Zamkati
Kodi mukukhala otopa komanso okhumudwitsidwa ndi zovuta zomwezi zomwe zakambidwa m'banja lanu? Kodi mumamverera kuti mulibe pakati pa mnzanu kapena mnzanu wapamtima komanso nanu, zomwe zimakusowetsani kuti mukusowa nokha? Mwina mukukula ndipo simukukumana ndi kukwaniritsidwa komwe mudakhala nako pachibwenzi chanu. Izi zitha kukupangitsani kutaya chidwi chokhala ndi moyo.
Mwinamwake mukumva kuti muli mu banja lolakwika ndipo simukudziwa momwe mungapangire malingaliro anu otsutsana m'mutu mwanu. Mwina zifukwa zomwe mudakwatirana sizikugwiranso ntchito ndipo chilichonse chokhudza momwe mumalotera chakusowetsani chisokonezo ndikukhumudwitsidwa.
Katswiri wothandizira amatha kukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse momwe mukumvera, zosowa zanu komanso momwe mungathetsere zovuta zam'moyo. Popanda zida zamaganizidwe, mutha kukhala opanda mphamvu, opanda chiyembekezo komanso osachita bwino pachofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wanu, banja lanu kapena ubale wofunikira.
Kulankhulana kumakhala kovuta nthawi zina
Mutha kumva kuti mukukakamizidwa ndi uthenga wamphamvu wa anthu womwe muyenera kukhala nawo pafupi ndi a Jones kapena nthawi zonse mukuyenera kukhala ndi nkhope yosangalala pamaso pa ena. Kungakhale kovuta kufotokozera wokondedwa wanu zowawa zanu zazikulu kapena zosokoneza. Zowona, palibe chinthu chonga ubale wangwiro, ndipo momwe banja lanu lilili sizoyenera kudziwa momwe mumamvera panokha. Nditha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale odzidalira ndikuphunzira momwe mungayendere muukwati kapena ubale womwe umalemekeza inu ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu.
Mungamve ngati kuti mukungokhalira kubwereza mayanjano ofanana mobwerezabwereza. Ngati ndi choncho, icho chingakhale chitsimikizo cha momwe mungathetsere kupweteka ndi kukhumudwitsidwa komwe mungakhale mukukumana nako.
Nthawi zambiri mavuto athu m'moyo amayamba chifukwa chokumbukira zakale. Powona momwe makolo athu kapena omwe amatisamalira amatiphunzirira, timaphunzira momwe tingachitire ndi anzathu. Ena ali ndi mwayi wochita zitsanzo pambuyo pokhala athanzi, modekha ndipo ena amaphunzira kuti chisokonezo ndi kulimbana ndi gawo lachilengedwe chokhala pachibwenzi. Zomwe zimadziwika bwino ndizomwe zimabwerezedwa.
Ndi kangati mwamvapo za mwana wozunzidwa yemwe amakula ndikuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi mnzake kapena kukhala wozunza pachibwenzi? Pakhoza kukhala kumverera kokodwa ndipo anthu m'moyo wanu akupitilizabe kukuperekani. Mwina omwe amakusamalirani sanalankhule zakumverera, zomwe zimakusiyani inu kumva kuti simukuzindikirani kapena simunamveke ndi mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu. Mutha kukhulupirira nkhani yomwe idapangidwa mukadali achichepere komanso patapita nthawi, nkhanizi zakhala zodzikwaniritsa zokha.
Pali chiyembekezo ndi thandizo kwa inu
Pali chiyembekezo kwa aliyense amene akufuna kuthana ndi zovuta m'banja kapena ubale. Ndikotheka kupanga ubale watsopano ndi inu nokha ndi mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu. Kuyambira pazaka zanga zophunzitsidwa komanso zokumana nazo, ndawona momwe makasitomala amasunthira kuchoka kwa omwe adazunzidwa kupita kuopambana, kuyambira pakukhala pachibwenzi mpaka kupeza zida ndi zidziwitso zaumwini zofunika kuzikwaniritsa muukwati wawo ndi miyoyo yawo. Njira yanga ikuthandiza makasitomala kuchira kuchokera mkati mpaka kunja. Mukamakumbutsa zakale, mutha kusintha malingaliro anu ndikupeza kuthetsa. Ndimathandizira kusintha m'malo osaweruza, achifundo. Ndimalemekeza njira yanu ndikukuphunzitsani momwe mungadziperekere ulemu, kudziyimira pawokha ndikupanga malire abwino omwe angabweretse tsogolo lamphamvu, lachikondi.
Nditha kukuthandizani:
- Pangani njira zopitilira kukhala zowona kwa inu nokha ndi malingaliro anu muukwati wanu ndi ubale uliwonse m'moyo wanu.
- Sinthani kuyambiranso kuchita zinthu mwanzeru, mozindikira kuti mutha kulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu komanso muubwenzi wanu wonse wofunikira.
- Tulutsani ndikusintha mantha, kudziimba mlandu komanso manyazi zomwe zingakulepheretseni kukhala moyo womwe mumalota.
Ndimagwiritsa ntchito njira zingapo zamaganizidwe / thupi zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto anu pama cellular. Neuroscience yatsimikizira kuti pali njira yolumikizirana bwino pakati pa thupi ndi malingaliro. Potumiza mauthenga abwino kuubongo, mutha kupanga njira zatsopano zomwe zimasinthira momwe mumadzilingalira nokha komanso maubale anu. Malingaliro ozindikira ndi othandiza pazinthu monga kupanga zisankho ndipo thupi lamaganizidwe limathandiza pazinthu monga kupeza mayankho pamavuto anu. Ntchito yomwe ndimagwira ndikuthandizani kuti muzitha kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zomwe zili mthupi, kuti zidziwike zatsopano komanso zisankho zabwino zitha kupezeka.
Njira ya Breathwork
Njira imodzi yomwe ndapanga yomwe ingakhale yothandiza ndiyo njira yopumira. Mgwirizano wanga womwe umatchedwa Soul Centered Breathwork ndipo ndikupezanso machitidwe akale akum'mawa omwe amatsegulira mayiko osazindikira wamba. Muzu mawu oti mpweya ndi 'mzimu'. Mpweya umalimbikitsa ma psyche, kuyambitsa mchiritsi wathu wamkati ndi nzeru. Pagawo lopumira, ndimaphatikiza Gestalt Therapy ndi kupuma mpweya ndikukutsogolerani paulendo kuti muwulule chilengedwe chanu chokwanira, kusamala komanso luso lanu lomwe lingabweretse zothetsera zovuta muubwenzi ndi moyo.
Kudziwa kufunika kwanu ndi ubale wofunikira kwambiri kuposa onse ndikukhala ndi moyo wanu weniweni, moyo watsopano ukhoza kutuluka ndipo mantha onse osadziwika atha kukulitsa mwayi wakukhazikika kwachikhulupiliro ndi ubale weniweni (mu-me-see).