Zamkati
- Kufika pamalo ozama tanthauzo ndi kuyanjana kumatanthauza ntchito yambiri
- Fufuzani madera aubwana wanu kuti mufufuze zamaubwenzi anu
- Timawona dziko lapansi modabwitsa malinga ndi ubwana wathu
- Mvetsetsani masitayilo anu apadera kuti muyambe kuchira
Ubale umakhala wokopa mwachilengedwe komanso zotulukapo zake, zofananira ndi zomwe zimachitika ndi mankhwala, pamankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kusiya. Poyamba, ndi zachilendo zomwe zimalimbikitsa chidwi komanso chidwi chokhala ndi nthawi yochuluka momwe tingathere ndi munthuyo, kumvetsera mwatsatanetsatane ndikuphunzira zomwe tingathe, kuwadziwa, thupi, malingaliro ndi moyo. Mtengo ndi chiyembekezo cha moyo waubwenzi wapano zimatengera thanzi la zomwe timakhulupirira kuti ndife oyenera komanso zomwe timawopa kapena kudalira ena. Kukhala ndi banja lolimba kapena kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali kudzafuna kuti tizindikire momwe timasamalirira thanzi lathu komanso mnzathu.
Kufika pamalo ozama tanthauzo ndi kuyanjana kumatanthauza ntchito yambiri
Chidziwitso choyambirira cha ubale watsopano chimakhala chachikulu ndipo china chake chomwe timapitiliza kufunafuna ndikulakalaka chifukwa chakukondweretsa. Timamva kulumikizana ndikudzimva kukhala wathanzi mu umunthu watsopano womwe tili nawo. Sitingathe kupeza okwanira. Ndi chikondi, ndichizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndimatupi athu olumikizana ndi munthu wina. Komabe palibe kulumikizana kulikonse padziko lapansi komwe kungapirire nyengo yoyamba yachisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Nthawi ina, zosapeweka zimachitika. Kuti "tifanane" tiyenera kukhala osatetezeka, ndipo pamenepo timayamba zosangalatsa.
Akuyerekeza kuti pakati penipeni pa mwezi wa 12-18 pamwezi, timayamba kukhazikika wina ndi mnzake. Sitili olumikizidwa ndi mankhwala monga poyamba. Timaganiza zamakhalidwe. Timayamba kupanga nkhani za munthuyu kutengera mbiri yathu ndikugawana zomwe takumana nazo. Chidziwitso chatsika ndipo sitilinso ndi kuthamanga komwe tinkachita kale. Kufika pamalo ozama tanthauzo ndi kuyanjana kumatanthauza ntchito yambiri, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri pakufunika kukulitsa chiopsezo chathu. Ndipo kusatetezeka kumatanthauza chiopsezo. Kutengera ndi zomwe takumana nazo m'mbuyomu tidzawona ubalewo kudzera m'malingaliro athu ophunzirira kapena chiyembekezo chodalirika. Kutsimikiza kwa zomwe ndimayembekezera komanso momwe ndimasewera gawo langa pakuvina ndimayamba ndikakumana koyamba ndi chikondi ndikukondana, ubwana wanga. (Ikani mpukutu wamaso apa).
Fufuzani madera aubwana wanu kuti mufufuze zamaubwenzi anu
Timalowerera m'miyoyo yathu, kwakukulu, osadziwa chifukwa chake timayankha ndikulowetsa mauthenga momwe timachitira. Tonse ndife apadera ndipo timakhala moyo wathu wonse kudzera muma template athu ndipo zomwe timafotokoza ndi zomwe tidaphunzira tili achichepere.
Monga wothandizira, ndimayamba kufufuza templateyi ndi makasitomala anga mwa kufunsa mafunso. Kodi zinali bwanji kwanu mukadali achichepere? Kodi kutentha kwamaganizidwe kunali kotani? Kodi chikondi chimawoneka bwanji? Kodi mikangano inkathetsedwa bwanji? Kodi amayi ndi abambo anu analipo? Kodi anali omasuka? Kodi adakwiya? Kodi anali odzikonda? Kodi anali ndi nkhawa? Kodi anali ovutika maganizo? Amayi ndi abambo anali bwanji? Kodi zosowa zanu zimathandizidwa bwanji? Kodi mumadzimva okondedwa, ofuna, otetezedwa, otetezeka, patsogolo? Kodi mwamva manyazi? Timakhululukiranso mavuto m'banja chifukwa, zinthu zili bwino tsopano, zinali pamenepo, zingandikhudze bwanji tsopano ndili wamkulu, amapereka, ndi zina zambiri. Zowona zonse, koma sizothandiza ngati munthu akufuna kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake kumva ndi kuchita zinthu m'njira zina.
