Zamkati
- Zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula zenizeni pamoyo zomwe zimayenera kuthandiza munthu kuthana ndi zolaula
- 1.Safe kuti mumvetse
- 2. Palibe zolaula zomwe zimafanana ndi kugonana kwenikweni
- Kodi zolaula ndizabwino kapena zabwino?
Ngati mungosonkhanitsa gulu la anthu khumi (10) ndikuwafunsa funso lakale- Kodi zolaula ndizabwino kapena zabwino? Mudzadabwa ndi mayankho omwe mungapeze.
Chifukwa chiyani? Kusiyanitsa pakati pamalingaliro okhudzana ndi zolaula ndikokulira chabe ndipo kukukula koipa ndikufufuza kochirikizidwa ndi sayansi komwe kumathandizira mbali zonse ziwiri za gawoli.
Osatengera mayendedwe achipembedzo, anthu ena amati zolaula ndizabwino pazifukwa zotsatirazi ndipo makamaka -
- Kungakhale chida chophunzirira kuti muphunzire zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda pa zogonana
- Mabanja ena agwiritsa ntchito zolaula moyenera kuti athetse kugonana kwawo m'njira yosangalatsa
- Zithunzi zolaula zitha kukhala njira yothanirana ndi nkhawa, makamaka ngati palibe okondedwa
- Ena amati ndi yathanzi, chifukwa cholimbikitsidwa ndi kafukufuku wa Gert Martin Hald ndi Neil M. Malamuth mu 2008
- Zitha kulimbikitsa ubale wanu wogonana makamaka mukamaonera zolaula ndi mnzanu
- Itha kulimbikitsa libido, kuwerenga kuchokera ku kafukufuku yemwe adachitika mu 2015 ndi University of California
Komabe, nthawi yomweyo, omwe amatsutsa zolaula amalangiza kuti zolaula ndizovulaza, mwazifukwa zina, zotsatirazi -
- Zimakhudza kudzidalira kwa azimayi omwe anzawo amawonera zolaula, makamaka malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Destin Steward waku University of Florida
- Zoyipa zomwe zimakhudza maubwenzi pochepetsa kukhutitsidwa ndi chiwerewere ndikuwonjezera mwayi wosudzulana. Izi zimathandizidwa ndi kafukufuku yemwe watchulidwa mu pepala lofufuzira la a Samuel L. Perry, a University of Oklahoma, otchedwa - 'Kodi Kuonera Zolaula Kumachepetsa Makhalidwe Abanja Pakapita Nthawi? Umboni wochokera ku Longitudinal Data '
- Zimakhudza magwiridwe antchito ndikuwonjezera kuthekera kwa kuwonongeka kwa erectile komwe kumapangitsa zolaula, kumachepetsa kukomoka komanso kulephera kufikira pamalopo (anorgasmia)
- Porn zimasintha ubongo. Kuti, kuwonera zolaula kumadzaza ubongo wa munthu ndi mankhwala ngati dopamine omwe atha kupanga kudalira pazomwe zimapangika ndikukonzekera zinthu zina zovuta kwambiri, zomwe zimabweretsa chizolowezi.
- Ena amati zolaula zimapha chikondi. Zimapangitsa amuna omwe amaonera zolaula samadziona kuti ndi amuna kuposa omwe sanadziwonepo, ndipo atatha kuwonera zolaula, amatha kukhala wotsutsa mawonekedwe a okondedwa, kuwonetsa chikondi, kugonana, komanso chidwi chofuna kugonana.
- Kuti omwe amakonda zolaula kapena owonera zolaula amadzimva kuti akuchepetsa chidwi chogonana ndi mnzake yemweyo ndipo amayenera kufunafuna okwatirana osiyanasiyana kuti apitilize kudzuka. Izi ndizomwe zimatchedwa Coolidge Effect, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Reddit Community (NoFap).
Kotero, ndi malingaliro onse osiyana pa zolaula, zoona zenizeni zili kuti? Kodi zolaula ndi zoipa? Kodi zolaula ndi zoipa monga ena amazionetsera? Kapena ikhoza kukhala chinthu chabwino?
