Zamkati
Kusweka mtima kumatha kukhala chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe wina ayenera kudutsamo.
Ndikopweteka kwambiri komanso nthawi yowononga; ndizofanana ndi kupita kumaliro a munthu amene mumakonda. Koma kudziwa kuti wina amene kale anakukondani samakukondanso, sichinthu chovuta kwambiri kutha; ndikusiya wina amene mumamukonda ndikupeza yankho la momwe mungalekerere kukonda wina.
Kudziwa kuti munthu amene mudagawana chilichonse, munthu amene amakudziwani kunja, munthu yemwe simungamuganize sabata yatha, salinso gawo la moyo wanu akhoza kukhala osokoneza kwambiri.
Kudziwa kuti muyenera kuwalola kuti apite patsogolo ndikukhala achimwemwe ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri chomwe munthu angadutsemo. Kunena kuti ngati mumakonda munthu wina awasiyeni apite, ndikosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. Chifukwa chake, kodi mungasiye kusiya kukonda munthu wina, atakuyitanani kuti achoke nanu?
Kuphunzira kusiya ndizovuta koma nthawi zina mumayenera kusiya. Tsoka ilo, nthawi zina kumakhala kofunikira kudutsa gawo ili lakusweka kwa mtima.
Ndikofunikira kudziwa nthawi yoti musiyireni chibwenzi komanso momwe mungasiyire munthu amene mumamukonda kuti mulamulire moyo wanu ndikupezanso chisangalalo.
Ndikudziwa kuti zingawoneke ngati zosatheka chifukwa mabala anu ndi abwino, koma muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungasiyire munthu amene mumamukonda kuti muyambirenso.
Komanso, nayi kanema yomwe ili ndi zosangalatsa zake kutenga ngati mumawakonda asiyeni apite.
Pitirizani kuwerenga kuti mupeze njira zosavuta kuti musiye ndi kupeza wina amene mumakonda.
Momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi
1. Dulani
Mukasiya chibwenzi, dulani zonse zomwe mungakhale nazo ndi bwenzi lanu lakale.
Yesetsani kuchita izi kwakanthawi. Kusunga wokondedwa wanu m'moyo wanu kuti mukhalebe abwenzi ndi chizindikiro cha kusakhwima. Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale bwenzi la munthu amene wasweka mtima wanu?
Inde, nkofunika kuwakhululukira, koma nkofunikanso kusamalira malingaliro anu.
Kulekerera chikondi kumakhala kovuta kwa anthu ambiri.
Ambiri a inu simukufuna kusiya wokondedwa wanu ndikungodalira kukhala abwenzi kuti musunge ubalewo.
Mwina mukuganiza kuti mwanjira imeneyi wakale wanu adzabwerera, koma dzifunseni izi:
- Ngati abwerera tsopano sadzachokanso zinthu zikavuta?
- Kodi adzakhalabe pomwe akudziwa kuti pamapeto pake mudzawakhululukira kenako ndikuwabwezeretsanso m'moyo wanu?
Ngati simumadula kukhudzana ndiye kuti muwaimilira, abwera nthawi yomwe angafune ndipo adzachoka akafuna.
Pabanja, muyenera kukhala odzikonda komanso kuganizira za moyo wanu. Lolani munthu amene mumamukonda chifukwa adzakumasulani ku mavuto omwe mwadzipangitsa nawo kukhala ndi nkhawa.
2. Yang'anani ndi ululu wanu
Cholakwika chachikulu chomwe anthu amapanga panthawi yopatukana ndikubisa zomwe akumva.
Amayamba kufunafuna njira zothetsera malingaliro awo; amapeza chitonthozo kumapeto kwa botolo kapena amakonda kubisala.
Mukamachita izi, mkhalidwe wanu umakulirakulirabe. Chifukwa chake m'malo mokhala wamantha, yang'anani zowawa zakusweka mtima, yang'anani kumeneku ndipo musabisike.
Palibe vuto kulira; ndibwino kudumpha ntchito, sizachilendo kuonera kanema wakale zaka makumi awiri ndikulira; lolani kuti muphatikize momwe mukumvera.
Kusowa wokondedwa wanu si chinthu chopusa koma kubisala pankhaniyi ndi.
Mukasiya wokondedwa wanu, patapita nthawi, malingaliro anu amakhazikika, ndipo simudzaganiziranso za mnyamata kapena msungwana yemwe adakuswetsani.
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3. Lekani kuyerekezera
Nenani kwa "bwanji ngati alipo."
Ubale umatha pazifukwa, nthawi zina zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, ndipo simukuyenera kukhala ndi wina chifukwa Mulungu ali ndi zolinga zazikulu.
Zilizonse zomwe zingachitike ndikusiya chibwenzi, Kudziimba mlandu ndikudziyesa kuti "zikadakhala bwanji" sikungakuthandizeni kuchira mwachangu.
Lekani kuganizira momwe mungasinthire nokha kuti zinthu ziyende; zinthu sizisintha ndipo chibwenzi chanu sichitha ngakhale mumangoganizira kangati. Mukapitiliza kuchita izi, pamapeto pake mudzadzimanso ndi zowawa.
Chifukwa chake pumani pang'ono, dzipatseni cheke chenicheni ndikuyembekezera zamtsogolo chifukwa pali zinthu zazikulu komanso zokongola zomwe zikukuyembekezerani kuposa munthu amene wakuswetsani.
Ngati mukumana ndi chibwenzi ndiye kuti muyenera kukhala munthawi yovuta kwambiri koma kumbukirani kuti awa si mathero. Moyo uno umadzazidwa ndi zinthu zokongola, mphindi zokongola ndi malo owoneka bwino; munatumizidwa kuno ndi cholinga.
Musalole lingaliro la wina kuwononga moyo wanu.
Kusiya munthu amene mumamukonda kungakhale chiyambi cha chinthu chatsopano komanso chokongola m'moyo wanu. Mukachoka pachibwenzi chomwe mukadakhala nacho, pitirizani kupita kuzinthu zokulirapo komanso zabwino m'moyo.
Ngati mumadzipha ndiye ikani tsamba, musawononge moyo wanu chifukwa wina wakusiyani. Mwazunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe amakukondani kuposa munthu m'modzi, chifukwa chake lolani izi.
Ganizirani zamtsogolo mwanu, ganizirani za inu nokha ndikukhala momwe mungathere.
Ndinu ofunika kwambiri kuposa pamenepo; osalola munthu m'modzi kuti akufotokozereni kufunika kwanu. Ngati chibwenzicho chatha, ndipo mukukakamizika kusiya wina amene mumamukonda, chitani mosangalala. Osakana kukakamiza kukonza zomwe zaphwanyidwa nthawi zonse.
Dzikonde wekha, landira moyo wako ndipo pita ukakhale ndi moyo. Umo ndi momwe mungasiyire munthu amene mumamukonda ndikupeza kuwala m'moyo.
Pezani chidwi chanu, kambiranani ndi anthu atsopano ndikuyamba kupanga zokumbukira zatsopano ndi zokumana nazo. Phunzirani kupita patsogolo ngakhale simukufuna. Musalole kuti munthu m'modzi azindikire kufunikira kwanu; Mulungu adakulengani ndi chikondi chambiri komanso kukongola, osazisiya.