Zamkati
- Malizani tsikuli ndi mawu abwino
- Yamikirani wina ndi mnzake
- Kugona bwino usiku
- Kuchepetsa nkhawa, matenda ena
- Ubale wapamtima wokhutiritsa kwambiri
Mu mphindi zochepa izi kuchokera nthawi yomwe mwagona ndi kugona, chinthu china chofunikira chikhoza kuchitika chomwe chingakhudze banja lanu komanso thanzi lanu. Ndi chiyani? China chophweka ngati nkhani yampilo pang'ono.
Kodi zokambirana ndi chiyani?
Kuyankhula kwa mtsamiro ndi kukambirana komwe kumachitika pakati pa anthu omwe ali pabedi asanagone, mwina akadali pachigono, ngakhale asanafike kapena atagonana. Ndipamene banjali limakhala loona mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake, kugawana zakukhosi kwawo, ndi kulumikizana mwamphamvu. Makamaka mukamachita mosasinthasintha pakapita nthawi, zokambirana kwa maanja ndizothandiza kwambiri pakupanga malo abwino oti ubale wanu ndi thanzi lanu zizikhala bwino.
M'malo mwake, zokambirana pamtsamiro zatsimikiziridwa mu kafukufuku pakati pa mabanja a Oregon kuti athandize maubale ndi thanzi lawo; zomwe zapezazi zikuwonetsedwa ku 2017 Society for Personality and Social Psychology Year Convention.
Chofunika kwambiri pakulankhula usiku uliwonse, malinga ndi kafukufukuyu, ndikuti awa sayenera kukambirana kwa ola limodzi asanagone.
Kodi kuyankhula kwa pilo kukutanthauza chiyani? Kungodziwa zochepa chabe ndizofunikira kuti tisangalale ndi zokambirana za ma pillow kwa maanja, koma chinsinsi chake ndi ichi - iyenera kukhala nkhani yabwino. Tikukubweretserani malingaliro osangalatsa okamba pilo kuti muyambe.
Zitsanzo zina zokambirana pamiyendo kwa maanja ndi izi:
- China chake chabwino chomwe chidakuchitikirani lero,
- China chake choseketsa chomwe ana achita posachedwa,
- China chake chabwino winawake wakuchitirani,
- Kupambana pantchito,
- China chake chomwe chakukumbutsani za mnzanu,
- China chake chomwe chidakusangalatsani,
- Kanema kodabwitsa ka YouTube, ndi zina zotero.
Mafunso ena wamba okamba pilo kwa maanja
- Kodi mungandifotokoze bwanji kwa munthu amene sakundidziwa?
- Mukuganiza ndimavala bwino motani?
- Kodi pali china chake chomwe ndingakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu mwachangu?
- Ndi chinthu chiti kapena chizolowezi chomwe ndingasinthe pa ine chomwe mungasangalale nacho?
- Mukukumbukira zotani zogonana zomwe tidakhala nazo?
- Chofunika kwambiri tsikuli ndi chiyani?
- Kodi ndi tsiku liti labwino kwambiri pamoyo wanu?
Zachidziwikire, izi sizinthu zazikulu, zokambirana zosintha zokha. Koma mukagawana musanagone ngati zokambirana usiku uliwonse, amatha kusintha malingaliro anu pang'onopang'ono, ndikukhala ndi gawo lalikulu pakapita nthawi. Nawa maubwino ambiri okambirana pamitsamiro kwa maanja:
Malizani tsikuli ndi mawu abwino
Kodi masiku athu sali ovuta mokwanira? Tikukumana ndi zoipa zambiri kuchokera kwa anthu ena, zinthu zomwe zikuchitika mdziko lapansi, zinthu zomwe zimayikidwa pazanema, kusamvana pantchito, magalimoto ... mndandanda ukupitilira.Kungakhale kosavuta kunyamula izi tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma, mukamaliza tsikuli mwa kulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu kapena wina wofunika, zimathandiza kuyika zinthuzo moyenera.
