Zamkati
- 1. Kondani mtundu wanu wa kulera
- 2. Khulupirirani makolo anu monga makolo anu
- 3. Khulupirirani kuti mwana wanu angathe kupirira
- 4. Musasokonezane - gwirizanani!
Kulera ana limodzi mwamavuto akulu omwe makolo amakumana nawo ... ndipo ndi umodzi mwamitu yomwe makasitomala anga amandifunsa. Mosasamala kanthu za ubale womwe ulipo pakati pa makolo, kaya ndi okwatirana, osudzulana, limodzi, kapena kupatukana, zovuta izi zimabuka. Ichi ndichifukwa chake: nthawi iliyonse pamene anthu awiri ayamba ulendo wopita limodzi, malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo azithandizira momwe aliyense amakumanirana ndi zochitika, ndipo pamapeto pake zisankho zomwe amapanga. Kukhala kholo ndikosiyana ndi zochitika zina zilizonse, komabe, chifukwa ntchito yomwe mwasankha kumaliza ndi kulera munthu, ndipo pali zovuta zambiri kuti muchite bwino. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti zisankho zakulera, ndiye kuti zimakhala zolemera kwambiri ndipo zimatha kuyambitsa mavuto pakati pa makolo.
Ngakhale izi zimakhala zachilendo komanso zofala, sizitanthauza kuti ndizosavuta! Koma mwina pali njira yochepetsera mavuto ena ndikuwongolera "ubale wanu wogwira ntchito" ndi kholo lina la mwana wanu ...
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe kulera ana limodzi kungakhale kovuta ndichakuti makolo ayenera kukhala patsamba limodzi. Ichi ndi nthano yakulera yomwe sikukutumikirani kapena mnzanu. Kuti makolo azitsatira mofanana, makolo onse ayenera kutsatira ndikugwiritsa ntchito malire, malingaliro, ndi njira zomwezo. Chifukwa cha malingaliro awo apadera, komabe, sizokayikitsa kuti makolo awiri ali ndi malingaliro ofanana m'malo onsewa. M'malo mokakamizana wina ndi mnzake kukhala kholo, bwanji osalimbikitsana kuti muzikonda mphamvu zakulera zanu zapadera, ndikupangitsa mgwirizano wanu kukhala wolimba kuposa momwe mungakhalire pawokha? Umu ndi momwe:
1. Kondani mtundu wanu wa kulera
Kuti mukonde kalembedwe kanu ka makolo, muyenera kudziwa mtundu wamakolo anu, zomwe zimafunikira kukulitsa kuzindikira kwamomwe mumawonera ndikumakumana ndi zovuta zakulera. Kodi ndinu okhazikika, kapena osinthasintha? Kodi mumayamikira thandizo la kusamalira, kapena kodi mumakhala okhwima? Sankhani madera ati olerera omwe mukuona kuti ndi osavuta komanso osavuta kwa inu, ndi omwe akumva kukhala ovuta komanso ovuta.
Kukhazikitsa mfundo zanu ndi malo abwino kuyamba. Ngati ndinu kholo lomwe mumalemekeza maphunziro, mosakayikira mudzakhala mukuwononga nthawi yochuluka kuphunzitsa mwana wanu kuyamikiranso maphunziro, ndikuwathandiza pamavuto ophunzira. Momwemonso, ngati mumayamikira chifundo ndi kulumikizana kwaumunthu, awa ndi maphunziro omwe mutha kulowa munthawi yakulera. Kukhazikitsa mfundo zanu zapamwamba kumatha kumveketsa bwino malo omwe mungakhale makolo pomwe muli ogwirizana, komanso madera olera komwe mungafune kusintha kuti mukhale kholo moyenera. Mukadziwa zomwe mukuyesera kuphunzitsa ndi chifukwa chake, kulera ana kuchokera pamalo achidaliro komanso kuphatikiza kumakhala kosavuta.
