Zamkati
- Kumanganso kapena kusudzulana?
- Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira musanathetse banja lanu
- Zomwe muyenera kuganizira musanapitilize chibwenzi chanu
- Masitepe otsatira: banja losangalala
Chitha kukhala chimodzi mw zisankho zovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanu ...
Tsopano? Momwe mungapitilize? Kodi umayamba bwanji pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika?
Kodi mukufuna kukhululuka mnzanu wonyenga ndikumanganso ubale wanu, kapena ndi nthawi yoti mutsanzike komaliza?
Munkhaniyi, malingaliro ndi malingaliro ena agawidwa pazomwe muyenera kukhazikitsa. Izi zikunenedwa, sizovuta kusankha kwa inu. Ganizani mofatsa. Ganizirani mofatsa.
Zifukwa zazikulu zothetsera banja pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika ndi izi:
- Mkwiyo wosayenera
- Kudzimva kuti akukanidwa
- Kukana vutoli
Ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungachitire kusakhulupirika ndikuzindikira kuti mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Kupulumuka kusakhulupirika kwa chisudzulo ndichinthu chosiyana ndi aliyense. Aliyense adzakumana ndi kusakhulupirika munjira ina.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti mukufuna kusudzulana kapena kumanganso banja lanu, mufunika maluso olimbana bwino kuti muchite izi. Muyenera kulingalira, kuti mudziwe momwe mungakondere moyo wanu ukadzakhala wosakhulupirika.
Kumanganso kapena kusudzulana?
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ngakhale zowawa, china chake chabwino chimatha kubisika. Ngakhale zinthu zopweteka kwambiri zimatha kukhala ndi china chake chomwe chingakuthandizeni kukhala munthu wabwino. Chidziwitso chilichonse chingakuphunzitseni kena kake. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi kusakhulupirika.
Zitha kukuphunzitsani zambiri za omwe inu muli komanso zomwe mumakonda. Kungakuphunzitseni kuti ndinu wokhululuka kuposa momwe mumaganizira poyamba.Kapenanso zitha kutsimikizira kuti mukukhululukirana malinga ngati muli ndi chikondi ndi ulemu muukwati wanu.
Ndikunenedwa kuti ndi nthawi yovomereza kusakhulupirika ndikuvomereza kuti zachitika.
Kodi muyenera kusudzulana pambuyo pa chibwenzi? Kusankha kusudzulana pambuyo pa chigololo sichinthu chachilendo. Nthawi zina amene adachitiridwa zachinyengo samatha kuvomereza kudzinamiza, ndipo chisudzulo pambuyo pobera chimawoneka ngati njira yokhayo yotsalira.
Kusudzulana pambuyo pa chibwenzi nthawi zina kumayambitsidwanso ndi mnzake wonyengayo. Zitha kukhala chifukwa chakuti akufuna kulumikizana ndi 'wokondedwa wawo' ndipo nthawi zina chifukwa amamva kuti awononga ubale wawo ndipo zinthu sizingabwerere mwakale.
Ino ndi nthawi yoti mupange chisankho chovuta pamoyo wanu pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika: kodi mukumanganso ubale wanu, kapena mulingalira zakusudzulana pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika?
Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira musanathetse banja lanu
Kusankha kusudzulana ndikukhala ndi mnzanu watsopano sizitanthauza kuti mulibe mavuto. Aliyense ali ndi mavuto ake ndipo mavuto ena amatha kukhala onse.
Ganizirani za kulankhulana, kusungulumwa, mikangano, ndi kuwona mtima. Ngati simuphunzira kuthana ndi zinthu izi ndiye kuti mukubetcha zidzakhala zovuta pachibwenzi chanu chatsopano.
Kudumphira mu chisudzulo sichinthu chofulumira komanso chosavuta. Mavuto anu ndi zowawa zanu sizidzangotha ngati chisanu dzuwa lisanatuluke.
Kusudzulana pambuyo pazochitika zitha kuwoneka ngati njira yosavuta, koma sichoncho.
Ngati mukuyang'ana yankho loti 'kwanthawi yayitali bwanji atakhala ndi chibwenzi banja lithe', simuyenera. Palibe yankho limodzi lokha kwa ilo. Aliyense amakhala ndi nthawi yosiyana yolimbana ndi chisoni.
