamkati
- Kodi kutayika kumawoneka bwanji?
- Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani timatayika tokha mu ubale?
- Momwe mungadzipezere nokha
Pali china chake chodzitaya mu chibwenzi chomwe sichimveka ngati momwe zimamvekera. Openda kumanzere komanso ochita masewera olakwika anganene kuti: “Kodi ungadzitaye bwanji? Wabwera pomwepo. ”
Ngati mudachitapo kale izi, mukudziwa.
Zingatenge kanthawi musanazindikire. Itha kukumenyani kumaso modzidzimutsa ngati njerwa imodzi. Kapenanso imatha kukuvutitsani tsiku lililonse, kukunong'onezani khutu "ichi sichomwe inu muli kwenikweni".
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kudzitayitsa nokha muubwenzi ndi njira yoopsa yomwe ingangobweretsa kukhalako opanda mphamvu, osakwaniritsidwa, komanso kukumana ndi moyo.
Wopanda mphamvu komanso wosakwaniritsa.
Kodi kutayika kumawoneka bwanji?
Ngakhale zili zowona kuti kutayika pachibwenzi sikutanthauza kuti mumangokhala mzimu kapena kusiya thupi lanu, zikutanthauza kuti mumataya kulumikizana kwanu ndi umunthu wanu wamkati - makamaka zofuna, zosowa, ndi zosowa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala munthu wapadera.
Nazi zina mwa zizindikiro zosatsimikizika kuti mwataya kulumikizana kwanu kwamkati mwaubwenzi wanu:
- Nthawi zambiri mumachita, kuganiza, ndi kulumikizana m'njira zomwe mumamva kuti wokondedwa wanu angavomereze ndikukhumba m'malo mokhala weniweni, wodalirika.
- Nthawi zonse mumanyalanyaza zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu muubwenzi.
- Mukuwona kuti ubalewo "ukugwetsani pansi".
- Nthawi zambiri mumayang'ana kwa mnzanu kuti akubweretsereni chimwemwe m'malo moyang'ana kuti mukhale okhutira.
- Mumasiya chidwi ndi zokonda zanu, zolinga zanu, ndi maloto anu ndipo mumayang'anitsitsa zokonda za mnzanu m'malo mwake.
- Simumasuka kukhala nokha ndipo mumakonda kucheza ndi mnzanu, ngakhale zitakhala kuti nthawi zonse mumachita zinthu zomwe sizikukukhudzani.
Nanga ndichifukwa chiyani timatayika tokha mu ubale?
Kuwerenga mndandanda womwe uli pamwambapa kumamveka koopsa ndikufunsa funso kuti: Kodi izi zimachitika bwanji? Chifukwa chiyani mumatayika mu chibwenzi?
Yankho ndi Attachment.
Munayamba kukondana ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mumawakonda chifukwa chonamizira kuti akhoza kudzaza china chilichonse chopanda kanthu mwa inu.
Ziphunzitso zambiri Zauzimu zimanena kuti kumverera kopanda kanthu kumeneku kumayamba pakubadwa. Mumamva kukhala wathunthu komanso wathunthu m'mimba mwa Amayi anu, koma mutabwera mdziko lapansi mumayenera kusiyanitsa ndikumva bwino (komwe kumadziwika kuti 'Umodzi') kuti mudzakhale moyo wanu wonse mukufufuzanso zaumoyo wonse.
Chifukwa chake gawo losangalatsa kwambiri lolumikizidwa ndi mnzanu ndichowona kuti kulakalaka kulibe za iwo. Ndi za inu.
Ndi inu amene mukufuna zomwe zimamveka bwino ndikuthamangitsa kumverera kumeneko.
Mwina mnzanu adakupangitsani kumva bwino pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chanu. Munamva kuti mukufunidwa, mukufuna, mumakondedwa, komanso mulibwino. Ndiye, monga omwerekera ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe ayamba kuba kuti athandizire chizolowezi chawo, munapitilizabe kuthamangitsa chidwi chodabwitsacho ngakhale sichinapezekenso. Mumapitilizabe kuthamangira mnzanuyo poganiza kuti angakubwezeretsaninso kumverera kwabwino pomwe kwenikweni mumangothamangira kutali ndi inu nokha.