Yankho lake limakhala kawiri ndipo zimadalira pazinthu zingapo. Koma, funso lenileni lomwe anthu amafunika kudzifunsa ndilomwe akuonera zolaula zomwe akuwachitira komanso ngati ali bwino kapena ayi. Palinso gulu lina la anthu omwe akhala akuonera zolaula kwakanthawi ndipo sanakumanepo ndi zovuta zilizonse zotsutsana ndi zolaula.
Kaya zotsatirazi ndizothandizidwa ndi sayansi kapena ayi, ngati zotsatirazi zikukhudza moyo wa munthu ndipo akuvutika kuti azikhala nazo, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa yankho lokhazikika- zolaula ndizovulaza.
Kumbali ina, ngati wina agwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino, ndiye kuti atchinjiriza ndikukhala akazembe ake. Ngakhale zili choncho, pali mfundo zina zofunika, zofunika kuzimvetsetsa zomwe munthu ayenera kumvetsetsa ndikuzindikira ngati ndi zolaula kapena zotsutsana ndi zolaula.
Izi ndi zowona zokhudzana ndi zolaula zenizeni pamoyo zomwe ndizofunikira pothandiza munthu kusankha ngati zolaula ndi zabwino kapena zovulaza.
Zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula zenizeni pamoyo zomwe zimayenera kuthandiza munthu kuthana ndi zolaula
1.Safe kuti mumvetse
Ndizotheka kumvetsetsa kuti zolaula sizowona ngati ungagwirizane ndi mkazi weniweni kapena chibwenzi chenicheni. Imakopanso amuna pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana.
Kunena zazing'ono, zolaula zimamangidwa mosiyanasiyana komanso mwamphamvu ndipo cholinga chake ndi kupatsa adrenaline ndi dopamine kwakanthawi kochepa ngati momwe cocaine imathandizira.
Mu moyo weniweni, maubwenzi apamtima amafunika kudalirana, kusasinthasintha komanso kuthandizana. Kaya mutha kuchita zachiwerewere (monga zikuwonetsedwa mu makanema olaula) kapena ayi, pakufunika kumvetsetsa kuti mukakhala pachibwenzi chenicheni, nthawi zonse pamakhala munthu wina wokonzeka kukukondani monga momwe muliri ndipo mudzakhalapobe zanu.
Zotsatira zake, munthu sayenera kudziyerekeza ndi zolaula ndikumadziona ngati wonyozeka kapena kudziona kuti ndi wopanda pake.
2. Palibe zolaula zomwe zimafanana ndi kugonana kwenikweni
Palibe zolaula zomwe zimayerekezera kuyanjana ndi zogonana zenizeni.
Zithunzi zolaula zimawonetsa onse omwe atenga nawo mbali kuti akwaniritse zovuta zomwe ndi zabodza. Komanso, makanema olaula amatenga nthawi yayitali kuposa kugonana kwenikweni. Opanga zolaula akufuna kuti mukhulupirire kuti kugonana konse kumabweretsa mapeto osangalatsa.
Mmoyo weniweni, ena amatenga mimba zosakonzekera ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana.
Chifukwa chake, palibe chilichonse chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula chomwe chimafunikira kuti wowonayo amvetsetse kusiyana pakati pa kugonana kwenikweni ndi kugonana pa zolaula.
Kodi zolaula ndizabwino kapena zabwino?
Kodi zolaula ndi zoipa? Tsopano muli ndi chonena ndipo ndinu woyenera kutero.
Koma, pokonzekera ukwati, zisankho zonse zomwe zingakhale ndi zotheka kwa wokondedwa aliyense ziyenera kukambidwa, ndikupanga chisankho.
Sitiyenera kukakamizidwa. Ngati mnzanu wina wakhudzidwa ndi zolaula ndipo sangathe kuthetsedwa mkati, ndibwino kuti mupemphe thandizo.