Zamkati
- 1. Osamakwiyira munthu amene wapenga kale
- 2. Pita ukagone mokwiya kapena ulesi pa ntchito tsiku lotsatira
- 3. Mukuyesera kusintha bwenzi lanu? Mukukonzekera kulephera
- 4. Musakhale m'mbuyomu - wokondedwa wanu adzaunjika milingo ingapo
- 5. Dkudya usiku kumakupulumutsirani chindapusa chaukwati
Maukwati onse amakhala ndi zotsika ndi zoyipa, ngakhale atayenda motalikiranji pamsewu kapena mwina akungoyamba kumene panjirayi. Nthawi zambiri timafunsira upangiri ndi zokumana nazo pamoyo kuchokera kwa makolo athu kapena akulu athu omwe akhala ndiukwati wosatha wosatha ndipo kwenikweni, akatswiri azamaubwenzi. Koma nthawi zambiri, upangiri wazokwatirana umakhala wovuta kwambiri.
Inde, kumanga ndikuyika ndalama muubwenzi wanu ndi wina wanu wofunika kuyenera kuchitidwa mozama, koma palinso chinthu chosavuta komanso choseketsa kuukwati. Nthabwala ndizofunikira kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito.
M'munsimu mupeza maupangiri oseketsa okwatirana amuna ndi akazi
1. Osamakwiyira munthu amene wapenga kale
Lankhulani mwachindunji kwa mnzanu; mulibe manyazi pamenepo. Mumati pepani kaye. Zilibe kanthu. Mwinanso sakufuna kupepesa ndipo akungoyembekeza mkati mwanu kuti mungoyambiranso kulankhula nawo. Kukhala kutali ndi munthu amene mumakhala naye ndizovuta.
Ingokhalani omasuka ndikuyambitsa zokambirana m'malo mongolankhula ndi galu wanu kapena mwana wanu ndikuyesera kutumiza mameseji kwa mnzanu kudzera pamenepo osanyalanyaza kupezeka kwawo mchipinda.
Choyamba, kodi mumachitadi izi? Chifukwa ndikungowonjezera moto pamoto. Chachiwiri, kodi mukufunadi kuyankhula ndi chiweto chanu kapena mwana wanu wazaka 1 yemwe angokupatseni bubvuni poyankha kapena mungakhale ndi munthu wina yemwe angakuyankheni ziganizo zomangidwa bwino? Ndikuganiza ... yachiwiriyo ndi njira yabwinoko. Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi.
2. Pita ukagone mokwiya kapena ulesi pa ntchito tsiku lotsatira
Nthawi zina, ndibwino kugona mokwiya m'malo mongokhala usiku wonse ndikumangokhalira kukangana. Chifukwa chiyani mukuwononga mphamvu zonsezo ndikukhala past 5 am osafunikira yankho. Mukazindikira kuti nonse muli amisala ndipo palibe amene angataye mtima ngakhale atazindikira kulakwa kwawo, ndibwino kusiya mutuwo. Ingosinthani ma PJ anu ndikulowa pabedi, kokerani zokutira ndikutsitsa. Kodi ndi chiyani chongokhala?
Ndipo mukakhala kuti mumagwira ntchito m'mawa, kugona ndi kumenya nkhondo kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala aulesi komanso olesi kuntchito (kuposa masiku onse) ndipo pamapeto pake zimadzetsa mkwiyo. Izi zikutanthauza, sikuti usiku wanu wawonongeka komanso tsiku lanu. Kuphatikiza apo ndizotheka m'mawa mwake, m'modzi wa inu agonja. Ngati sichoncho, mpumulowu ungakupatseni mphamvu zokwanira kuti mupambane nkhondoyi tsiku lotsatira!
3. Mukuyesera kusintha bwenzi lanu? Mukukonzekera kulephera
Bettina Arndt adati, "Akazi akuyembekeza kuti amuna adzasintha atakwatirana, koma samasintha; amuna akuyembekeza akazi sasintha, koma amasintha.”
Ganizirani zaukwati ngati mgwirizano wa "Monga Momwe uliri", izi ndi zomwe mumapeza ndipo izi ndi zabwino kwambiri zomwe zingatenge. Osayesa kusintha wina ndi mnzake chifukwa simukupeza 'kokongola'. Mukudziwa zomwe mudasainira mukamati "Ndikutero," ndiye bwanji mukuyesera kuti musinthe pano? Munakondana ndi zolakwika zonse musanalowe m'banja; mupeza njira yokondana ndi zolakwika izi mutakwatirana.
4. Musakhale m'mbuyomu - wokondedwa wanu adzaunjika milingo ingapo
Chilichonse chimasintha nthawi, momwemonso anthu. Timayamba kunenepa, tsitsi lathu limatha, ziphuphu ndi makwinya, ndipo zosintha zina zambiri zimachitika panjira. Koma sizitanthauza kuti munthu wamkati wasintha; adakalipo kwambiri. Amuna, pewani kumuyamika momwe amawonekera m'mavalidwe omwe sakumukwananso. Pofuna kumupangitsa kukhala wosangalala, mumangomukhumudwitsa.
Muuzeni momwe akuwonekera bwino panthawiyi. Amayi onse amafuna chisamaliro chanu pamodzi ndi zoyamikira zina.Ndipo amayi, musayembekezere kuti abambo anu azikubweretserani maluwa ndi diamondi nthawi zonse. Zachidziwikire, kale anali kuchita izi pachibwenzi, koma tsopano anyamata muli ndi tsogolo loti mumange. Sungani ndalama imeneyo kwa ana anu! Kuphatikiza apo, yang'anani pazinthu zazing'ono. Mwinanso adatulutsa zinyalala, kapena mwina adatsuka mbale kapena kupukuta pamphasa. Ndi zinthu zazing'ono zomwe ndizofunika m'banja.
5. Dkudya usiku kumakupulumutsirani chindapusa chaukwati
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti maanja omwe amakhalabe pachibwenzi, amakhala limodzi. Kupulumuka kwachikondi nthawi zonse kumakhala kosangalatsa. Sikuti aliyense angakwanitse kupita kuzilumba zakunja, koma aliyense wotsimikiza amatha kugula chakudya chamadzulo, chachikondi kuresitilanti yapafupi kamodzi kamodzi. Siyani ana kunyumba ndi wosamalira ana ndikungopita kumalo odyera okongola omwe angotsegulira mzinda kapena mwina mungopita kumalo odyera komwe mudakhala ndi tsiku lanu loyamba. Izi zitha kubweretsa zokumbukira zambiri zosangalatsa.
Monga kuphatikiza, "Tiye!" ingakuthandizeni kupewa mkangano kapena kukuthandizani kubisa mfundo yoti inu (kachiwiri) mwaiwala kupanga chakudya chamadzulo monga mudalonjezera. Mwachidule, maanja, omwe amatha kusewera limodzi ndi kuseka limodzi ndipo amatha kukhala okhaokha, amatha kukhala limodzi.