Zamkati
- Ubwenzi wokonda chikondi kapena woopa
- Kukhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mnzanu
- Kukhala ndi mantha
- Nsanje
- Kukhazikika
- Kukangana
- Kukwiya
- Wokongola
- Kuganiza mopitilira muyeso
Ubale umayenera kukhala wokondedwa.
Ndiwo maziko aubwenzi wolimba. Kusakhalapo kwake kungasokoneze ubale wabwino pakati pa anthu awiriwa. Ngakhale tonsefe timadziwa, pali maubwenzi ena omwe amakhala owopsa.
Poyeneradi! Muubwenzi wotere, mantha alowa m'malo mwa chikondi.
Nthawi zina anthu amadziwa ndipo adasankha okha kukhala pachibwenzi choterocho, koma nthawi zina samadziwa kuti ali pachibwenzi.
M'munsimu tatchulapo zolozera zomwe zitha kusiyanitsa pakati pa ubale wachikondi ndi ubale wamantha. Ngati muli pachibwenzi chokhala ndi mantha ndibwino kutuluka.
Ubwenzi wokonda chikondi kapena woopa
Tisanayambe kudziwa ngati muli pachibwenzi choterocho, tiyeni tiwone mwachidule tanthauzo la awiriwa.
Kutengera kokhazikika pa chikondi ndi mtendere, chitonthozo, ufulu, kulumikizana, kutseguka, chilakolako, ulemu, kumvetsetsa, kuthandizira, chidaliro, chidaliro, chisangalalo, chisangalalo ndi zina zotero. Pomwe, malingaliro amantha amakhala kusatetezeka, kupweteka, kudziimba mlandu, nsanje, mkwiyo, manyazi, chisoni et al.
Kutengeka kotani komwe kumayendetsa ubale wanu kumatanthauzira mtundu waubwenzi womwe muli. Komabe kupatula malingaliro awa, pali malingaliro kapena zizolowezi zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupanga chisankho choyenera.
Kukhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mnzanu
Sizachilendo kukhala ndi mnzanuyo ndikukhala nawo nthawi yabwino. Komabe, zonse zili ndi malire. Muubwenzi wabwinobwino, pamakhala malo ampata pakati pa abwenzi.
Mukakhala pachibwenzi chotengeka ndi mantha, mukufuna kukhala ndi mnzanu, nthawi zonse. Mungapeze kuti mukutengeka kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wanu. Simungalole kuti ziwonongeke m'masomphenya anu. Pali mzere woonda pakati pamiyeso yolumikizana yolondola ndi kulumikizana kwambiri.
Osadutsa mzere.
Kukhala ndi mantha
Mantha amadza pamene timaganiza kuti titaya wina amene timamukonda.
Zimachitika mwina chifukwa chodzikayikira komanso kudziona kuti ndiwofunika kapena timakhulupirira kuti wina awakopa. Kumva kumeneku kumatipangitsa kuchita zinthu zosayenera.
Pamapeto pake timachita zinthu zomwe zitha kusiya chiwonetsero chosayerekezeka muubwenzi wathu. Munthu amene amadziderera kapena amakhulupirira kuti ndiabwino kwa wokondedwa wawo adzakhala ndi malingaliro oterowo.
Nsanje
Palibe vuto kukhala ndi nsanje yoti chibwenzi chimapangitsa nonse kukhalabe limodzi. Komabe, kupitirira kwa nsanje iyi kumakhudza ubale wanu.
Munthu wansanje angafune kuwongolera mnzake, momwe angathere.
Amapanga milandu ndipo amakhala ndi zifukwa zosafunikira zomwe zingapangitse ubalewu kukhala woopsa.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukusuntha ndipo nsanje yathanzi yasintha, funsani upangiri wa wina. Simungafune kuthetsa chibwenzi chanu chifukwa cha ichi, sichoncho?
Kukhazikika
Mu chikondi vs ubale wamantha, chikondi chimatenga malo mukakhazikika ndi mnzanu. Pamene chikondi chikuyendetsa ubale wanu mumakhala okhutira komanso kunyumba mukakhala ndi mnzanu.
Mumakhala osangalala komanso okhutira ndipo pamapeto pake mumakhala ngati mukufuna kukhala nawo. Mukuyembekezera tsogolo lanu ndipo mukufuna kukhala nawo moyo limodzi. Komabe, mantha akayendetsa chibwenzicho, simukudziwa kuti mwakhazikika ndi mnzanuyo.
Pali malingaliro olakwika omwe amakulepheretsani kupita patsogolo.
Kukangana
Monga nsanje yabwinobwino, kukangana koyenera kumafunika pachibwenzi. Imafotokoza zamomwe aliyense angasankhe komanso momwe mumalemekezera izi.
Mphamvu zimasintha ngati muli pachibwenzi choyanjidwa ndi mantha.
Zikatere, mumayamba kukangana pazinthu zazing'ono kapena zosafunikira. Izi zimachitika mukamalephera kuthana ndi mavuto anu ndi malingaliro amutu. Kuopa kosalephera kutaya mnzanu kumabweretsa chisankho.
Kukwiya
Palibe malo oti mungakhumudwitse mnzanu.
Mukuwakonda ndipo mumawalandira momwe alili. Mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi chikondi, mumaphunzira kuiwala zinthu. Mumaphunzira kunyalanyaza zinthu ndikuyang'ana pazabwino.
Komabe, muubwenzi woyendetsedwa ndi mantha, simukwiyitsidwa ndi zomwe mnzanuyo wachita. Simukusangalala ndi kholo lanu ndipo zochita zawo zimakupangitsani kuti muziwakwiyira. Izi zimabweretsa ubale woopsa womwe pamapeto pake umatha.
Wokongola
Mukadziwa kuti mnzanu amakulandirani momwe mulili, palibe funso lodziyesa kuti ndinu winawake.
Mumakhala omasuka pakhungu lanu ndipo mumamasuka. Mukutsimikiza za chikondi ndikusangalala nacho. Mu chikondi vs ubale wamantha, pomwe womalizirayo amayendetsa zinthu; mumakhulupirira kuti kuchita zinthu mwanjira inayake ndi njira yothetsera chibwenzi.
Mumayamba kuchita kapena kudziyesa kuti ndinu omwe simuli. Mukuwopa kuti mukakhala inu, mungataye mnzanu. Komabe, kuwira kokongola kumeneku kumaphulika pamapeto pake ndipo zinthu sizimayendanso bwino.
Kuganiza mopitilira muyeso
Mukuganiza zochuluka motani paubwenzi wanu?
Mukakhutira ndi zomwe muli nazo, mumakonzekera tsogolo lanu ndikuganiza zabwino zonse zomwe mungachite ndi mnzanu.
Zinthu ndizosiyana ndi zomwe zidachitika. Muubwenzi woyendetsedwa ndi mantha, mumangokhalira kuganizira za ubale wanu. Mukuwopa kuti wokondedwa wanu adzakusiyani kwa wina, mumayamba kuwazonda ndikuchita zonse zomwe simukuyenera kuchita.
Pamalingaliro amatenga gawo lalikulu mu izi. Ngati ndinu amene mumaganizira kwambiri zinthu, ndiye kuti mukumvetsa.