Ngakhale kholo lodziwika bwino kwambiri, komabe, likhala ndi magawo ofooka. Ndi zachilendo kumva ngati pali madera omwe simuli oyenera pantchitoyo. Chonde, mudzimvere chisoni izi zikachitika. Ndi zachilendo momwe zimakhalira zovuta. Ana akuyenera kuleredwa mgulu. Mwambi wokalamba womwe umatengera mudzi umanena za izi. Madera ofookawa akhoza kukhala mwayi wophunzitsa mwana wanu maphunziro awiri ofunikira: momwe mungakondere mbali zanu zonse - ngakhale zomwe mumawona ngati zolakwika, komanso momwe mungapezere thandizo ndikuthandizidwa mukawafuna. Apa ndipomwe kudalira osati kudzidalira nokha, komanso kholo lanu limodzi, kumakhala gawo lolimbikitsa.
2. Khulupirirani makolo anu monga makolo anu
Kudziwa bwino zaubwino wamachitidwe anu olerera mwachidziwikire kukuthandizani kuti muwone maubwino amachitidwe a kholo la mnzanu. Mukakhala kuti mukufunafuna mphamvu, ubongo wanu uzitha kuzizindikira mosavuta. Kuphatikiza apo, zitha kuwonekeranso komwe kholo la kholo lanu likutsutsidwa. Ndikukupemphani kuti mukambirane momasuka za momwe maluso anu ndi makondedwe anu amakondanirana, komanso madera omwe aliyense wa inu angaganize kuti watayika kapena osathandizidwa. Ngati mukuleredwa ngati kholo pomwe kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima kumatheka, musachite mantha. Ngati muli ndi chidwi chodzidalira nokha komanso kholo linalo, zithetsa mavuto onse.
Vuto lomwe limandibweretsera zokambirana za kholo limodzi ndikuti kholo lililonse "limasiyana kwambiri," kapena "silimvetsetsa." Chofunikira kwambiri kuti mumvetsetse munthawiyi (ndipo nthawi zambiri chovuta kwambiri) ndikuti kusiyanaku ndikofunika kwambiri. Maganizo osiyanasiyana, malingaliro, ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zimathandizira kuwongolera anthu awiri omwe akukhudza dongosolo la mabanja. Zimabweretsanso mwayi kwa ana omwe akutengeredwa. Nachi chitsanzo: m'banja limodzi muli kholo limodzi lomwe limatha kuchita zinthu mwaluso kwambiri ndipo limakhala ndi malingaliro osinthika, ndi kholo limodzi lomwe limayang'ana dongosolo ndi chizolowezi. Ngakhale atha kutsutsana za momwe nthawi yakunyumba ikuwonekera, zomwe mwina sangaone ndi momwe amathandizirana wina ndi mnzake ndikupanga chilengedwe chanyumba mosamala zaluso komanso kapangidwe kake. Kuphatikiza apo, ana awo amaphunzira njira ziwiri zosiyana kwambiri zothetsera zovuta m'miyoyo yawo.
Muzochitika zosiyanasiyana, mosasamala kanthu za ubale wanu ndi kholo lanu, kusiya kulamulira ndi chimodzi mwazovuta kwambiri. Kusakhala "pa tsamba limodzi" ndi kholo lanu limodzi kumatanthauza kuti simungakhale ndi udindo pakuwongolera zochitika zonse zakulera. Makamaka munthawi zosudzulana kapena kulera ana chifukwa chotsutsana kwambiri, kusiya kulamulira kumawoneka ngati kosatheka. Monga kholo, mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti mwana wanu akusamalidwa bwino, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti izi zitha kukhala zowopsa kwambiri. Dzifunseni mafunso otsatirawa, ndipo aloleni kuti akhale chitsogozo pakukhulupirira mnzanu: Kodi kholo kapena kholo langa limafunira mwana wathu zabwino? Kodi kholo kapena kholo langa limamva ndikukhulupirira kuti njira zawo zolerera ndizothandiza? Kodi kulera ndi kholo limodzi m'njira yotetezeka kwa ana athu? Ngati mungayankhe kuti inde kumafunso awa, nchiyani chikulepheretsani kukhulupilira?
