Zamkati
- Kodi tinalowa bwanji muvutoli?
- Zifukwa zomwe anthu akukwatirana mtsogolo muno
- Dongosolo la upangiri usanakwatirane milungu isanu ndi itatu
- Mwakonzeka?
Kuchuluka kwa maukwati ku United States omwe ali ndi thanzi ndikotsika modabwitsa.
Ndipo chiŵerengero cha chisudzulo chikupitilizabe kukwera chaka ndi chaka.
Ndiye timatani? Kodi timasintha bwanji izi? Kodi tikuyenera kukwatira pambuyo pake m'moyo?
Kwa zaka 30 zapitazi, wolemba woyamba wogulitsa, phungu, Life Coach komanso nduna David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu kupanga chisankho ngati ali okonzeka kukwatira, kapena ayi, ndipo ayenera kukwatiwa konse, kapena ayenera dikirani mpaka mtsogolo m'moyo?
Pansipa, David amatipatsa malingaliro ake pamavuto abanja mdziko muno.
“Bizinesi yanga, mwatsoka, ikupitilizabe kukula kwambiri ndi makasitomala ochokera padziko lonse lapansi chifukwa cha maukwati owopsa, osati ku United States kokha komanso kwina kulikonse.
Kodi tinalowa bwanji muvutoli?
Kodi timachita chiyani kuti tichepetse kusudzulana, pomwe nthawi yomweyo tikuchulukitsa kuchuluka kwa maukwati omwe ali athanzi ndi osangalala?
Tikanena kuti maukwati ku United States ndi ovuta, ndigawane chifukwa chake timakhulupirira kuti:
- Pafupifupi 55% ya maukwati oyamba amathetsa banja
- Pafupifupi 62% ya maukwati achiwiri atha ndi chisudzulo
- Pafupifupi 68% ya maukwati achitatu adzatha ndi chisudzulo
Kodi si nthawi yodzuka?
Ziwerengerozi zakhala zofanana kwa zaka zingapo, koma palibe amene akuwoneka kuti akuchita chilichonse pazochitikazi.
Ndipo pa kuchuluka kwa mabanja omwe amakhala limodzi nthawi yayitali, pazaka zanga za 30 ngati phungu, mphunzitsi wamkulu wamoyo komanso mtumiki, ndikutha kukuwuzani kuti ndi ochepa okha mwa mabanja omwe amakhala nthawi yayitali omwe ali osangalala.
Anthu ambiri, chifukwa cha zinthu monga kudalira ena, amakhalabe muubwenzi wopanda thanzi chifukwa choopa kukhala okha, kusowa ndalama komanso zifukwa zina zambiri.
Zifukwa zomwe anthu akukwatirana mtsogolo muno
Ndikukumbukira mu 2004, pomwe buku langa logulitsa kwambiri "Slow down: njira yachangu kwambiri yopezera zonse zomwe mukufuna," lidatulutsidwa, tidalemba nthawi imeneyo kuti "amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala osakhazikika pamtima mpaka atakwanitsa zaka 30, akazi ali osakhwima maganizo mpaka kufika pofika zaka 25 zakubadwa. ”
Koma kuyambira 2004, ndikuwona kusintha kwakukulu komwe ndingakugawireni pompano.
Amuna. Ndikuwona amuna ambiri masiku ano ali okhwima m'maganizo, ndipo ali okonzeka kudzipereka kuukwati wanthawi yayitali wazaka za 40.
Pazifukwa zomwe sindinazidziwe, amuna ambiri omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito azaka zapakati pa 20 ndi 30 alibe malo okonzekera kudzipereka m'banja, ana ndi ena ambiri.
Zikuwoneka kuti mulingo wokhwimawu wakwezedwa, ndipo tsopano ndikamagwira ntchito ndi amuna azaka zawo za 30 ndi ma 40 am'mbuyomu ndimawawona ali okhwima mwamaganizidwe, okonzeka kuthana ndi zopanikizazo komanso chisangalalo chomwe chimadza ndikukhala ndi wokhalitsa naye komanso mwina ana.
Akazi. Ndikuwonanso zomwezi zikuchitika ndi amayi, pomwe zaka 15 zapitazo ndimagwira ndi azimayi angapo azaka zapakati pa 21 ndi 25 omwe anali okondwa kwambiri ndiukwati, ana ndipo amawoneka kuti akula msinkhu, koma lero , Ndikulimbikitsa makasitomala anga achikazi kuti adikire mpaka atakwanitsa zaka 30, ambiri a iwo asanakonzekere kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali ndikukhala ndi banja limodzi ndi ana.
Zachidziwikire kuti nkhawa yomwe ali nayo azimayi ambiri kudikirira mpaka atakwatirana ndi 30, kapena kudzipereka kuubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, ndiye kuti amamva kukakamizidwa kukhala ndi ana posachedwa. Koma ndimawauza kuti kukhala ndi ana azaka zanu zapakati pa 20, pomwe zitha kugwira ntchito kwa anthu ena, pali anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi ana omwe sanakhwime mokwanira kukhala amayi abwino komanso abambo.
Chifukwa chake, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu akwatirane mochedwa komanso zotsatirapo zake limodzi ndi zabwino komanso zoyipa zokwatirana pambuyo pake m'moyo, kuti apange chisankho chanzeru.
