Zamkati
- Momwe mungazindikire ngati muli pachibwenzi chodalira?
- Anthu amafuna kulumikizana
- Osati zolakwa zawo zonse
- Kodi njira yabwino yoti mukhale pachibwenzi ndi iti?
- Khalani odalirana
- Makhalidwe a ubale wodalirika
- Makhalidwe a ubale wodalirana
- Mukuyenera kuti mukhale osangalala
Anthu adapangidwa mwanjira yomwe timafuna kulumikizana ndi anthu; sitingakhale patokha, timafunikira ena kutero, ngati sichinthu china chilichonse, angokhala ndi ife.
Ndicho chikhumbo choyambirira, chachithupithupi. Komabe, pali anthu omwe amapezerapo mwayi pa zosowazi.
Timawona anthu m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku omwe amadalira kwathunthu kapena anzawo, kapena amafuna kudziyimira pawokha kwa anzawo. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, sizabwino pagulu lililonse.
Momwe mungazindikire ngati muli pachibwenzi chodalira?
Ngati zokhazokha za mnzanu ndikuti ndiwanu; ngati sanapeze chilichonse m'moyo wawo; ngati angogwiritsa ntchito mwayi wanu ndikukana kuchita chilichonse paokha; ndiye zimadalira.
Kumbali inayi, ngati mnzanu akukana kuvomereza kuti mwachita bwino ndikukugwetsani pansi (mophiphiritsira) ndipo samakulolani kukwera pamwamba, chitani china chake ndi moyo wanu, ngati zonse zomwe akufuna ndikuchita nokha malinga ndi zosowa zawo, ndiye nthawi yoti muunikenso ubale wanu.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, chibwenzi chimayamba kukhala chakupha.
Anthu amafuna kulumikizana
Monga tanenera kale, anthu amafuna maubale ndi kulumikizana; sangakhale ndi moyo popanda icho. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa kukhala, nthawi zina kumatha kukhala kotopetsa, anthu amatha kutopa ndi zomwe amachita, kapena china kuntchito, ubale, moyo wamba.
Nthawi iliyonse mfundoyi ikafika m'moyo wathu ndi mnzathu yemwe amatisangalatsa, amatithandiza, kutitsogolera, ndikungokhala kuti atithandizire.
Amachita chilichonse chomwe chikufunika kuti tidziyimire. Komabe, chingachitike ndi chiyani ngati wokondedwa wanu akudalira inu kwambiri kotero kuti sangakhale ndi moyo pawokha kapena angakupezereni chithandizo, chitonthozo, kapena chithandizo chofunikira?
Osati zolakwa zawo zonse
Ngati wina ati ayambe kuyenda pansi pamadzi mokwanira, apeza kuti anthu ambiri modalira anzawo adapangidwa motere kuyambira ali mwana, amadula ndikudula ndikuphunzira kuchita zabwino zokwanira makolo awo, anzawo, gulu lawo.
Momwemo alandiridwa ndi okondedwa awo.
Chikhumbochi chimazikika kwambiri mwa iwo ndipo chimangolimbitsidwa ndi msinkhu komanso nthawi. Chifukwa chake, mwachilengedwe, anthu oterewa akalowa muubwenzi, kudzidalira kwawo kumachepa, ndipo zomwe akufuna ndikuwuzidwa zoyenera kuchita, momwe angakhalire monga maluso awo opangira zisankho sanapukutidwe konse ndikupatsidwa mwayi wokula.
Zomwe zatchulidwazi ndizodalira mgwirizano muubwenzi, zomwe sizabwino.
Kodi njira yabwino yoti mukhale pachibwenzi ndi iti?
Anthu ambiri amakana kukhala pachibwenzi chilichonse ndipo ndichifukwa chakuti safuna kudzitaya okha, amafuna kukhala odziyimira pawokha.
Kodi izi ndizotheka? Kodi anthu angakhale pachibwenzi kwinaku akusungirana kudalirana?
Khalani odalirana
Pakati pazinthu ziwiri: Kudalirana komanso Kudziyimira pawokha, pali malo apakati pomwe ubale wa anthu ungakhale wolimba, mwachitsanzo.
Anthu odalirana ndi omwe amakhala ndi chidaliro chokwanira kuti akhale pachibwenzi nthawi yonseyi ndikusunga malo awoawo.
Ndipamene anthu amaphunzira malire oyenera ndipo amatha kupereka zokwanira kuti athe kuthandiza okondedwa awo panthawi yomwe akufunikira ndikukhala olimba mtima komanso odziyimira pawokha kotero kuti samawerengedwa kuti ndianthu odzikonda omwe sangathe kusewera bwino ndi ena.
Kudalirana ndi malo amtundu wamtundu womwe mungakwanitse kuchita bwino kwambiri.
Makhalidwe a ubale wodalirika
- Chinyengo
- Zidziwitso zochepa
- Kukana
- Chofunikira kuti mukhale pafupi kapena ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse
- Zosayembekezereka
Makhalidwe a ubale wodalirana
- Wowona mtima
- Zizindikiro zosiyana
- Kulandila
- Kupatsana chipinda chopumira
- Zofanana komanso zodziwikiratu
Mukuyenera kuti mukhale osangalala
Palibe aliyense amene ali wangwiro kapena kuti tonse tinachokera kwathunthu, pokhala tili pachibwenzi ndiudindo wathu kuthandiza anzathu kukula ndikuwatsogolera nthawi iliyonse yomwe angavutike, komabe, chilichonse chomwe chanenedwa kapena kuchitidwa, muyenera kukhala osangalala komanso khalani mumtendere wamalingaliro.
Simungachitire zabwino zilizonse kwa munthu pokhala pachibwenzi choopsa. Ngati inunso muli mumkhalidwe wofanana, ganizirani, ganizirani, ndi kusanthula mwachita zonse zomwe mukanatha? Ngati yankho lanu ndi inde, ndiye kuti mwina nthawi yakwana kuti mugwade. Mukukhala ndi ngongole zochuluka chotere.