3. Khulupirirani kuti mwana wanu angathe kupirira
“Koma kodi izi sizisokoneza mwana wanga?” Ayi konse! Kukhazikika kokha komwe mwana wanu amafunikira ndiko kusinthasintha kwa munthuyo. Chisokonezo chingabwere ngati simulimba mtima potengera kholo lanu, chifukwa chake mumachita nawo zanzeru zolerera ana. Kuopsa kokuzembera ndikuti mwana wanu sadziwa zomwe amayembekezera malinga ndi malire, malire, kapena zotsatirapo zake, zomwe zotsatira zake zimakhala nkhawa komanso chiyembekezo.
Mwana wanu mwamtheradi amatha kuphunzira kuchokera ndikuyankha mitundu iwiri yosiyana yaubereki. Ngati inu nonse ndi kholo lanu mulimba mtima pakuwathandiza, mwana wanu adziwa kuti kholo # 1 limayankha mwanjira inayake, ndipo kholo # 2 limayankhanso mwanjira ina. Palibe chiyembekezo kapena nkhawa pamenepo. Kuphatikiza apo, mumapeza phindu lina lophunzitsira mwana wanu kudzera pazomwe mukudziwa kuti pakhoza kukhala njira ziwiri zothetsera vuto lililonse.
Simukuyembekezera kuti aphunzitsi a mwana wanu "azitsatira malamulo anu" nthawi yakusukulu, nanga bwanji mungayembekezere kholo lanu kuchita izi? Zochitika zosiyanasiyana, osati kutsata, ndizomwe ziziwonjezera kukula kwa mwana wanu, chidwi chake, komanso luso lake.
4. Musasokonezane - gwirizanani!
Vuto lalikulu mu njira iyi yolerera ndi iyi: Mwana wanu, amayesetsa kusintha zinthu podzigwirizanitsa ndi kholo lililonse lomwe angawone kuti lingawalere bwino munthawi ina. Chithandizo cha poizoniyu ndikulankhulana. Ngati chisankho chidapangidwa kale ndi kholo limodzi, ndikofunikira kuti kholo linalo lilemekeze ndikutsatira chisankhocho. Zosankha zilizonse kapena zotsatira zomwe zaperekedwa ziyenera kukhalabe pomwe kholo linalo liri "pantchito". Izi zikutanthauza kuti makolo onse akuyenera kufulumira pazomwe zasankhidwa pomwe kulibe, kuti athe kuchitapo kanthu moyenera.
Kukhala wofunitsitsa kupempha chithandizo ndi luso linanso lofunika polera ana. Ngati mwatopa, mwapanikizika, kapena mukukumana ndi vuto lokhala kholo, kukhala ndi kholo lanu "kukutengerani kunja" ndi njira yabwino yodzisamalirira ndikuwonetsa mnzanu wokhala kholo kuti mumawakhulupirira komanso kuwalemekeza. Ngati pali gawo lina la kulera lomwe limamveka kukhala lovuta kapena lachilendo, omasuka kufunsa kholo lanu momwe angayandikire ndikuyesera njira yawo. Kholo lanu limakhala lothandiza komanso limakuthandizani kudziwa zambiri. Ndiwo munthu yekhayo amene amadziwa mwana wanu, komanso zovuta zakulera mwana wanu, monga momwe mumachitira.
Pomaliza, magawo ofunikira kwambiri a kulera ana ndi chidaliro, ulemu, ndi kulumikizana. Izi si ntchito zazing'ono; atha kukhala ovuta kuyeserera pazifukwa zingapo. Ngati inu kapena kholo lanu mukukumana ndi zovuta zina mwazimenezi, chonde kumbukirani kuti kufunafuna upangiri wa makolo kapena upangiri wa anthu / okwatirana sizitanthauza kuti mukulephera - ndikungofuna kudzimvetsetsa komanso kudzisamalira. Kukhala kholo ndi imodzi mwantchito yovuta kwambiri padziko lino lapansi, ndipo ndibwino kukhala ndi masiku oyipa. Kuti mukhale kholo labwino kwambiri momwe mungakhalire, nthawi zina mumafunikira thandizo lowonjezera.