Ngati anthu ali okonzeka kufufuza chifukwa chake ubale wawo uli pamavuto komanso zomwe akuyenera kuganizira kuti athetse vuto lawo, osati muubwenzi wokha koma mwa iwo okha, ndiye kuti akuyenera kukhala ndi munthu wothawirako kuyambira ali mwana komanso momwe zimadzikhudzira pamoyo wawo. Kufufuza, mwa njira yopanda kuweruza, chidwi, momwe tidasinthira chilengedwe chathu ngati mwana kuti tiwonetsetse kulumikizana kwina ndi m'mene tidatanthauzira kufunika kwathu kokhala ndi zosowa kumakwaniritsidwa ndi chikondi ndi kuvomereza kopanda tanthauzo.
Ndikuyitanitsa makasitomala anga kuti adze mbali ya ubwana wawo, kuti mwina awone zomwe zikuchitika ngati kuti amaziwona zikusewera mu kanema ndikufotokozera zomwe akuwona. Ndikubwereza, osadzudzula koma kuti ndimvetsetse ndikupeza njira zokonzetsera asanafike chiwonongeko kuyambira ana akuwonongeka masiku ano.
Timawona dziko lapansi modabwitsa malinga ndi ubwana wathu
Talingalirani kwakanthawi, kuti pamawonekedwe owopsa, aliyense wa ife ali ndi mtundu wina wazowonongeka zomwe zimafalikira m'mbali zonse za moyo wathu. Monga ana, timaphatikiza zomwe omwe amatisamalira makamaka amatipatsa ndikudziyesa tokha potengera momwe adatithandizira ndikuleredwa. Tili munjira yopulumuka ngati ana. Kuyendetsa kwathu ndikuti tizilumikizana ndi omwe amatisamalira, ndipo sitikuwona kuti kusinthasintha kwakanthawi kokhala ana kumatha kukhala kopitilira muyeso atakula. Kuphatikiza apo, timawona dziko lapansi kudzera muzochitika malinga ndi zomwe ubwana wathu udatilangiza kuti tikonzekere. Mamapu athu opulumuka amapangidwa ndikupanga ziyembekezo zosazindikira kuti nkhani yomwe tidadziwa tili ana ndi yomwe ipitilizabe kuwonekera m'miyoyo yathu.
Ngati ndikula ndi wondisamalira wodekha, yemwe sapanikizika, amasinthasintha zosowa zanga ndipo amamvetsetsa bwino momwe ndikumvera, ndiye kuti ndimakhala otetezeka ndi maubale anga. Mikangano ndi mayesero zitha kuchitika koma kukonza ndikotheka chifukwa ndaphunzira kudzera mwa wondisamalira momwe ndingayendetsere izi osaziopa. Izi zimawonjezera kupirira kwanga ndi mphamvu zothanirana ndi malingaliro, kudziwa kuti kuthekera ndikotheka ndipo ndimatha kuthana ndi mavuto osachitapo kanthu molakwika. Ndikula ndikulimba mtima, kudzidalira, kukhala ndi malire athanzi, kuwongolera malingaliro komanso kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Ngati ndakula ndikumva kuti sindidalira anthu, nthawi zina zimakhala zotetezeka komanso zaubwenzi, nthawi zina zachisokonezo kapena zankhanza, ndiye kuti ndizoloweretsa uthenga womwe ndiyenera kuthana nawo kuti ena azindipeza. Anthu ine chonde, sindikhala womasuka konse, ndili ndi nkhawa. Ndidzakhala wopanda chitetezo ndikudalira kusasinthasintha ndipo ndidzayambitsidwa ndi kusintha kwakanthawi kwakanthawi. Ngati machitidwe asintha ndipo kusowa kwamalingaliro ndidzayamba kusiya ndikusiya. Wina akamakhala wozizira komanso wakutali osalankhulana, zimafanana ndiimfa ndipo zimandipweteka.
Ngati ndakula ndikunyalanyazidwa kapena kutayidwa m'njira zomwe ngati ndimayembekezera kuti zilizonse zandipweteka kwambiri, ndidzatseka malingaliro ndi ziyembekezo, kuti ndisunge bata ndi mtendere. Ndidzakhala wolimba mtima kudalira ndekha komanso zochita zomwe zimadalira kudalira ena zimabweretsa kupsinjika. Ndidzaika zopinga zazikulu kulumikizana ndi zosowa ndikusakhulupilira aliyense. