Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani chifukwa chake mwasankhana
- 2. Kutanthauzira magawo amgwirizano kuyambira pomwepo
- 3. Kukhulupirirana
- 4. Pewani kukhala okakamira
- 5. Sungani zinthu mwamphamvu
- 6. Pangani ubale kukhala patsogolo
Tsopano muli pachibwenzi chokondana, chokwaniritsana! Mwaphunzira zambiri pazolakwa zomwe mudalipo kale ndipo mukufuna kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti ubalewu ukhale wachimwemwe kwa nonse. Kodi ndi njira ziti zomwe zingathandize kuti ubale wanu ukhale wopindulitsa, wokhutiritsa komanso wopambana?
1. Dziwani chifukwa chake mwasankhana
Dzikumbutseni zifukwa zomwe maubwenzi akale adalepherera. Munapanga chibwenzi ndi mnyamata m'modzi chifukwa anali ndi ndalama ndipo ankakonda kukuwonongerani, koma munanyalanyaza kuti anali wankhanza komanso wosakhulupirika. Mmodzi mwa zibwenzi zanu zakale anali wokongola; vuto munali nonse awiri munalibe zokambirana mukakhala panja pa chipinda chogona.
Nthawi ino, komabe, mukuwona kuti zonse zilipo bwino. Simuyenera “kukhala” pa chifukwa china koma chikondi. Kukopa kwanu kwa iye sikudalira akaunti yake yakubanki kapena mawonekedwe ake akuthupi. Mukudziwa kuti mumamukonda pazifukwa zomveka. Ichi ndiye chiyambi chabwino kwambiri chotsimikizira kuti chibwenzi chanu chidzayenda bwino kwanthawi yayitali.
2. Kutanthauzira magawo amgwirizano kuyambira pomwepo
Ichi ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti banja lachiwerewere lipambane chifukwa limafunikira kulumikizana ndi wokondedwa wanu kuti muwonetsetse kuti nonse mukuyang'ana ubale womwewo. Ngati m'modzi wa inu akufuna kuti zinthu zikhale zotseguka ndipo winayo akufuna njira yokhayo, zikuwonekeratu kuti nonsenu simukuyenera kukondana.
Ngakhale mutaganizira mochuluka bwanji kuti mwamunayo ndi inu, ngati saona ubale monga momwe mumaonera, ndiye kuti mukukhumudwitsidwa. Uku ndikulankhulana komwe kuyenera kukonzedwanso miyezi isanu ndi umodzi iliyonse, chifukwa ubale wanu ukusintha, zoyembekezera zanu zingathenso. Mabanja ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe adayamba kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi mkazi m'modzi amasankha, patatha zaka limodzi, kuti atsegule chibwenzicho ndi chinthu chomwe onse akufuna kuwona. Kaya magawo ake amawoneka bwanji, ndikofunikira kuti nonse mugwirizane chimodzi.
3. Kukhulupirirana
Palibe chomwe chingalepheretse ubale womwe ukukula mwachangu kuposa nsanje. Mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu ena amaganiza, kuonetsa nsanje ukawona chibwenzi chako chikuyanjana ndi anthu ena sichizindikiro cha chikondi. (Osati chikondi chopatsa thanzi, mulimonsemo.) Ngati ndinu munthu wansanje mwachilengedwe, ganizirani kufotokozera zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa kusatetezeka ndi mlangizi waluso kuti zisathetse ukwati ndi wokondedwa wanu. Palibe mgwirizano wolimba womwe ungakhalepo ngati palibe kukhulupirirana pakati pa ophunzira awiriwo.
4. Pewani kukhala okakamira
Pakhoza kukhala chizolowezi makamaka m'masiku oyambira nkhani yanu yachikondi chofuna kukhala ndi bwenzi lanu usiku ndi usana. Uku ndikulakwitsa wamba kupanga ndipo kungakhale chifukwa chomwe maubale atsopano amatenthedwa msanga. Onetsetsani kuti musiyane wina ndi mnzake malo opumira. Ngakhale sizibwera mwachibadwa kwa inu, zikakamizeni kuti mupite kukachita nawo zomwe mumakonda musanakwatirane. Masewera anu, malo omwe mumalemba, odzipereka kugwira ntchito ndi gulu la LGBT - chilichonse chomwe mudachita nawo musanakumane ndi Mr. Right, pitirizani kutero. Zimakupangitsani kukhala zosangalatsa komanso zimapangitsa kuti anyamata anu azikukondani.
5. Sungani zinthu mwamphamvu
Palibe chomwe chimachepetsa malawi a chikondi mwachangu kuposa chizolowezi. Mukangoyenda bwino pachibwenzi chanu, ndikosavuta kugwera mumsampha wanthawi zonse. Ngakhale zili bwino kumva kukhala otetezeka komanso okhazikika, ndizosangalatsa ngati simutuluka chakale chimodzimodzi nthawi ndi nthawi. Funsani banja lililonse lochita bwino momwe amasungira moto, ndipo angakuwuzeni kuti izi ndizokhudza kuzigwedeza nthawi ndi nthawi. Maulendo odabwitsika kumapeto kwa sabata, tchuthi chachilendo, masewera atsopano, kuyesa china chosiyana mchipinda chogona ... tulukani m'malo anu abwino ndikuwone komwe zingakutengereni ndi mnzanu.
6. Pangani ubale kukhala patsogolo
Onetsetsani kuti mumatenga nthawi kuti muwonetse mnzanu kuti mumaika patsogolo ubale wanu. Kodi ndi njira zina ziti zomwe mungachitire izi? Pitani ku zochitika naye, ngakhale simukufuna kuchita nawo phwando la Khrisimasi muofesi yake. Dziperekeni usiku umodzi sabata iliyonse kuti mukhale ndi usiku, komwe mungayesere malo odyera atsopano, pitani ku nthetemya, mverani zokamba ku yunivesite yakomweko ... chilichonse chomwe mukuchitira limodzi. Tengani nthawi yolingalira za wina ndi mnzake ndikulankhula ... za sabata yanu, ntchito yanu, zovuta zanu komanso kupambana kwanu. Ndipo musanyalanyaze moyo wanu wogonana! Ndi zachilendo kupeza kuti kugonana kwanu kumachepetsedwa patatha zaka zambiri mutakhala limodzi, koma sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kuvomereza "zachilendo." Kukhudza ndi gawo lowonetsa mnzanu kuti ndiwofunika kwambiri. Kumbukirani mphamvu yakupsompsonana ndi kukumbatirana nthawi yayitali. Ngakhale wina atatopa kwambiri chifukwa chogonana, kutikita minofu yayitali ndi njira yabwino yolankhulirana ndi mnzanu.
Mukakhala ndi munthu woyenera, mukufuna kuchita zomwe zimatengera kuti ubalewo ukhale wopambana. Mwamwayi, chifukwa mwasankha munthu woyenera, zinthu izi sizidzawoneka ngati ntchito! Ngati chibwenzi chanu ndi chosangalala komanso chopindulitsa, kukhazikitsa malangizowa kumawoneka kwachilengedwe. Chikondi chabwino ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali, ndipo kuyesetsa kuti chikhalepo ndikofunika.