Zamkati
- 1. Mnzako wanzeru, wokongola wokhala ndi nthabwala
- 2. Kusintha kwa malingaliro okondedwa omwe ali nawo
- 3. Kukhala ndi zokonda zofanana koma osafanana kwambiri
- 4. Kupeza chikondi mbanja lachiwiri
- 5. Kutonthoza komanso kukhala osangalala muubwenzi wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
- 6. Kuthana ndi chizolowezi chokhala pachibwenzi ndi anthu olakwika
- 7. Yemwe amatulutsa zabwino mwa iwe
Tonsefe timayesetsa kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Koma kodi tikutanthauza chiyani kwenikweni ponena kuti “changwiro?” Zangwiro ndizochitika zokha, zomwe zimafotokozedwa mosiyana ndi munthu aliyense amene mumalankhula naye. Tiyeni tiwone momwe anthu otsatirawa amafotokozera ubale womwe ungakhale wabwino kwa iwo, ndipo tiwone ngati pali zomwe zimafanana pazomwe amafotokoza kuti ndi ubale wabwino m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
1. Mnzako wanzeru, wokongola wokhala ndi nthabwala
Molly, 25, ali miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ali pachibwenzi. Iye anati: “Chibwenzi changa ndi chabwino kwambiri. “Ndiwanzeru, wokongola, komanso wokonda kuseka. M'malo mwake, ndi zomwe zidandikoka kuti ndiyandikire kwa iye. Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndidamuwona, anali kuyimirira pakalabu yanthabwala yakomweko. Anandisankha pakati pa omvera ngati gawo limodzi mwamachitidwe ake. Ngakhale ndinali wamanyazi pang'ono, ndinapita kwa iye nditatha chiwonetserochi kuti ndidzidziwitse. Adandifunsa, chabwino, zonse zili bwino (mpaka pano)! Ndimakondanso kuti amakhala womasuka kusewera pagulu komanso kuti amakonda kwambiri nthabwala zake. ”
2. Kusintha kwa malingaliro okondedwa omwe ali nawo
Steve, 49, ali ndi malingaliro osiyana ndi ungwiro. Palibe lamulo lamanja lamtendere kuubwenzi wabwino ndipo nthawi zina, malingaliro amasintha kwambiri. Ndipo ndizomwe zidachitika ndi Steve.
“Hei, ndasudzulidwa choncho ndikudziwa kuti zomwe zimawoneka ngati zabwino mukakhala ndi zaka 22 zitha kusintha mukadzakwanitsa zaka 40. Nditayamba kukondana ndi mkazi wanga, ndimaganiza kuti anali wangwiro. Wokongola, wosunga mawonekedwe ake, komanso wokhala kunyumba kwenikweni. Ndinkabwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito ndipo zonse zinali zabwino: nyumbayo inali yaukhondo, chakudya cham'chitofu, ndipo nthawi zonse amawoneka osangalatsa. Koma izi zimakhala zosasangalatsa chaka ndi chaka. Sanakonde kuyenda kwambiri - monga ndidanenera, anali wokonda kukhala kwawo - ndipo anali ndi zokonda zochepa kunja kogula ndikumaliza tsitsi lake.
Ndidakondana ndi mayi wina yemwe ndidakumana naye kudzera mu kalabu yanga yothamanga. Ndidatha kusudzula mkazi wanga woyamba, ndipo tsopano ndikutha kunena kuti ndili pachibwenzi changwiro. Samantha (mkazi wanga wachiwiri ali ngati ine - wokonda kuchita zoipa, wodziika pachiwopsezo, ndipo amakonda kudzipanikiza. Mwina sangakhale wangwiro kwa ine ndili ndi zaka 20, ndizowona, koma tsopano ndi wamkulu komanso Ndikufuna kuchokera paubwenzi wanga wasintha. ”
3. Kukhala ndi zokonda zofanana koma osafanana kwambiri
Camille, 30, akuti akuganiza kuti ubale wangwiro ndi umodzi pomwe anthu awiriwa ali ndi zokonda zofanana koma osafanana. "Muyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wobweretsa china chatsopano muubwenzi, mobwerezabwereza," akutero. “Simukufuna kukhala otsutsana apoloni — zingakhale zovuta chifukwa simungafanane chilichonse, koma simukufuna kuti muzikhala nawo nthawi zonse. Zingakhale zosasangalatsa.
