Zamkati
- Kumvera kumatanthauza chiyani
- 1. Kodi ndikumvetsera kuposa momwe ndikulankhulira?
- 2. Kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kwamphamvu!
- 3. Sikuti nthawi zonse mumangofuna kufotokoza mfundo zanu basi
Kodi mudalankhulapo ndi munthu wina, ndikusokonezedwa ndi kunjenjemera kwa milomo yawo? Sindikulankhula, ndikunjenjemera, ndikulankhula, kunjenjemera komwe mukudziwa kuti akufa! kufa kwathunthu! kunena china chake mukasiya kulankhula. Kapenanso amatero, ndikuyamba ndikukuyankha pomwe sunafunse funso. Tonsefe timamudziwa munthu ameneyo, anthuwo, ndipo kumapeto kwa zokambiranazo, amachoka osamva komanso kukhumudwitsidwa. Monga kuwira kwakukulu kulingalira kulibe kanthu chifukwa zowonadi, panalibe kusinthana kwa chidziwitso. Mumalankhula, koma palibe amene akumvetserani, ndipo chifukwa palibe amene akumvetsera, munasiya. Pagawo lililonse lachitukuko, pamakhala lingaliro limodzi, tikufunsidwa, "mukumvera," mukuuzidwa kuti "chonde mverani," ndipo adafunsa, "bwanji simukundimvera?" Ulusi wagolide umamvetsera, koma palibe amene amafotokoza tanthauzo lake, kapena momwe angachitire.
Kumvetsera ndi khalidwe, chochita, ndipo kuyambira tili aang'ono, timaphunzira momwe tingachitire bwino, posankha, kapena ayi. Tsopano, inde pali ena pakati, ndipo sitingathe tonse kumvetsera ndikumvetsera bwino nthawi 100%. Tikhale achilungamo, ana anga akunena kuti, "Amayi, amayi, amayi, amayi ..." mobwerezabwereza, nditha kusiya kumvetsera. Koma kumvetsera moona mtima ndi cholinga, ndi cholinga osakhala ndi dzanja lanu pa batani "pitani" nthawi yanu, zimatenga kuphunzira. Kumvetsera zosintha pakapita nthawi, ndipo kumatha kukhala kulimbana pakati pa maubwenzi, maukwati, ndi kudzikonda monga zaka, zinthu zimakula ndikukhala zopanikiza, ndipo mwina ndikofunikira kwambiri kudziwa "momwe mungachitire moyenera," pakadali pano. Mwina.
Kumvera kumatanthauza chiyani
Monga wothandizira, ntchito yanga yokhayokha ndikumvetsera, kukhala munthawi ino, ndikusunga malo oti wina athe kugawana nawo, kufotokoza, ndikukonzekera malingaliro ndi mafunso. Kumvetsera, komanso kumva zomwe zikunenedwa, kapena kusanenedwa pazomwezo. Kugwira ntchito yothandizira kasitomala polumikiza madontho, kupeza njira, ndi zoyambitsa, ndikugwira ntchito yankho lomwe limamveka kukhala lopindulitsa komanso lopindulitsa. Ntchito yanga ndi ayi kuti ndiuze kasitomala wanga yankho, kapena akhale, pakamwa pakunjenjemera mpaka atasiya kuyankhula, kuti ndiyankhe zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndizabwino. Izi ndizomwe sizingathandize aliyense! Ndikumvetsera, kumva, ndikupenyerera. Sindikuyembekezera kuti nthawi yanga ndi iti, koma m'malo mwake ndimamva mawu oti ndigwiritse ntchito kulumikizana.
Maanja atsopano amabwera muofesi yanga, kukambirana zakuwuza zofuna zawo ndi malingaliro awo, komanso osamva. Osamverera ngati omwe amawakonda, omwe ali ndi ubale nawo, kapena omwe amagwirira ntchito, akuwamva kapena kuvomereza zomwe akunena kapena kufunsa. Koma m'malo mwake akuyembekezera nthawi yawo yotsutsana, kutsutsana, kulozanso, kapena kupereka yankho. Mwina, mwina zonse zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikutulutsa, kumva kumva ndikutsimikizika pamalingaliro ndi malingaliro omwe muli nawo, kuvomerezedwa chifukwa cha lingaliro lomwe mukukhala pachiwopsezo chogawana, kapena kupatsidwa mbiri chifukwa mwina mwina mukudziwa zomwe mumadziwa akukamba za.