Mwinanso mutha kukhala ndi chizolowezi chochita zinthu zomwe mukuganiza kuti ena akufuna kuti muchite kuchokera paubwenzi wanu ndi makolo anu (kapena omwe amakusamalirani) mudakali ana.
Mwina mudakali aang'ono kwambiri mudaganiza zopanga chilichonse kuti musangalatse makolo anu - kuphatikiza kuzindikira kuti ndi mtundu uti wa omwe mumawakonda ndikukondani kwambiri. Munaphunzira kusewera nawo omwe ali pafupi kwambiri nanu kuti mupambane chikondi chawo m'malo mongokhala nokha, ndipo izi zidabwerezedwanso m'mabwenzi anu.
Kulongosola kwina ndikomwe timatcha kuti m'munda wama psychology "Chopanda Chitetezo". Izi zikutanthauza kuti amene amakusamalirani sanakwaniritse zofuna zanu zapadera komanso zosowa zanu zakuthupi mukakhala khanda.
Mwinanso mudadyetsedwa malinga ndi ndandanda (kapena mwina ndandanda ya "akatswiri") m'malo mongokhala ndi njala. Kapenanso mumakakamizidwa kugona 7 koloko usiku uliwonse, mosasamala kanthu kuti mwatopa kapena ayi.
Mwina simunasankhe zovala zomwe mumavala tsiku ndi tsiku. Kuchokera pa zochitika zoterezi, mudaphunzira kuthana ndi zosowa zanu mwachilengedwe kwa omwe amakusamalirani komanso okondedwa anu.
Mwachidziwikire simunapatsidwe mpata wofotokozera zosowa zanu. Zotsatira zake, mudazipereka kwa makolo anu mosachita kufuna, mumachita mantha kuti mudzakhale (kapena kudzisamalira), kenako "kuyambiranso" kapena kubwereza izi munthawi yaubwenzi pambuyo pake.
Momwe mungadzipezere nokha
Tsopano popeza mumvetsetsa zambiri pazifukwa zomwe mudatayika muubwenzi wanu, zimakupatsani funso loti: Kodi mungalumikizane bwanji ndi zosowa zathu zamkati kuti mudzipezenso?
Mumayeserera.
Yesetsani kulumikizana nanu nokha ndikulumikiza zosowa zanu tsiku lililonse.
Nawa maupangiri ndi zida zokuthandizani kuti mudzipezenso:
- Dzifunseni tsiku lililonse, "Ndikufuna chiyani lero?"
Dziyang'anireni nokha zochita za tsikulo kuphatikizapo kudzidyetsa nokha, kupita kuntchito kwanu, kucheza ndi ena, kukhala achangu, kapena kudzidyetsa nokha:
- Mungamve kuti mukungofunikira kumwa zakumwa zoziziritsa kukhosi patsikulo kapena kuti muyenera kumadya keke ya chokoleti.
- Mungafunike kupuma pantchito kuti mukafike kugombe, kapena kuyika tsiku la maola 12 kuti mukwaniritse ntchito.
- Mungafunike kuyimbira mnzanu wapamtima kapena kuzimitsa foni yanu.
- Kapena mwina mungafune thukuta la yoga lotulutsa thukuta, kusamba, kugona pang'ono, kapena kusinkhasinkha kwa ola limodzi.
Tengani nthawi yoti mumvetsere nokha zomwe zili zokomera inu, mosasamala za zosowa za mnzanu kapena zomwe mukuwona kuti mukuyenera kuchita. Khulupirirani mauthenga anu amkati kuti mukhale ndi chidwi champhamvu ndi zokhumba zanu.
Muthanso kudziyang'anira nanu kangapo tsiku lonse, "Ndikufuna chiyani pakadali pano?" Kodi zosowa zanga ndi ziti tsopano? Ndikufuna chiyani? ”
Ngati mukuwona kuti nthawi zambiri mumayika zosowa za anzanu patsogolo pazanu, imani nokha ndikuwona komwe mungakhazikitse mgwirizano muubwenzi.