Nazi malingaliro ochepa omwe ndikufuna kugawana nawo kuti ndithandizire kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa mabanja osudzulana ndikuwonjezera mabanja okwanira mdziko lathu:
- Pitirizani kuchedwa kukwatira mpaka mutakula. Ndikuganiza kuti izi ndizofunikira. Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndichimodzi mwazinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe tiyenera kuyang'ana, pakupanga mabanja achimwemwe komanso athanzi mtsogolo.
- Uphungu asanalowe m'banja. Monga mtumiki ndidakwatirana ndi mabanja angapo pazaka 15 zapitazi, ndipo pachiyambi kunali kofunikira kuti ndikwatire okwatirana amayenera kupitiliza upangiri wathu wamilungu isanachitike.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo tidayamba kukankhira kumbuyo, anthu omwe amafuna kuti ndiwakwatirane pagombe, kumapiri, komwe amapita koma sanafune kupita kukaonana asanakwatirane.
Poyamba ndinali bwino ndikufupikitsa ntchito yolangiza anthu asanakwatirane, koma tsopano nditawona momwe maukwati athu alili mdziko muno ndayambiranso kuwonetsetsa kuti banja lililonse lomwe ndingakwatirane latsiriza pulogalamu ya upangiri waukwati milungu isanu ndi itatu.
Dongosolo la upangiri usanakwatirane milungu isanu ndi itatu
Mu pulogalamu yamasabata eyiti iyi, tikambirana za gawo la abambo ndi amai muukwati, tikulankhula za kulera ana, zomwe munthu aliyense amayembekezera kuti moyo wawo wogonana udzawoneka bwanji, yemwe azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama, padzakhala chipembedzo china kapena Uzimu wa makolo ndi ana, kodi pali zovuta zilizonse ndi apongozi zomwe tifunika kuzisamalira tisanakwatirane, komanso mitu ina yambiri yomwe imawonetsetsa kuti anthu awiriwa ali patsamba limodzi m'moyo .
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mtumiki aliyense, wansembe aliyense, mphunzitsi aliyense amene akuchita maukwati lero, akuyenera kubwerera kukaonetsetsa kuti ali ndi pulogalamu yolangiza asanakwatirane yomwe makasitomala awa ayenera kumaliza asanakwatirane.
Palibe kusiyanitsa, palibe kusiyanitsa konse.
- Kodi alipo omwe angakhale akupha paubwenzi?
M'buku lathu loyamba kugulitsa kwambiri "focus! Slate zolinga zanu ", tikulankhula za" Malamulo a 3% a chibwenzi cha David Essel ", omwe amati ngati munthu amene mukufuna kukwatira, ali ndi aliyense amene angakupheni, ngati sakufuna kusintha ndikuchotsa zotchinga muubwenzi, ndiye kuti ubale womwe ungachitike ndiwotsika kwambiri.
Ndiye omwe akupha nawo ndi ati, ndipo mnzanu wapanoyo ali nawo?
"Chitani zakupha" ndi zinthu zomwe simungakhale nazo.
Anthu ena sangakhale ndi osuta fodya, chifukwa chake ngati ali pachibwenzi ndi wosuta, ndipo munthu amene amasutayo sakufuna kusiya, ndiwalimbikitsa kuti aganizire zongochokapo, chifukwa palibe choyipa kuposa kukhala omangika muukwati kapena kudzipereka kwakanthawi pomwe mnzanu ali ndi vuto lomwe mwasankha sikulandirika kwa inu.
Kapena mwina mukuganiza zokwatira mnzanu pompano, ndipo mukufuna ana ndipo akutsutsana kotheratu. Imani pomwe pano! Ameneyo angakhale wakupha yemwe sindingalimbikitse aliyense kuti apite patsogolo ndikukakwatiwa ndi wina yemwe ali ndi malingaliro otsutsana pamlingo uno.
- Funsani banja lililonse lomwe lingapambane kuti mudziwe, zomwe amakhulupirira chinsinsi cha kupambana kwawo ndi.
Ichi ndi chida chakale chomwe ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito ndi makasitomala anga ambiri ndisanakwatirane nawo, kuwapangitsa kufikira abale awo, azakhali awo, amalume, agogo, agogo aphunzitsi akale, omwe anali makochi akale.
Ndimawauza kuti afikire anthu osachepera asanu omwe ali ndi banja labwino ndikuchepetsa zomwe zimapangitsa.
Zimandimvetsa chisoni kwambiri ndikawona maukwati ambiri omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndi ana omwe akuvutika tsiku lililonse, ndipo ndikadakonda kukhala nawo pagawo lothana nalo m'malo mwa mavuto.
Nkhaniyi idalembedwa kuti itithandizire kuchepetsa ubale ndi maukwati omwe asokonekera mdziko muno ndikupanga mabanja achimwemwe komanso ogwira ntchito bwino.
Mwakonzeka?
Tengani zonsezi mozama, mugawane ndi anzanu, ndipo limodzi titha kuchepetsa ubale womwe tili nawo mdziko lathu. "
Ntchito ya David Essel'yi imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny Mccarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Marriage.com yatsimikizira David ngati m'modzi mwa alangizi othandizira maubwenzi komanso akatswiri padziko lapansi.
Ndiye mlembi wamabuku 10, anayi mwa iwo akhala akugulitsa kwambiri.
Kuti mumve zambiri pazonse zomwe David amachita, chonde pitani ku www.davidessel.com