Zamkati
- Kumvetsetsa zomwe akazi amafuna muubwenzi
- 1. Amayi amalakalaka kukondana basi
- 2. Amayi amasangalala kukhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
- 3. Fulumira kupepesa
- 4. Khalani ozindikira ku zosowa za wina ndi mnzake
- 5. Perekani thandizo mosayembekezera kuti afunsidwe
- 6. Landirani kutsutsidwa ndikupha mkwiyo, osati malingaliro
- Malangizo ochepa ochezera azimayi
- 1. Akazi akuyenera kulemekeza amuna awo
- 2. Muyenera kukwaniritsa chosowa chake chachikulu - kugonana
- 1. Kugonana kumabweretsa mavuto, kuthupi ndi mmaganizo
- 2. Khalani ndi zothandizira zina pafupi
- 3. Ukhondo waumwini
- 4. Amayi ambiri amafuna kukhala pawokha
- 5. Sungani foni yanu
- 6. Sungani chinsinsi
- 7. Zomwe zilipo zitha kuthandiza
- 8. Landirani zokumana nazo zomwe sizabwino kwenikweni
- 9. Konzani masiku oti musangalatsane
- 10. Kulankhulana wina ndi mnzake
- 11. Konzani zopulumuka zachikondi
Katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Kevin Leman akuti, "Kugonana kumayambira kukhitchini." Muyenera kugwira ntchito tsiku lonse kuti musasunge zinsinsi komanso kukondana m'banja mwanu komanso mupeze njira zopezera wokondedwa wanu chisangalalo.
Ngati amuna alephera kuzindikira kapena kuyamikira kuyesayesa kwa akazi awo makamaka akamakhala m'makutu ake ndi matewera ndi mbale zonyansa, ndiye kuti mwina sangayankhe zomwe mumakonda mukamagona.
Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuphunzira kusangalatsa mnzanu m'njira iliyonse.
Kumvetsetsa zomwe akazi amafuna muubwenzi
Mkazi amafuna chibwenzi chonse, osati kugonana kokha.
Buku komanso kanema wa 1995 The Bridges of Madison County adawonetsera mzimayi yemwe amadziona kuti ndiwosavuta komanso wosayamikiridwa mpaka mlendo atazindikira luso lake, nzeru zake, ndi ukazi wake. Amadzuka kuti akhale wokongola kwanthawi zonse pocheza naye kwakanthawi komwe amasungira mwachinsinsi moyo wake wonse.
Amuna, alangizeni, inunso, muli ndi mphamvu zotulutsa kukongola koteroko kapena kuziphwanya (monga mwamuna wake) kwa mkazi wanu.
1. Amayi amalakalaka kukondana basi
Amayi amalakalaka kukondana chifukwa cha zawo osati ngati njira yothetsera mavuto.
Amuna sayenera kuyembekezera kuti akazi awo akangobweretsa maluwa kunyumba, kuyatsa makandulo angapo, kapena kusamba mozizira, akazi awo angafune kulumpha nthawi yomweyo kuti agone nawo.
Osatengera izi, atha kungolakalaka kusangalala ndi kandulo kamtanda ndi wokondedwa wake ndikukambirana za tsiku lake kapena kumva zanu. Chifukwa chake, mufunseni zomwe akuwona kuti ndizokonda, kenako muphatikize zinthuzo muubwenzi wanu ndikusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu.
2. Amayi amasangalala kukhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
Amayi amakonda kukhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Amakonda kugwiridwa, kusisitidwa, ndikunyinyidwa popanda kumva kuti akukakamizidwa kuti abweze chilichonse. Kupanda kutero, amatha kudzimva ngati zinthu zogonana, monga zotengera umuna wa amuna awo.
Tsoka ilo kwa amuna, koma ndi momwe mkazi amamverera ndikuyembekezera kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wake. Monga mwamuna, ngati mulephera kuwonetsa khalidweli, mutha kumutaya kwamuyaya.
Chifukwa chake, pangitsani wokondedwa wanu kukhala wokondwa pomulemekeza pazabwino zake zina komanso zopereka kuukwati wanu,
3. Fulumira kupepesa
Sungani maakaunti amafupiafupi, ndiye kuti, musachedwe kupempha chikhululukiro pazokhumudwitsa zilizonse ndi kusamvana kuti musunge umodzi wamalingaliro.
4. Khalani ozindikira ku zosowa za wina ndi mnzake
Funsani mkazi aliyense mafunso monga 'momwe mungapangire kuti mwamuna wanu akhale wosangalala, mwamalingaliro kapena pogonana?' Amadziwa zidule ndi maupangiri osiyanasiyana momwe angasungitsire abambo awo chisangalalo, mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro.