Ndimakonda malire pomwe ine ndi mnzanga tili ndi zinthu zazikulu mogwirizana - ndale, chipembedzo, maphunziro, momwe timawonera banja - koma tili ndi ufulu wopita patokha kukafufuza zinthu zina monga zomwe tonse timachita ndi nthawi yathu yopuma . Mwachitsanzo, ndimakonda kusewera tenisi kumapeto kwa sabata, ndipo amakonda kupatula maola angapo akujambula zithunzi ndi kilabu yake yojambula. Tikafika kunyumba kuchokera ku ntchito zathu zosiyanasiyana, tili ndi zambiri zoti tizigawana. ”
4. Kupeza chikondi mbanja lachiwiri
"Chibwenzi changa ndichabwino kwa ine, koma sindinkaganiza kuti chikanayenda bwino ndisanakumane ndi Mike," akutero Cindy, 50. "Ndinakwatiwa kale, ndi bambo wosasinthasintha. Tidali banja lomwe aliyense amasilira ndipo amafuna kukhala ngati. Nyumba yabwino, ntchito zabwino, ana akuchita bwino kusukulu. Tinali okonda kupita kutchalitchi ndipo tinkabwezera kumudzi.
Mwamuna wanga atadwala ndikumwalira, sindinkaganiza kuti ndingakwatiwenso. Zachidziwikire osati wina ngati Mike. Mike ndi wamitundu iwiri, ndale amatsamira kumanzere, ndi wauzimu koma si wachipembedzo. Koma ndinakopeka ndi mphamvu zake, ndipo tinayamba kukondana. Zinali zodabwitsa bwanji! Ndine mwayi popeza ndinali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi maubale awiri angwiro. Iliyonse yosiyana kwambiri. Ndikulingalira zomwe ndikunena ndikuti "changwiro" chimabwera m'njira zambiri. Zikomo kwambiri! ”
5. Kutonthoza komanso kukhala osangalala muubwenzi wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
"Ubwenzi wanga wangwiro mwina si womwe anthu amati ndi ungwiro," akutero Amy, 39. “Mnzanga ndi mkazi. Ena sangatchule ubale wabwino kwambiri, koma iye ndi wangwiro kwa ine. Ndikadakondana naye ngakhale akadakhala mwamuna! Ndiwokoma mtima, woseketsa, ndipo amandiwonetsa kuti amandikonda m'njira miliyoni tsiku lililonse. Ndife ofanana pachibwenzi: tonse timagawana ntchito zapakhomo, timakonda nyimbo, makanema, komanso zomwe timakonda kuwonera pa TV. Timatsutsana, zowona, koma nthawi zonse tengani nthawi kuti mumvetsere wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo sitimagona titakwiya. Ngati izi sizikumveka ngati ubale wabwino, sindikudziwa. ”
6. Kuthana ndi chizolowezi chokhala pachibwenzi ndi anthu olakwika
Kathy, 58, adatenga nthawi yayitali kuti apeze ubale wabwino. Iye anati: “Ndinali pachibwenzi ndi azibambo ambiri omwe ndinali achichepere kwambiri. “Ndipo kenako ndinayima. Ndinaganiza kuti ndibwino kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi chibwenzi chomwe chimamwa, kapena kutchova juga, kapena osandilemekeza mokwanira kuti andichitire bwino.
Ndipamene ndidasiya kulandira zoyipa kuchokera kwa amuna ndikupumula pachibwenzi pomwe ndidakumana ndi Gary. Gary anali wangwiro kwa ine, pomwepo. Ndi m'modzi chabe mwa amuna omwe amaganizira ena, amaganizira ena, amasunga malonjezo ake nthawi zonse, amawonetsa momwe akumvera. Tili ndi abwenzi ofanana, zomwe timagawana, ndipo onse amakonda kukumbatirana ndi kupsompsonana! Ndine wokondwa kuti ndakweza miyezo yanga yoti ndizicheza ndi ndani. Ndikadapanda kutero, ndikadakhala ndi anzanga omwe adandikhumudwitsa, ndipo sindikadakumana ndi Gary. ”
7. Yemwe amatulutsa zabwino mwa iwe
"Mukudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa ubale wangwiro?", Akufunsa Maria, 55. "Wokondedwa wako amatulutsa zabwino mwa iwe. Ndidadziwa kuti James ndiamene ndidazindikira kuti adandipangitsa kuti nthawi zonse ndikhale nyenyezi. Amandipangitsa kuti ndizifuna kudzitsutsa, choncho ndimakhala ndi chidwi chake nthawi zonse. O, ndikudziwa kuti angandikonde chilichonse chomwe ndingachite, koma amandipangitsa kumva kuti sindingagonjetsedwe! Amandikhulupirira, amandithandiza komanso amandipatsa malo omwe ndikufunika kuti ndikule. Inenso ndimachita chimodzimodzi kwa iye. Kwa ine ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri! ”
Kodi tikuphunzira chiyani za Ubale Wangwiro kuchokera kwa anthuwa? Zikumveka kuti ubale wangwiro ndi wosiyana ndi aliyense. Ichi ndi chinthu chabwino. Ngati ubale wangwiro umangofika mulingo umodzi, pangakhale anthu ambiri okhumudwitsidwa kunja uko! Ndikofunika kutanthauzira chomwe "wangwiro" wanu ali, kuti mutha kuzizindikira zikabwera.
