Zamkati
- 1. Umamva ngati umamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo
- 2. Mumazindikira zokonda zanu zatsopano ndipo makamaka ndi ndi za iwo
- 3. Simumva kuwawa
- 4. Kugonana kwanu mwadzidzidzi kumadutsa padenga
- 5. Mumadzigwira nokha mukumwetulira
- Chikondi chimawonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndipo chimamverera mosiyana ndi wina aliyense
Chikondi nthawi zina chimakhala chovuta kwambiri makamaka ngati simukudziwa tanthauzo la momwe mumamvera. Timakula ndikumvetsetsa mosiyanasiyana tanthauzo la chikondi komanso momwe anthu okondana amakhalira pozungulira omwe amawakonda. Ndipo nthawi yathu yakuziwona ndi kupereka chikondi ikafika, pamakhala malingaliro angapo.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukukondana, ndiye kuti mwina mwakumana nawo kapena pano mukuwona zinthu zomwe zimakusokonezani kumvetsetsa kwanu koyamba za momwe chikondi chilili.
Chifukwa chake, apa, tapanga chitsogozo chabwino kwambiri cha momwe mungadziwire ngati mukukondana. Tonsefe timamvetsetsa kuti chikondi nthawi zina chimatha kukhala chomwe sitinaganizirepo, makamaka ngati timadya ma sewero ambiri ndi makanema a Disney.
Mukupeza kuti mumadzifunsa ngati iye ndi amene ali woyenera, osatsimikiza momwe angatanthauzire momwe amakuchitirani kapena nthawi zina akungoyesera kuziphatika mutapwetekedwa mtima.
Tiyeni tipeze.
1. Umamva ngati umamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo
Ngakhale izi zikumveka modabwitsa, pali chowonadi china chobisika mmenemo.
Nthawi zina chikondi chimawonekera m'njira zosamvetsetseka.
Nthawi zina mukayamba kukondana (ndipo mwina munthawi zonse zomwe mumakumana nazo zachikondi), chikondi chitha kubzala malingaliro omwe amangowonetsedwa mwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la mankhwala.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa mu 2010 ndi Rutgers University adatsimikizira kuti chikondi chimapangitsa chidwi chomwe chimawoneka chimodzimodzi ndikumva kukwera. Malinga ndi iwo, imodzi mwamaganizidwe amomwe mungadziwire ngati mukukondana ndikuwonetsetsa zamtunduwu.
Mukamakondadi wina ndi mnzake, chinthu chomwe chimatchedwa euphoria chimatulutsidwa ndi ubongo wanu chomwe chimakuthandizani kulimbitsa mgwirizano womwe mumagawana ndi chikondi chanu chimodzi mukamamva izi.
Kutulutsidwa kumeneku kumachitika kangapo mkati mwazomwe mumakonda.
2. Mumazindikira zokonda zanu zatsopano ndipo makamaka ndi ndi za iwo
Izi zikachitika, sizikugwira ntchito pamaganizidwe atsopano omwe tsopano akutanthauzira dziko lanu komanso amatanthauzira tanthauzo lenileni.
Tikiti yotsimikizika yamomwe mungadziwire kuti mumakondana ndi pamene muzindikira kuti mumakopeka ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano komanso malingaliro omwe sanakukondweretseni kale.
Mwachitsanzo - Mutha kuzindikira kuti mwangogula matikiti amwaka amasewera omwe timu yakwanu ikuyenera kusewera, chifukwa chikondi chanu chatsopano chimakonda mpira.
Kulongosola kokha kwa zochitikazi ndikuti mukapeza chikondi chenicheni, mwadzidzidzi mumayamba kutchera khutu komanso chidwi pazinthu zomwe amasamala komanso amakonda. Mukusangalatsidwa nazo.
Timakayikira ngati pali aliyense amene sakonda kupeza zosangalatsa zatsopano.
3. Simumva kuwawa
Izi zimaphatikizapo kuwawa kwakuthupi (si ambiri omwe amadziwa izi)
Kafukufuku wochuluka wasonyeza kuti chikondi chimakhala mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuposa kumverera kwakukulu.
Ikakhala yolimba, imatha kutulutsa ululu. Kafukufuku wofotokozedwa ndi New York Times awonetsa kulumikizana kwakukulu pakati pa chikondi ndi zowawa.
Ophunzira 15 osiyana omwe adavomereza kuti ali mchikondi adaphunziridwa. Zotsatirazo zasonyeza kuti mayankho a ophunzira ku zopwetekazo adachedwa kwambiri kuposa momwe zimakhalira nthawi zonse.
Kuwonanso kwina komwe kunapangidwa komanso komwe kunapangitsa kuti izi zitheke ndikuti pomwe ophunzira anapangidwa kuti ayang'ane chithunzi cha anzawo, kutentha komwe kunayikidwa m'manja mwawo sikunapangitse ululu wopweteka kwambiri.
Izi zitha kutanthauza kuti nthawi yotsatira mukadzagogoda pakhoma kapena kupundira chala chanu kwinaku mukuganiza za 'chikondi chenicheni' chomwe mumazindikira, ndipo simumva kuwawa, zilingani ngati chisonyezo choti izi zitha kukhala zenizeni.
4. Kugonana kwanu mwadzidzidzi kumadutsa padenga
Izi sizikusowa wothandizira kuti amvetsetse, koma kachiwiri, kudziletsa kumafunika kusiyanitsa ndi vuto lalikulu.
Chikondi pakati pa anthu omwe amakondana ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yosonyezera chikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Mukamva mwadzidzidzi kuwonjezeka kwa kugonana kwanu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kuposa momwe munkachitira ndi wina, zikuwonetseratu chikondi chenicheni. Palibe vuto kusakaniza chikondi ndi chisangalalo, ndipo sizachilendo kuvomereza.
Amayi nthawi zambiri amakhala omwe amazunzidwa pano, ngakhale kuli konse kwa amuna ndi akazi onse.
Nthawi zonse amatsogolera paketi pakufuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndi anzawo pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chatsopano.
5. Mumadzigwira nokha mukumwetulira
Uku ndikumverera kokoma koposa kale.
Chimfine chonse kumtunda uko chitha kukhala chabwino koma nthawi zina kugwidwa ndikumwetulira kwakukulu kumadzaza pankhope panu mukaganiza za chikondi chanu chimodzi kapena mukawona mameseji pafoni yanu ndiye chisonyezo chotsimikizika kuti mumakondana.
Chikondi chimawonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndipo chimamverera mosiyana ndi wina aliyense
Nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungakondane, mutha kuzindikira chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri zapadera, koma kumverera kwenikweni kukukankhirani milingo yatsopano.
Zinthu zambiri zomwe zimasewera pamasewera achikondi, jenda, ndi zina zambiri. Koma chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimakhalabe chowona munthawi zonse ndikuti, mukakhala otsimikiza kuti mwayamba kukondana, mwayi ndikuti mwina mungakhale mukunena zowona.
Zomwe zimamveka mosiyana zimakhala ndi chikondi.