Momwemonso, ndiudindo wa inu monga amuna odalirika kuphunzira njira zopangira wokondedwa wanu kukhala osangalala. Kufunika kogonana ndi testosterone kwamwamuna kumakhala kotheka ngati kufunikira kwa mkazi kulira kapena kutulutsa zakukhosi kwake patsiku lovutitsidwa ndi estrogen, lovuta pamavuto.
5. Perekani thandizo mosayembekezera kuti afunsidwe
Komanso ngati amuna odalirika, muyenera kuzindikira nthawi yomwe akazi anu ali ndi zochuluka zantchito kuti muzitha kuwathandiza osadikirira kuti akupempheni.
Ngati mungawone mwana akulira akukoka mwendo wa Amayi pomwe akuyesera kuthandiza Junior masamu ake ndi Sissie wamng'ono pamalembo ake, ndipo mbale zodetsedwa za chakudya chamadzulo zidakalipobe pasinki, ndikhulupilira simukuganiziranso , "Ndikudandaula ngati angadzakhalepo pang'ono usikuuno."
Ingokumbukirani! Nthawi zina kutsuka mbale ndikumuika mwanayo ndizo zinthu zanzeru kwambiri zomwe mungachite.
6. Landirani kutsutsidwa ndikupha mkwiyo, osati malingaliro
Mvetsetsani kudzudzula ndi mkwiyo zimapha umodzi wamalingaliro.
Ngati mukufuna kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu, ingoyesani mawu anu ndikuzindikira mauthenga obisika (kapena osakhala obisika) mumalankhulidwe anu amawu ndi nkhope.
Zomwe mukufunikira ndikungopha kupsa mtima kwanu koma osathetsa umodzi umodzi ndi iye.
Malangizo ochepa ochezera azimayi
Amayi ndi atsikana achichepere ali ndi luso lotha kusangalatsa anzawo. Chifukwa chake, mukafunsidwa pamitu yofananira ndi iyi 'Mumamupangitsa bwanji munthu wanu kukhala wachimwemwe pachibwenzi?', Mwinanso mungadalitsidwe ndi mayankho angapo osangalatsa.
Koma, azimayi amakono akuyenera kuthana ndi malingaliro ochepa olakwika monga -
1. Akazi akuyenera kulemekeza amuna awo
Poganiza kuti ife monga akazi tiribe chochita pankhaniyi, koma talamulidwa kuti TIWENERE amuna athu zivute zitani, ndiye kuti kulingalira ndiko KULAKWIKA.
Siyani zomwe mukuchita pakadali pano ndikupumira pang'ono, tsekani maso anu, ndikuthokoza Ambuye chifukwa chakupatsani mwamunayo kuti akhale wokondedwa wanu, ngwazi, wothandizira, komanso woteteza nyumba yanu.
Ganizirani zabwino zake zonse ndikukonzekera njira zomudziwitsira kuti mumamuyamikira chifukwa cha izi.
2. Muyenera kukwaniritsa chosowa chake chachikulu - kugonana
Monga akazi, kumbukirani kuti mukamagonana ndi amuna anu, mumakwaniritsa zosowa zake zoyambirira.
Malingaliro onga awa ndi osalimbikitsa. Osamaziona mopepuka. M'malo mwake, ganizirani iyi ndi imodzi mwanjira zabwino zopangira wokondedwa wanu kukhala osangalala. Apa, mukupanga kulumikizana ndi iye komwe sikungapangidwe mwanjira ina iliyonse.
Mukukulitsa kukopa kwamaginito komwe kumamupangitsa kuti abwererenso kudzamuchulukitsa komanso kumamulepheretsa kuti apite kwina kuti akwaniritse zosowazo.
Ndi maupangiri ena angapo oti musangalale ndi banja losangalala
1. Kugonana kumabweretsa mavuto, kuthupi ndi mmaganizo
Kugonana kumakupatsirani nonse kumasula mavuto, mwakuthupi ndi mwamalingaliro, kwinaku kukupatsirani njira yodziwonera nokha pamene mukuphunzira kudzipereka komanso kupatsa ndi kulandira zokondweretsa.
2. Khalani ndi zothandizira zina pafupi
Mafuta odzola, Kleenex kapena nsalu yochapira, mafuta opopera kapena chingamu, mafuta odzola kapena mafuta opaka msana kapena opaka phazi, nyimbo zachikondi, makandulo, ndi machesi ndizochepa chabe zothandizira zomwe zimayenera kupezeka zikafunika.
