Zamkati
Chikondi ndi chiyani? Limenelo lakhala liri funso kwa mibadwo. Malinga ndi malingaliro achikondi ndiukwati, ndikumverera. Ndi kusankha. Ndi tsoka.
Kodi umakhulupirira chiyani pa chikondi, ndipo chasintha motani pazaka zonsezi? Ngakhale chikondi chitha kumveka chosiyana ndikutanthauza china chosiyana ndi aliyense, tonsefe timachifuna.
Akatswiri azamaukwati ndi maubale akhala akuphunzira za chikondi ndi ukwati kwanthawi yayitali.Apeza zowerengera zachikondi komanso zamaukwati pazaka zambiri zomwe, zomwe zikufunikirabe kuphunzira zamaganizidwe, mwina tonse titha kuvomerezana pa:
Malinga ndi zomwe apeza pamaganizidwe achikondi ndi okwatirana, pali "chikondi chenicheni" komanso "chikondi cha ana agalu."
Anthu ambiri amadziwa kukonda ana agalu ngati kutengeka kapena kukopeka. Chizindikiro chake chimakhala chovuta komanso chofulumira. Pali chokopa chachikulu pamenepo chomwe chimakwirira malingaliro ndi thupi.
Nthawi zambiri, chikondi cha ana agalu sichikhalitsa. Tonsefe tinali ndi kutengeka kwathu komwe; imatsanzira chikondi chenicheni koma siyofanana. Ndikotheka kuti ikule kukhala chikondi chenicheni.
Chikondi ndikumverera komanso kusankha
Malinga ndi chikondi ndi psychology yaukwati, ndizovuta kufotokoza, koma chikondi ndichinthu chomwe mumamva mumtima mwanu. Mukayamba kuyang'ana mwana wanu wakhanda, kapena mumayang'ana mnzanu patsiku lanu laukwati-mumangokhala osangalala komanso mumamchitira chilichonse munthuyo.
Koma kupitirira apo, chikondi ndichonso chisankho. Titha kusankha kuchita zomwe tikufuna kapena ayi.
Kuchita zomwezo kumabweretsa zokonda zina, ndi zina zambiri. Nthawi zina ena amakhala ovuta kuwakonda, komabe titha kusankha kukhala achikondi kwa iwo.
Chimodzimodzinso chikondi, koma ngati kusankha; ngakhale potero imatha kukhala chikondi.
Kuphatikiza apo, maanja ambiri amalowa mchikondi. Chifukwa chiyani? Izi zimakhudzana ndi momwe anthu amasinthira pakapita nthawi, komanso momwe timakhalira momasuka ndi anzathu.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zosangalatsa zaukwati ndikuti nthawi zonse ukwati umangogwira ntchito.
Ndikofunikira kuchita mwachikondi ndikusamalira ubalewo kuti chikondi chikhalebe chamoyo. Chikondi chimasintha pakapita nthawi, ngakhale kafukufuku amatero. Popanda kusamalira ukwati umakhala wosasangalatsa komanso wosasangalatsa.
Psychology of love imati mutha kukhala ndi chikondi osakwatirana, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi banja popanda chikondi. Koma, chikondi ndiukwati sizogwirizana.
Ukwati nthawi zambiri umakhala chiwonetsero cha anthu awiri omwe amalimbitsa chikondi chawo kwa wina ndi mzake mpaka kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali.
Tonsefe timafunikira chikondi. China chake chokhudza kukhala anthu chimafuna kuti timve kulumikizana ndi anzathu, kuvomerezedwa, kusamaliridwa. Izinso ndizokondedwa. Tikhumbika cha kuti anyidu atitiyanjengi ndipuso kuti atitiyanja.
Malinga ndi psychology yaukwati ndiukwati, zimatipatsa cholinga chapamwamba komanso chilimbikitso chokhala bwino ndikukhala moyo wabwino.
Tikakondedwa ngati ana, ubongo wathu umakula bwino, ndikupeza kulumikizana komwe kumatigwiritsa ntchito pamoyo wathu wonse. Komanso kumva kuti ndife otetezeka komanso osangalala ndichinthu chomwe timakhumba.
Mfundo zachikondi
Nazi zina zowona zosangalatsa za chikondi ndi ukwati.
Zowona zenizeni zachikondi zidzakupangitsani inu kumwetulira ndi mtima kusangalala ndichisangalalo. Izi zachikondi ndi maukwati okhudza ukwati zidzakuthandizaninso kupeza yankho la funso loti, "chikondi ndi ukwati ndi chiyani".
Izi zosangalatsa zokhudzana ndi malingaliro okhudza chikondi zimawunikiranso zamaganizidwe apabanja komanso zimawonetsa zowona zaubwenzi wama psychology.
Izi zosangalatsa zokhudzana ndiukwati ndi chikondi zidzakupangitsani kuti mukhalebe otentha komanso opanda chidwi, ndi mnzanu muubwenzi wokhalitsa.
- Chimodzi mwazinthu zosangalatsa zokhudzana ndi chikondi ndichakuti Kukhala mchikondi kumakupatsani mwayi wapamwamba kwambiri! Kugwa mchikondi kumayambitsa kutulutsa mahomoni ngati dopamine, oxytocin, ndi adrenaline.
- Mahomoni amenewa amakupatsani chisangalalo, kuchita bwino, komanso chisangalalo. Mukakhala mchikondi, mumakhala osangalala kwambiri.
- Zowona za chikondi chenicheni zimaphatikizapo kulingalira zokambirana ngati mwambo wopatulika womwe umalimbikitsa thanzi lanu ndikuchepetsa ululu. Kukumbatira mnzako kapena kuwakumbatira, amachepetsa kupweteka kwa mutu komanso nkhawa.
- Kukumbatira wokondedwa wanu kumapangitsa kumverera kofananako kotsitsimula monga mankhwala opweteka, ngakhale popanda zovuta zina.
- Zambiri zamaganizidwe okhudza chikondi ndi maubale zimawonetsa gawo la maubwenzi pakupanga umunthu ndi malingaliro ake.
- Kukhala mchikondi zimapangitsa anthu kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso kudzidalira. Icho amalimbikitsa anthu kukhala achifundo, achifundo ndipo amagwira ntchito m'malo osadzikonda komanso owonetsetsa.
- Inu ndi mnzanu mungapindule kwambiri mukamaseka limodzi. Zowona zamaganizidwe okhudza chikondi zimatsimikizira kufunikira kwachimwemwe ndipo kuseka m'maubale, akunena kuti chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wautali, thanzi labwino, ndikukhutira ndi ubale.
- Thokozani kwambiri mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa chokhala ndi thanzi labwino. Anthu amakhala okonzeka m'maganizo kuti azikhala m'magulu olumikizana kapena ogwirizana ndi anzawo. Mfundo zamaganizidwe okhudza ukwati zimawonetsa kufunikira kwa mgwirizano wapabanja.
- Akathandizana anzawo, amachira mwachangu matenda ndi kuvulala. Tikakhala mchikondi ndikusangalala ndi ubale wabwino, zimathandizira kutsika kwa magazi ndikuchezera kochepa kwa dokotala wanu.
- Zambiri zaukwati wachikondi zimayenera kutchulidwa za ukwati wautali kwambiri womwe udakhala zaka 86. Herbert Fisher ndi Zelmyra Fisher adakwatirana pa 13 Meyi 1924 ku North Carolina, USA.
- Adali atakwatirana zaka 86, masiku 290 kuyambira 27 February 2011, pomwe a Fisher amwalira.