Zamkati
Mnzanu akuti kwa inu, "Ngati simungathe kupeza zifukwa zosachepera zitatu pazomwe mumandikondera, ndiye kuti simundikonda. Mumangokonda lingaliro lonse la ine. Kapena mumakonda momwe ndimakupangitsirani kumva kapena momwe ndimawonekera; mumakonda chisamaliro chimene ndimakupatsani, koma simundikonda. ”
Kodi mumatani?
Mutha kukhala pansi ndikuganizira zomwe zikuchitika, chifukwa chomwe mnzanu akukufunsani mafunso onsewa. Koma chowonadi ndichakuti anthu lero akulakwitsa pazomwe chikondi chiri. Amakonda kuganiza kuti chikondi chimamverera ngakhale sichoncho. Amakhulupirira kuti kukhala pachikondi kumatanthauza agulugufe ndi utawaleza; kuganizira za munthu m'modzi nthawi zonse tsiku lanu lonse.
Apa ndipomwe amalakwitsa! Agulugufe awa ndi malingaliro okhala ndi wokondedwa wanu si chikondi. Ndikutengeka. Ndizosangalatsa, koma sizikutanthauza chikondi.
Ndiye kodi chikondi ndi chiyani?
Chikondi ndi chiyani?
Chikondi ndi kuwawa komanso kudzipereka. Chikondi chimanyengerera ndi ulemu. Chikondi ndichinthu chokongola kwambiri komanso chenicheni mdziko lapansi ndipo mukabwezeredwa kumatha kukupangitsani kumva kuti simunadziwe kuti kunaliko.
Ingoganizirani winawake akudziwa zonse za inu monga kumbuyo kwa dzanja lanu. Ngakhale zinthu zosafunika zomwe simukufuna kuti aliyense adziwe; monga zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani manyazi.
Ingoganizirani nokha mukusokoneza ndikumulola munthuyu, ndipo akukhululukirani.
Ndi anzeru mokwanira kuti awerenge pakati pamizere, kuti amvetsetse momwe zinthu ziliri ndipo sakuweruzani. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amakukondani.
Amawona zinthu zazing'ono kwambiri monga chilonda cha ntchafu zanu kapena mole pakhosi panu, mutha kuzida, koma amaganiza kuti zimakufotokozerani.
Amazindikira momwe mumasunthira mukakhala m'chipinda chodzaza anthu kapena momwe mumalira mukamva malumbiro aukwati a wina. Amapeza zinthu izi kukhala zabwino ngakhale mutazipeza kuti sizakhwima.
Amakonda mtima wanu komanso chifundo chomwe chimagwira, amakudziwani ngati kumbuyo kwa dzanja lanu. Ichi ndi chomwe chikondi chiri. Ndikudziwika kwathunthu komanso kokwanira komabe kuvomerezedwa.
Wina akakukondani, amakukondani nonse osati magawo omwe mumawoneka bwino.
Kodi chikondi chingasankhe bwanji?
Wogwiritsa ntchito Tumblr wazaka 25, Taylor Myers yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito dzina lachiwerewere wokongola adasankha kugawana malingaliro ake pa chikondi ndi maubale. Adatinso adakhalapo pachibwenzi cha moyo wonse ndipo adati mantha ake akulu sakuopanso kutalika kapena malo otsekedwa. M'malo mwake, amawopa kuti munthu amene nthawi ina adaona nyenyezi zonse m'maso mwanu atha kukondana pakapita nthawi.
Anatinso munthu yemwe nthawi ina adapeza kuti kuwuma kwanu kuli kokongola komanso mapazi anu atagona kwambiri atha kupezanso kuti kuumitsa kwanu ndikukana kunyengerera komanso mapazi anu ngati osakhwima.
Uthengawu udafikira anthu ambiri, ndipo adagwirizana ndi mawu awa kuti kutha kwaubwenzi ndi kupembedzera kwaubwenzi wanu zitatha, zonse zomwe mwatsala ndi phulusa lothana nalo. Pambuyo pake mu positi ina, pomwe anali ndi nkhawa zochepa, adawonjezeranso.
Anati gawo lokongola kwambiri mkalasi linali pomwe aphunzitsi ake amafunsa ophunzira ake ngati chikondi ndichosankha kapena kumverera. Ngakhale ana ambiri amati ndikumverera, aphunzitsiwo amaganiza mwanjira ina.
Amanena kuti chikondi ndikudzipereka kwanu kuti mukhale wokhulupirika kwa munthu wosakwatira.
Pambuyo paukwati wazaka zingapo, wachikondi-dovey akumva kuzimiririka ndipo zonse zomwe mwatsala ndikudzipereka komwe mudapanga.
Simungathe kukhazikitsa ubale pamaziko osakhazikika ngati malingaliro. Wina akakukondani, amakukondani nonse. Amawona zofooka zanu ndipo amakukondanibe.
Iwo samakuweruza iwe; amakupirirani, amakukhulupirirani ndipo amayang'ana mbali yanu yabwinoko. Amakukhulupirirani, ndipo akakukwiyirani, amalankhula nanu modekha. Amayang'ana kwambiri za chibwenzicho m'malo moyang'ana kulondola. Mukamakonda munthu wina, kuvomereza zolakwa zawo kumangobwera mwachibadwa.
Malingaliro atatha, chisangalalo chakuyembekezera kupezeka kwawo chikutha, mumakhala pakhomo ndikudikirira kuti abwerere kunyumba chifukwa mumawakonda. Chifukwa mumasankha kudzipereka kwa iwo. Chifukwa mumapanga chisankho ndipo mukufuna kukulemekezani.
Munapanga chisankho. Simuyenera kuchita kumva kuti mumakonda.
Masiku ena mumadzuka ndi munthu amene anakukhumudwitsani, ndipo mumadya nawo chakudya cham'mawa ndikusankha kuwachitira zabwino. Ichi ndi chomwe chikondi chiri.