Muyenera kudzipatsa nthawi kuti mumukhululukire mnzanuyo. Simungangokoka 'katundu' ameneyo kuchokera paubwenzi wakale kupita kuubwenzi wanu watsopano. Chaputala chilichonse chimafuna kutsekedwa. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika muyenera kusiya zochitika zovutazi.
Kuchiritsa pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndi kusakhulupirika ndi chinthu china chomwe mudzayenera kuthana nacho mukathetsa chibwenzi chanu. Kupulumuka ku kusakhulupirika ndi chisudzulo kumatenga nthawi, musadzipweteke nokha ndikudzipatsa nthawi yokwanira kudandaula.
Zomwe muyenera kuganizira musanapitilize chibwenzi chanu
Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti chibwenzi chanu, kuchotserana chibwenzi, ndikofunikira kumenyera nkhondoyo ndiye kuti kumanganso ukwati wanu kungakhale yankho kwa inu. Ngati nonse muli otseguka kuthekera kophunzira ndikukula kuchokera apa ndiye kuti mutha kuthetsa mavuto limodzi.
Onse omwe akuchita zachinyengo ndi omwe aperekedwa akuyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kusiya zinthu mmbuyo ndikufunitsitsa kukhululuka ndikuphunzira kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika.
Chofunika kwambiri kuti akhalebe limodzi chiyenera kukhala chikondi. Kodi nonse mumamva chikondi chachikulu pansi pa kusakhulupirika, kupweteka, mkwiyo, ndi kupweteka?
Zimatengera munthu m'modzi yekha kuti apulumutse banja, koma zimatenga anthu awiri kuti amangenso banja. Kunyada, kuuma mtima, ndi kuwawidwa mtima zilibe malo pachibwenzi.
Mukapitiliza ukwati wanu monga kale, ndiye kuti palibe chomwe chidzasinthe ndipo posachedwa mudzakumana ndi mavuto omwewo omwe anakupangitsani inu pakali pano.
Chinsinsi chokhazikitsanso banja lanu ndikulipangitsa kukhala lolimba ndikuphunzira mozama kuchokera kusakhulupirika ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito bwino. Cholinga chanu sichiyenera kukhala kuti mubwezeretse moyo wanu wakale, m'moyo wanu pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika muyenera kuyesetsa kuthana ndi mavuto omwe anali akukumana ndi ubale wanu.
Kukhululuka ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pano. Popanda kukhululukirana, sipangakhale kukhulupirirana kwenikweni ndipo kulibe ubale wolimba. Zili ngati kuthamanga musanaphunzire kuyenda - sizingagwire ntchito.
Kumanganso ukwati kumakhala ndi zinthu zitatu:
- Kukhululuka
- Kumanganso kukhulupirirana
- Kukonza chibwenzi
Kodi inu ndi mnzanuyo mwakonzeka kuyesetsa kuchita izi?
Masitepe otsatira: banja losangalala
Banja losangalala lomwe laphunzira:
- Khululukirani ndi kulandira chikhululukiro
- Khalani owonekera, otseguka komanso owona mtima
- Khalani odalirika
- Phunzirani kuchokera m'mbuyomu ndikukula mosalekeza
Zinthu ziwiri zofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala ndi kufunitsitsa ndi chikondi. Makamaka m'moyo pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika.
Mufunikira chikondi chifukwa chitha kukulitsa chikhululukiro, chimayambitsa chidwi chakukondanso ndipo chimapereka chilimbikitso kuti muphunzire kudalanso. Chikondi chimatha kuyatsa maubwenzi achikondi, kuthana ndi zopwetekazo, ndikubwezeretsanso kukhulupirirana.
Kufunitsitsa kumafunikira kuthana ndi zenizeni komanso kukhala owona mtima. Kudzipereka kungathandize kumasula mantha ndikusiya. Kufunitsitsa kumafunika kuvomereza zinthu zomwe simungasinthe ndikuchitapo kanthu pazomwe mungasinthe pamoyo wanu pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika.
Kufunitsitsa ndi chikondi ndizofunikira kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala.