Zamkati
- 1. Kulankhulana momasuka ndikukonzekereratu
- 2. Sankhani mapulani anu / miyambo yanu
- 3. Palibe vuto kunena kuti ayi
- 4. Samalani wina ndi mnzake
- 5. Fufuzani wina ndi mnzake
- 6. Khalani pafupi
- 7. Musalole kuti wokondedwa wanu akhale wakunja
- 8. Osasintha dongosolo
- 9. Sanjani nthawi "yathu"
Monga PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) Level II yothandizira maanja, ndimakhulupirira mwamphamvu muulamuliro wa ubale wotetezeka.
Mfundo yofunika kwambiri ya PACT imafuna kuti anzawo aziyika ubale wawo patsogolo ndikulumbira kuti adzatetezana padera komanso pagulu, kuti akwaniritse ubale wotetezeka, wolumikizana komanso wathanzi.
Mgwirizanowu ndi lonjezo pakati pa abwenzi kuti zivute zitani, akhala mgulu limodzi.
Kudzipereka kumeneku kwa wina ndi mnzake kumalimbikitsa kwambiri chitetezo ndi chibwenzi.
Ndi tchuthi chomwe chikubwera, anthu ambiri kuphatikiza maanja amakhala ndi mantha komanso kutaya mtima, m'malo mokhala achimwemwe. Amaopa kukhala nthawi yayitali ndi abale awo omwe atha kukhala ovuta kucheza nawo ndikudzimva kuti akulephera kukonza chakudya komanso kugula mphatso.
Nazi njira zina zomwe mabanja omwe akugwira bwino ntchito amagwiritsa ntchito kuti adutse tchuthi
1. Kulankhulana momasuka ndikukonzekereratu
Yambitsani zokambirana za zomwe zikubwera pabanjapo ndi wokondedwa wanu koyambirira kuti nonse mupange mitu yanu pamodzi ndikupanga pulani. Zokambirana zotere ndizokhazikitsanso mwayi kwa mnzake kuti azigawana zomwe akuda nkhawa, nkhawa, komanso nkhawa bola mnzake azikhala womasuka, womvera komanso womvera.
Gawo lokonzekera liyenera kukhala ndi zambiri monga kutalika kwa nthawi yomwe mukufuna kukhala pa tchuthi cha banja lanu komanso zomwe mudzagwiritse ntchito posonyezana kuti simukukhala bwino.
Ngati mukuchititsa mwambowu, mutha kukambirana za kapangidwe kake ndi nthawi yayitali.
2. Sankhani mapulani anu / miyambo yanu
Dziwani zomwe inu ndi mnzanu mukufuna kuchita patchuthi ndi miyambo yomwe nonse mukufuna kuyamba kapena kukulitsa.
Miyambo yanu ya tchuthi iyenera kukhala yofunika kwambiri kuposa miyambo yakubanja lanu komanso yamnzanu.
Ngati mukudya chakudya chamadzulo kapena kusonkhana, dziwitsani alendo anu kuti mukuyembekeza kuti adzalemekeza miyambo ndi miyambo yomwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mungakonde mukakhala nayo.
3. Palibe vuto kunena kuti ayi
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukufuna kupita kutchuthi kuyenda kapena kukhala kunyumba m'malo mowalipira ndi abale, khalani omasuka kukana kuyitanidwa.
Ngati mumanena zowona mtima ndi anthu chifukwa chomwe simukuthamangira nawo pamwambowu, mwina sangakhumudwe kapena kukhumudwa.
Onetsani momveka bwino komanso mwachidule kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mukufuna kukakhala holideyo kunyumba kapena mwina kuthawira ku Caribbean.
4. Samalani wina ndi mnzake
Ngati mwasankha kupita kutchuthi ndi abale anu, mverani mawonekedwe amthupi la mnzanuyo, nkhope yake, ndi meseji yanji pazizindikiro zilizonse zosonyeza kuti sakumva bwino.
Mukawona mnzanu atasungidwa ndi wachibale wanu wovuta, tengani njira yolenga kuti muthe kumulimbikitsa komanso kumulimbikitsa mnzanuyo popanda kuchitira mwano ena.
Khalani cholumikizira mnzanu mukawona mnzanu akuvutika kapena akuthedwa nzeru.
5. Fufuzani wina ndi mnzake
Pamsonkhanowu kapena pamwambo wabanja, kambiranani ndi mnzanuyo nthawi ndi nthawi kuti muwone ngati ali bwino.
Mutha kuvomerezana pazinthu zina zomwe musadagwiritse ntchito kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake osadziwitsa ena. Kuyang'ana pamaso pafupipafupi komanso kuwayang'anira mawu osabisa monga "mwachangu zonse?" zingakhale zopindulitsa.
6. Khalani pafupi
Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi uliwonse womwe mungapeze kuti mukhale pafupi ndi mnzanuyo. Khalani pafupi wina ndi mnzake patebulo lodyera kapena pabedi, gwiranani manja, kukumbatirana kapena kupukuta msana wa mnzanu.
Kukhudza kwakuthupi ndi kuyandikira kumapereka chitetezo ndikulimbikitsidwa.
7. Musalole kuti wokondedwa wanu akhale wakunja
Nthawi zomwe mnzanu sadziwa anthu ambiri kapena mwina akupita kukasonkhana ndi banja lanu koyamba, musalole kuti mnzanu akhale yekhayekha.
Ngati zikuwoneka kuti mnzanu akuwoneka kuti wasiyidwa kapena ndi wopatukana, onaninso pazokambirana zanu ndipo musachoke kumbali yawo.
8. Osasintha dongosolo
Ili ndiye nsonga yofunikira kwambiri.
Osachoka pa pulani yomwe nonse munagwirizana kuti musatsatire. Ngati nonse mwasankha kuchoka pakapita nthawi, onetsetsani kuti mukuchokapo. Osanyalanyaza zomwe anzanu akunena kuti akulemedwa ndipo mwina akufuna kuchoka posachedwa.
9. Sanjani nthawi "yathu"
Khalani ndi zosangalatsa zomwe mungakonzekerere inu ndi mnzanu, banja litatha.
Mwinamwake ndi madzulo opanda phokoso limodzi, kuthawa mwachikondi kapena chikondwerero cha inu nonse! Khalani ndi chinthu chabwino choti mudzayembekezere, mukadzakwaniritsa zomwe mwachita kutchuthi.