- Khalani kholo lanu
Ngati kholo lanu silinakwaniritse ndi kusamalira zosowa zanu ndipo mumayang'ana kwa mnzanu kuti akuwongolereni, yambani kudzipangira momwe mungafunire kuti 'Abwino Parent' akhale nanu. Mukadakhala kholo lanu labwino, mwina mungachite izi:
Dzipatseni malo oti mufufuze za moyo. Dzivomerezeni kuti mwachita bwino. Khalani ndi chisoni chenicheni kwa inu nokha. Muzidzikonda nokha mopanda malire.
Dzidziweni bwino komanso momwe mumayankhira pa Moyo. Dziwani mphamvu zanu ndi zofooka zanu. Khalani woyimira kumbuyo kwanu. Mverani zosowa zanu ndikuyankha kuti mukwaniritse ngati zingakuthandizeni. Dziwonetseni kuti ndinu wapadera motani. Dzidziwitseni nokha ndikukondwerera mphatso zanu.
- Khalani wokondedwa wanu
M'malo mongoyang'ana kwa mnzanu kuti akukhutitseni ndikukwaniritsa, yesetsani kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna. Dziwonetseni nokha pamasiku. Gulani maluwa. Gwirani thupi lanu mwachikondi. Dzipangeni nokha chikondi kwa maola ambiri. Khalani tcheru ndikumvetsera nokha. Khalani bwenzi lanu lapamtima. Yesetsani kusayang'ana kwa ena kuti mupeze njira yanu.
Ichi ndi chida chachikulu cholumikizirana ndi inu ngati mwatayika pachibwenzi. Mutha kusunga ubale wanu ndi mnzanu komanso nthawi yomweyo kulimbitsa (kapena kuyambitsa) ubale womwe muli nawo ndi inu.Palibe wina amene angagwiritse ntchito ubale wanu ndi inu nokha.
- Khalani ndi inu nokha
Dzifunseni kuti: Kodi ndimakonda kuchita chiyani, osadalira bwenzi langa?
Onani zosangalatsa ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana. Pezani nthawi yocheza nanu kuti mudzidziwe bwino komanso zomwe mukufuna. Ngati mukuona kuti ndizovuta kukhala nanu, musapitirire. Nthawi zina mumakhala ndi nthawi yodzida nokha kuti muphunzire momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndikusangalala ndi kampani yanu.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti ngati mukudzitayitsa nokha muubwenzi wanu, si vuto la mnzanu. Si vuto la makolo anu kapena omwe amakusamalirani. Iwo anachita zonse zomwe akanatha ndi zomwe anaphunzira kapena kudziwa, monga inu.
M'malo moimba mlandu pazomwe mumachita, kuyeserera kutenga nawo mbali pazisankho zonse m'moyo wanu (ozindikira kapena osazindikira) kunja kwa chimango cha ziweruzo za 'chabwino' kapena 'cholakwika'. Khulupirirani kuti mwadzitaya kuti mupeze phunziro lofunika pamoyo.
Mwinanso mudakumana ndi zotayika kuti mudzipezere njira yozama kuposa kale.
Kuti mudziwe nokha kwambiri.
Kuti mudziwe bwino kwambiri.
Pomaliza, ngati muli pachibwenzi komwe mwatayika nokha, ndi inu nokha amene mungasankhe kukhalabe muubwenzi wanu kapena ayi. Ngati mwasokonezeka kapena mukukayika, khulupirirani kuti nthawiyo idzakuuzani zoyenera kuchita. Zimakhala zothandiza nthawi zonse kugwira ntchito ndi wothandizira yemwe angakusungireni malo mukamamvetsetsa zomwe mungasankhe, choncho pitani kwa munthu amene akukumana nanu.
Ingokumbukirani: ubale wabwino umakupatsani mwayi wodziyambira nokha, osacheperanso.