Zamkati
- Chipembedzo ndi chidwi chaumunthu zitha kuyambitsa kusiyana pakati pa okwatirana
- Kupeza pangano latsopano la moyo
- Kupindula ndi chipwirikiti chakale
Zaka makumi anayi ndi zisanu zapitazo, Meyi watha, ndidati: "Ndimatero". Kumayambiriro kwa zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi, monga mwana wosudzulana, ndidalumbira ndikakwatirana zidzakhala mpaka kalekale. Mu 1973 ine ndi amuna anga tinachoka ku Philadelphia kupita ku Connecticut titagula bizinesi yaying'ono. Ndinalembetsa ku Connecticut College kwakanthawi kuti ndimalize digiri yanga ya bachelor.
Mwamuna wanga anali wofunitsitsa ndipo posakhalitsa, tinakwanitsa kutuluka ngongole, kukhala ndi nyumba ndikukhala olimba pakati.
Tonse tinakulira osauka, kugwira ntchito zosamveka tikamaliza sukulu, tikufunitsitsa kuthandiza mabanja athu ndizofunikira. Ndi chuma kunabwera ufulu wambiri wosankha, makamaka yemwe ndimafuna kukhala, popeza miyoyo yathu inali yopanda mavuto azachuma.
Chidwi changa chachikulu chidachoka pakufuna ana ndi banja ndikuphunzira Psychology, kuphunzira zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukayikira.
Mwamuna wanga adayamba kuyandikira chikhulupiriro chake, kuthokoza chifukwa chakupeza kwathu chuma, tsopano amafuna kukulitsa moyo wake wauzimu. Sipanatenge nthawi kuti chithandizo cha maanja inali njira yoti tikumane nayo foloko iyi mumsewu popanda chodzinenera kapena chodzinenera.
Monga mdzukulu wa opulumuka Nazi, Chikhristu sichinali njira yomwe ndingatengere.
Kudzipereka kwa amuna anga ku ziphunzitso za Yesu kunali zenizeni zomwe zinatsutsa chikhulupiriro changa mu 'mpaka imfa chifukwa cha ife. Unali chisudzulo mwamtendere.
Chipembedzo ndi chidwi chaumunthu zitha kuyambitsa kusiyana pakati pa okwatirana
Ndani angaganize kuti chipembedzo ndi chidwi chazanzeru zitha kuyendetsa pakati pa anthu awiri omwe amakondana kwambiri? Magazini azimayi omwe samakuuzani zovala zamkati zachigololo komanso luso labwino pabedi lingathetse banja lililonse?
Ndinapita kukamaliza sukulu yomaliza ndi ndalama zochokera kusudzulo ndikubwerera ku Philadelphia kukatsata MSW, yomwe ndidamaliza koyambirira kwa zaka za m'ma 80. Ndinkakonda kucheza kangapo pomwe ntchito yanga inkayamba kugwira ntchito. Kunali kusankha kocheperako ndipo chibwenzi pa intaneti sichinali chinthube. Ngakhale nditayesa masiku angapo akhungu kapena kuyambitsidwa ndi anzanga sindimatha kudziyerekeza ndekha momwe ndimakhalira ndi munthu wina, ndikadzasintha moyo wanga ndekha. Ndinkakhala ndikulakalaka kwambiri ndipo ndinkasuta mphika wambiri.
Cha m'ma 90s ndidasamukira ku San Francisco nditayamba chidwi chothandiza zidakwa ndi omwe adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuchira ngati sing'anga.
Inenso ndinali nditaledzera mu 1986 ndipo ndinathokoza chifukwa cha chithandizo ndi dera lomwe linandilola kuti ndizidziwe ndekha osadandaula chifukwa cha "zisowa" komanso zikakamizo zofunikira pachikhalidwe. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikubwera kwa woyimba ng'oma yanga ndipo San Francisco idandipatsa mwayi wofufuzira zosankha zanga, sindimaganizira.
Kupeza pangano latsopano la moyo
Ndikupanga Semina Yokondera mchilimwe cha 1995 cha Bay Area ogwira ntchito zantchito, ndidasankhidwa kukhala wowonetsa mnzake yemwe adadzakhala Mr Right.
Kugwira ntchito limodzi kunandipatsa mwayi wogawana osati malingaliro anga akuchira komanso kuphunzira za kulimbana kwake kuti akhale ndi moyo wanzeru komanso chisomo chake.
Anali kholo limodzi, kulera mwana wake wamwamuna wachinyamata ku Berkeley ndipo sanachedwe kusintha moyo wake. Ndinali ndi chizolowezi chosinkhasinkha komanso dera ku San Francisco ndipo sindinkafuna kusamukira ku East Bay.
Posachedwa zaka 23, takhala anthu odzipereka. Mwana wake wamwamuna wakwatiwa ndikusamukira ku NYC ndipo tidakhazikika kumapeto kwa sabata komanso Lachitatu usiku limodzi ndi Lachiwiri ndi Lachinayi patokha.
Kupindula ndi chipwirikiti chakale
Poyang'ana m'mbuyomu, zonsezi zikumveka ngati zopanda ntchito ndipo ndikuganiza kuti takumana pakati pazaka zapakati pa makumi anayi ndi ntchito yambiri patokha. Kapenanso tapindula ndi zopweteketsa mtima zambiri, kusungulumwa komanso kukhala patokha tisanakumane. Zomwe ndikudziwa ndikuti zimatigwirira ntchito.
Ndimamva kukhala otetezeka komanso odzipereka ku ubale wathu ngakhale kusowa kwamaphunziro akunja. Kukhala ndi mkazi m'modzi yekha ndiye chisankho chathu komanso ufulu wokhala limodzi kapena ayi mwanjira ina umapangitsa kuti chilakolakocho chikhalebe chamoyo. Ndimakwanitsa zaka 70 chaka chamawa ndipo ndimatenga tsiku lililonse momwe zimachitikira.Ndikulingalira kuti pamapeto pake ndimadzimva wodala, zaka zonsezi pambuyo pake, kuti ndidakwatirana kwathunthu.