Zamkati
Palinso akazi ambiri omwe amabwera kudzawona aphungu, akufunsa kuti: "Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wabwino kwa mwamuna wanga". Tikukhala mu nthawi yomwe tikumizidwa mu nyanja zambiri zazidziwitso komanso malangizo. Zikuwoneka ngati zikuyenera kukhala zosavuta kuposa kale kupeza mtundu uliwonse wa chithandizo ndi chitsogozo chomwe tikufunikira. Koma sichoncho. Pali zambiri zambiri kunjaku. Nkhaniyi ifotokoza mwachidule mayankho amafunso osatha a momwe mungakhalire bwenzi labwino pazabwino kapena zoyipa.
Khalani owona mtima - Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire
Pali zokambirana zambiri pazokhudzana ndi kuthekera kwa amayi kukhala owona mtima kwathunthu. Pali akatswiri anzeru omwe amati akazi ali ndi njira zosiyana zowonera zenizeni ndipo, mwa malingaliro amwamuna, sangathe kukhala omasuka komanso osabisa. Ena amakhulupirira kuti izi ndichifukwa choti azimayi amawona kufooka kwawo kwakuthupi poyerekeza ndi amuna ndipo motero mosazindikira amadziwa kuti chida chawo chokha ndichobisalira.
Ngakhale sitingagwirizane kwenikweni ndi mawu osuliza oti mkazi sangakhale wonena, chinthu chimodzi ndichowonadi - abambo ndi amai amawona kuwona mtima munjira ina. Zowonjezera, amuna amakhulupirira kuuza ena mosabisa, ndipo kwa iwo, ichi ndi chizindikiro chaulemu ndi chikondi. Kwa akazi, pali mithunzi ya chowonadi. Akazi amakhulupirira mabodza oyera. Amakhulupirira kuti ndi njira yotetezera okondedwa awo ku zowawa, kupsinjika, kuyipa kwadzikoli.
Ngakhale mbali zonse ziwiri zili ndi mfundo, ngati mukufunadi kukhala mkazi wabwino kwa amuna anu, muyenera kuphunzira kuganizira za chowonadi ngati mwamuna. Zomwe zikutanthawuza pakuchita ndikuti muuze zomwe zili mumtima mwanu osapukuta chowonadi. Ngakhale mukuganiza kuti zingakhale zopweteka, bambo amalemekeza zokambirana momasuka kuposa momwe mungasankhire zomwe munganene ndi momwe mungaziyankhire.
Osateteza amuna anu
Lamulo lina lagolide lomwe likupitilirabe m'mbuyomu ndikuti musayese kuyang'anira mwamuna wanu. Kodi izi zikugwirizana bwanji ndi kunena zoona zivute zitani? Mukanama kapena kukometsera zenizeni, mumakhala ngati mwana wanu wamwamuna ngati mwana. Mukumuganizira kuti sangathe kufotokoza zoona zake. Ndipo pafupifupi ayi ayi.
Koma, malangizowa amagwiranso ntchito pazambiri kuposa kungolankhula zowongoka. Amayi nthawi zina amatayika penapake pakati pokhala wokondedwa ndi kukhala mayi atangokwatirana. Inu ndi mwamuna wanu tsopano mwina mumakondana kwambiri ndipo mumachita zinthu ngati akulu mukamakhala pachibwenzi. Koma ambiri amagonja pakulakalaka kusaka ndi kusamalira banja lonse ngati kuti onse ndi ana.
Sitimazindikira izi zikachitika. Ndipo amuna nawonso ali ndi mlandu. Amakonda amayi kuwaphikira, kuwatsuka pambuyo pawo, kusamalira zikalatazo ndikuwona kuti ngongole zonse zimalipira munthawi yake. Koma zomwe amuna ndi akazi samakonzekera ndikuti chilakolakochi chitha kusamukira kumadera onse amoyo wawo, ndipo nthawi yomweyo, amathera pakukhala ngati mayi ndi mwana wamwamuna (wosamvera kapena womvera).
Chifukwa chake, nthawi yotsatira mukalankhula ndi amuna anu, yerekezerani kuti mumalankhula ndi mwana. Kodi zokambirana zanu zitha kukhala zotere? Ngati yankho lanu ndi inde, ndiye kuti muyenera kupuma pang'ono ndikusintha njira zanu nthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa, ngakhale amuna anu atakhala omvera bwanji pakadali pano, pamapeto pake atopa ndi kuchitiridwa ngati mwana ndikupita kukafunafuna wina yemwe adzaonenso mwamuna mwa iye.
Lambulani mpweya
Tivomerezane - patatha zaka zambiri tili m'banja, padzakhala mkwiyo komanso mikangano yobwerezabwereza. Ndipo izi ndizabwinobwino, musadzinyenge nokha. Ukwati uliwonse womwe umatenga nthawi yayitali umakumana ndi zopinga zambiri komanso zopweteka, ndipo zina mwazokha zimatha nthawi yayitali vuto litathetsedwa.
Koma, ngati mukufuna kupitiliza ndi banja lanu, ndipo koposa pamenepo, khalani mkazi wabwino kwa amuna anu, muyenera kukhala ndi zokambirana naye ndipo pamapeto pake muzimveka bwino. Tulutsani zinyalala, tsegulani chipinda ndikutulutsa mafupa. Awoneni akuwonetsa mitu yawo yoyipa ndikuwala kwa tsiku, kenako ndikumaliza ulamuliro wa mizukwa yazokambirana zapitazo. Chifukwa mutha kupitilira motere kwakanthawi, koma osati kwamuyaya. Ndipo simungachite bwino limodzi kapena ngati munthu payekha ngati mungachedwe m'mbuyomu. Palibe tsiku labwino kuposa lero!