Kuwulula kwathunthu, ndidavutika zaka zambiri ndili wachinyamata, kuti ndikhale ndi chidaliro m'malingaliro ndi malingaliro anga ndili pasukulu. Ndikamalankhula zambiri zanga sizinamvedwe ndikuvomerezedwa. Kuyika pachiwopsezo kuti ndipereke lingaliro kapena kuyankha funso kunasinthidwa kuti ndiziwona ndikugwirizana ndi ena pomwe sindimamvanso chimodzimodzi. Ndinachitanso izi m'maubale, ndipo ndinadzipeza ndekha ndikudzifunsa "bwanji izi sizikuyenda bwino." Kwa zaka zambiri, ndidaphunzira kuyika ndalama pakuwona ndikuvomera ndikusandulika mafunso, ndipo kufunsa kunasanduka malingaliro.Ndidaphunzira kuti kumvera ndichinthu chofunitsitsa komanso kulumikizana, ndikugwira ntchito yochepetsera m'mbali zonse za miyoyo yathu kuti tisangodziwona tokha, koma ena, ndipo zomwe akunenazo zitha kuphatikizira.
Nazi zinthu zina zomwe muyenera kusamala mukamamvera wina-
1. Kodi ndikumvetsera kuposa momwe ndikulankhulira?
Pepani, chotsani pazomwe muyenera "kunena," kapena pamfundo yomwe muyenera kufotokoza. Nthawi zina kutha kukhala chete, kulumikizana, ndikumva zomwe zikutumizidwa kumachedwetsa kuganiza kwanu kuti yankho lanu likhale pazomwe zikugawidwa, osati zomwe mukufuna kuti mumverenso. Poyankhula ndimatanthauzira, ndikumvetsera, ndimalumikiza.
2. Kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kwamphamvu!
Kumvetsera ndikumangokhala chete, komanso kumakhudzanso zowonera, zomwe zimayambitsa zachilengedwe, komanso zomwe thupi la munthu wina likukuwuzani munthawiyo munthawiyo. Ndizofunanso kudziona wekha. Ndikumva bwanji mthupi, komanso zomwe zimayambitsa ine.
3. Sikuti nthawi zonse mumangofuna kufotokoza mfundo zanu basi
Kumvetsera sikutanthauza kusunga mphotho, osati zongotsalira ntchito, ndipo osati za momwe mumadziwira wina. Ngati mukumvetsera wina akuganiza izi, mutha kuphimba makutu anu ndikumwetulira. Gulu linalo lipindula kwambiri. Koma mukuvomereza zomwe munthuyo akunena, ndipo mukugwira ntchito yolumikizana ndi tanthauzo la "kumbuyo kwa zochitikazo". Wina azidziwa nthawi zambiri kuposa iwe, ndipo izi nzabwino, zozizwitsa kwenikweni, koma kumvera zomwe wina akunena (mwamawu komanso zowoneka), ndikofunikira! Kugwira ntchito kuti musakhale ndi mindandanda yamaganizidwe anu kapena mndandanda wazomwe mukuyesera kuti muwone, koma kumvera ndi cholinga, chidziwitso, ndi kulumikizana m'njira iliyonse yomwe ingakhale, ingakhale yopindulitsa.
Kodi tikudziphunzitsa tokha ndi ana athu chiyani pakumvetsera? Ngati ndimadzitenga ndekha monga chitsanzo, ana anga akamalankhula ndi ine, kodi ndimaima, ndikuyang'ana m'maso, ndikuchita nawo? Kapena ndikusuntha, kuchita zinthu zambiri, ndikuyankha kapena kuyankha nthawi zina m'njira yosamveka kwenikweni ku funso lomwe adafunsa. Timaphunzira kuyambira tili achichepere momwe timamvera ndikuchita nawo, momwe tingalankhulire ndi kufotokoza malingaliro athu. Momwe malusowa amatengera kapena kuvomerezedwa m'dera lathu ndi omwe amakhala omasuka komanso "olondola," ndipo nawonso atha kugwira ntchito kuti asokoneze maubale ndi kulumikizana osadziwa chifukwa chake. Kumvetsera ndi luso la moyo, mwayi womveredwa ndi kulumikizidwa, ndipo ndikutenga nthawi kuti muyime, kuyang'ana wina m'maso, ndikulumikizana ndi zomwe zikunenedwa. Ndizokhudza kukhala ndi malo oti mupeze chidziwitso, kupereka chidziwitso, kapena kuyitanitsa gawo labwino. Zomwe siziri, ndi mwayi womveredwa popanda kupereka mwayi wofanana kwa wina.