Zokambirana za okwapira maanja ndi mwayi wabwino wokhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo mudzakhala mukuyembekezera mwachidwi! M'malo mongowerenga tsiku lanu ndikuwona zoyipa, nonse mukuyang'ana zabwino m'moyo ndikumaliza tsikulo ndi mawu olimbikitsa ndi zokambirana pabedi. Khalanibe ndi chizolowezi chochita ndipo mudzawona chizolowezi chokhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Yamikirani wina ndi mnzake
Inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi zochuluka zofuna nthawi yanu; ngati simutha kulumikizana kumapeto kwa tsikulo ndi zokambirana pang'ono pakhosi, ndiye kuti mutha kumangomva kulumikizana kwakukulu muukwati.
Phindu limodzi lalikulu la kuyankhula kwa pilo ndi kulumikizana komwe mudzamve. Kungakhale kocheza kwa mphindi zochepa, koma zitha kutanthauza kusiyana muukwati wanu. Ndi zokambirana za okwatirana zomwe anthu amachita tsiku lililonse, nonse mumakhala ndi mwayi wofotokozera zakukhosi kwanu, kuwonetsa munthu amene mumamukonda, kumva kuti mukumva, kenako ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha wokondedwa.
Zokambirana pilo zimakuthandizani kufotokoza nkhawa zanu, mantha anu, zisangalalo zanu, komanso malingaliro anu ozama.
Kugona bwino usiku
Ambiri aife timavutika kugona. Chifukwa chiyani? Ubongo wathu ukuwoneka kuti sungathe "kutseka kwathunthu". Mukagona usiku, ngati malingaliro anu sangalekerere, ndiye njira imodzi yothandizira kukhazika mtima pansi ndikukambirana pamtsamiro. Tulutsani malingaliro anu ndi kumverera kwanu komwe kumachitika ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndi kumkhulupirira - mnzanu kapena wina wapabanja. Nonse muli ndi mwayi waukulu wothandizana wina ndi mnzake kumasuka.
Kuyankhula kwa mtsamiro kwa maanja kumathandizira kufotokozera zinthu poyera, zomwe zingathandize malingaliro anu kupumula, zomwe zimathandizira thupi lanu kupumula ndi kugona bwino.
Kuchepetsa nkhawa, matenda ena
Zotsatira zakulankhula kwa mtsamiro kwa maanja ndizazikulu. Tangoganizirani — ngati mutagona tulo tabwino, kumalizitsa tsikulo ndi mawu abwino, ndikumva kulumikizana kwambiri ndi amene mumamukondayo —mungamve bwanji? Mwamavuto mumamva zodabwitsa, ndipo mwakuthupi mumamvanso modabwitsa. Izi zikhoza kutanthauza kuchepa kwa nkhawa, matenda ochepa; mudzakhala ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo ndi m'thupi. Ndani sangafune izi?
M'malo mwake, kuyankhula pamtsamiro mutagonana kumathandizanso kuti mukhale ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wokondana komanso kukhala otetezeka.
Ubale wapamtima wokhutiritsa kwambiri
Zododometsa ndi gawo la moyo wathu wamakono - TV, malo ochezera, mafoni am'manja, ndi mitundu yonse yazida. Amasokoneza masiku athu, koma ikafika nthawi yamadzulo ndi mnzathu, ndi nthawi yoti tizimitsa. Zosokoneza zochepa m'chipinda chogona, zimakhala bwino.
Izi zimalola zokambirana zambiri pamtsamiro, zomwe zimabweretsa kulumikizana kwamphamvu komanso ubale wachikondi. Kodi zimabweretsa chiyani? Yesani kuti mupeze. Mbali yakuthupi ya ubale wanu - makamaka ubale wanu wapamtima - umakula pamene mupitiliza kukambirana mobisa. Mumamva zambiri m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndi mnzanu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro komanso chokwaniritsa zomwe zikuchitika mobisa.
Kodi zokambirana pamisonkhano ndizotani? Chida chachikulu cholimbitsa ubale wanu ndi mnzanu. Pakulankhula kwa anthu okwatirana, okwatirana amatha kufotokozera zakukhosi kwawo, kupsinjika kwa mtima wawo komanso kutenga ubale wawo watsopano. Ili ndi zabwino zambiri. Pafupifupi nthawi yomwe mumayesa ubale wabwino.