3. Ukhondo waumwini
Ngati mukufuna kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu, nthawi zonse kumbukirani kusamalira ukhondo wanu.
Ukhondo umayandikira Umulungu.
4. Amayi ambiri amafuna kukhala pawokha
Kodi chitseko cha chipinda chanu chogona chimakhala chotseka? Kodi ana amakhala otanganidwa kuti asakusokonezeni?
Anthu ena ogonana “amasinthana pogonana” ndipo amasinthana kusinthana ana kuti awonetsetse kuti pali nthawi yosagwedezeka ya chibwenzi.
5. Sungani foni yanu
Apanso, ngati mukufuna kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosangalala ndikusangalala mwamtendere kunyumba, gwirizanani kuti musayankhe foni ali pafupi nanu.
Mafoni ndi zida zina monga ma laputopu ndi mapiritsi atha kukhala magwero akulu azisokonezo ndi mkwiyo m'maubale. Khazikitsani lamulo - lolani kuti makalata anu amawu kapena makina oyankhira akuchitireni ntchitoyi.
6. Sungani chinsinsi
Nthawi zonse yesani zinthu zatsopano kuti chinsinsi china chikhalebe chamoyo. Zinthu monga kuyatsa magetsi ndikuchedwa kuvina ndi zovala zanu zonse kuti mungamve matupi anu akuyenda limodzi. Pena, kudyesana ma strawberries oviikidwa mu chokoleti, kenako ndikunyambita chokoleti chala chawo ndi zina zotero.
Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale chiyambi cha kugonana kuposa kungovula zovala ndikukagona, chitha kugwira ntchito bwino kuti moto wachikondi uziyaka.
7. Zomwe zilipo zitha kuthandiza
Gwiritsani ntchito zinthu zomwe zikupezeka kwa inu monga mabuku, ma CD ndi matepi, ma DVD ndi matepi a vidiyo amalingaliro.
Yang'anani pa Banja (Dr. James Dobson), FamilyLife (Dennis Rainey), Mgwirizano Wokwatirana magazini, Association of Marriage and Family Ministries (AMFM — Eric ndi Jennifer Garcia), Real Relationships (Dr. Dr. Les ndi Leslie Parrot), Smalley Relationship Center (Dr. Dr. Gary ndi Greg Smalley), ndi National Association of Marriage Enhancement (DZINA -Leo ndi Molly Godzich), osanenapo za Walk & Talk Ministries athu ndi ochepa chabe omwe amapereka upangiri waluso paukwati kudzera pamisonkhano, intaneti komanso malo ogulitsa mabuku.
8. Landirani zokumana nazo zomwe sizabwino kwenikweni
Dziwani kuti sizinthu zonse zomwe zimayenera kukhala "10" yangwiro, ndiye kuti lingaliro lanu la kuphulika, ziwonetsero zomwe zimachitika munthawi yomweyo.
Nthawi zina mkazi amakhala wokonzeka kukhazikika "mwachangu" kuti akondweretse mwamuna wake ndikupitilira ku chinthu chotsatira m'moyo wake wotanganidwa. Koma onetsetsani kuti mukugwirizana bwino, mukamayang'ana zokondweretsana, kamodzi pa sabata.
9. Konzani masiku oti musangalatsane
Pangani masiku a magawo apaderawa osangalatsa, makamaka ngati mukudziwa kuti mnzanu ali ndi "nthawi yabwino".
10. Kulankhulana wina ndi mnzake
Khalani okonzeka kukambirana zomwe mumakonda wina ndi mnzake.
Kodi mnzanuyo amakonda kupakidwa phazi kapena kupukutira msana kapena kupaka khosi? Zikondwe kapena zokanda kumbuyo? Maudindo osiyanasiyana? Kuyang'ana wina ndi mnzake?
Zinthu izi zimafotokozedweratu momasuka mukakhala ndi nthawi yambiri osasokonezedwa.
11. Konzani zopulumuka zachikondi
Zomwe zimatifikitsa kumapeto athu omalizira kuti mnzanu akhale wosangalala.
Patulani masiku ochepa kamodzi kapena kawiri pachaka kuti mupewe kuthawirana — NDIPO POPANDA ANTHU — kuti muzingoganizira za chibwenzi chanu chokha. Kupulumuka uku kapena "Mapeto Amodzi Amodzi a R" Achikondi, Zosangalatsa, ndi Kukonzanso ndizabwino kuti mnzanu akhale wosangalala.