Zamkati
- Kodi ubale ungapulumuke 'kukhala motalikirana' mutakhala limodzi?
- Kodi ndi zovuta ziti zomwe zimakhala motalikirana?
- Kupanda kukondana
- Kulankhulana kofooka
- Nkhani zodalira
- Zowonjezera pakuwongolera
- Mapeto
Kukhala ndi nthawi yokhala panokha kumatha kumva ngati lingaliro labwino nthawi zina; komabe, pali nthawi yochulukirapo yokha yomwe ubale wanu umatha kupirira isanathe.
Pomwe ambiri omwe ali pachibwenzi ali otanganidwa ndi zomwe zimawononga banja, ena akusankha ukwati muholo yamzinda, ndipo pali gulu lina la anthu lomwe likuchita zina mosiyana.
Kaya anthu amasankha kukwatirana kapena ayi, maanja ambiri amatsatira njira yofananira komwe amakumana, kukondana, kenako pamapeto pake amakhala limodzi.
Posachedwa, anthu ena asintha malingaliro awo ndikusankha kukondana ndikukhala paubwenzi wokhalitsa osakhala limodzi ndi okondedwa awo. Izi ndizomwe zimadziwika kuti kumakhala limodzi.
Kodi ubale ungapulumuke 'kukhala motalikirana' mutakhala limodzi?
Tisanalankhule zakuti kukhala limodzi ngati kuli ntchito kapena ayi, tiyeni timvetsetse tanthauzo lake.
Kwa mabanja achichepere, chisankho chokhala okha ndi chifukwa cha mavuto azachuma kapena chifukwa chakupatukana komwe kumadza ndi sukulu kapena ntchito.
Pomwe maanja amakhala azaka zopitilira 60, chifukwa chofala kwambiri chokhala m'banja "kukhala limodzi" ndi kukhala pawokha.
Mgulu laling'ono la mabanja, anthu ambiri amakonda kusuntha ndi anzawo, pomwe zikafika ukalamba, maanja ambiri alibe malingaliro otere.
Mabanjawa akufuna kukhala mnyumba yawo momwemo ndikukhalabe ndi moyo womwe akukhalabe ali pachibwenzi, nawonso.
Kuphatikiza apo, gulu la okalamba lili ndi anthu omwe adakwatirapo kale ndipo ali ndi ana okalamba. Anthuwa safuna kusiya kudziyimira pawokha ndikuyambiranso.
Komanso, ambiri mwa anthuwa sayenera kusamalira akazi awo, ndipo ena safuna kusokoneza cholowa cha mwana wawo.
Chifukwa chake, kukhala motalikirana kumawalola kukhala moyo momwe amafunira, kukhala ndi malo awoawo kuchita zinthu zawo, komanso kukhala ndi wina wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa naye.
Kodi ndi zovuta ziti zomwe zimakhala motalikirana?
Monga lingaliro lina lililonse, kukhalira limodzi kumabweretsanso zovuta zake ndi maubwino ake.
Kukhala ndi nthawi yokhayokha kumawoneka ngati chinthu chabwino, koma kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka kwambiri kungakupangitseni kukhala opsinjika ndi ubale wanu wonse kutha.
Zovuta zina zomwe zimadza chifukwa chokhala limodzi ndi izi:
Kupanda kukondana
Mabanja achimwemwe nthawi zambiri amawonetsa chikondi chawo kudzera kuzinthu zakupsompsonana ndi kukumbatirana. Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukafuna kukumbatirana pakati pausiku?
Kudzuka pabedi lanu lopanda kanthu mukakhala pachibwenzi kumakalamba, ndipo mudzafuna wina woti muzicheza naye.
Kukhala palimodzi maubale amangogwira ntchito pokhapokha ngati anthu onse akufunikira malo awo ndipo ali bwino ndikuti kusowa kwaubwenzi kulipo.
Kulankhulana kofooka
Kulankhulana sikungolankhula chabe. Kulankhulana mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu ndikofunikira kuposa kulumikizana kwamawu m'banja lanu.
Kulemberana mameseji ndi foni sikungalowe m'malo mwa chisangalalo chomwe mumakhala nacho mukamayang'anizana ndi okondedwa anu, kapena mukamayankhulana m'mawa ndikumwetulirana ndikupsompsona.
Pokhala pamodzi, kulankhulana kofooka kumakhala kofala, ndipo izi zimabweretsa maubwenzi ofooka.
Nkhani zodalira
Kukhazikitsa kudalirana ndi wina ndikosavuta kutero mukakhala kuti mudzayang'anira machitidwe awo ndikuwona.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukumanidwa zinthu ndi abwenzi anu pomwe simakhala nanu nthawi zambiri? Kodi mumathana nawo bwanji nkhani zakukhulupiraku?
Kukhala muubale wa 'kukhala pamodzi' kungangotsatiridwa ndi anthu omwe ali olimba pazikhulupiriro zawo kuti akhalebe okhulupirika. Anthu ena amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito maubwenzi awa kuti awone omwe ali panja komanso amafufuza maubwenzi ena otseguka.
Ngati 'palibe zingwe zomwe zaphatikizidwa pachibwenzi' ndichinthu chomwe mukugwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndiye kuti kukhala limodzi kungakhale chinthu chabwino kwa inu. Koma ngati mumakonda kukhala ndi nkhani zakukhulupirirana, pewani kukhala ndi ubale wotere.
Zowonjezera pakuwongolera
Kupatula pazifukwa zomwe zatchulidwazi zopewera kukhala limodzi kophatikizana, zovuta zomwe zimabweretsa ndikuti kukhalira limodzi kumafunikira kukonzanso.
Zopinga zonse ndi kusakhala pamsonkhano womwewo ndi mnzanuyo kumakupangitsani kukayikira ngati ubale wanu uyenera kuyesetsabe.
Ngakhale bwenzi lanu lingakhale labwino bwanji, pali nsomba zina zambiri munyanja, ndipo mukapeza munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye, mungafune kuthetsa kukhalira limodzi.
Mapeto
Funso "kodi kukhala limodzi kumagwira ntchito kapena ayi" ndichinthu chomwe chimadalira kwambiri inu.
Ngati mukufuna kuchita izi, zingakhale bwino, ndipo ngati simungathe kutero, silingaliro labwino. Chifukwa chake, sankhani mwanzeru.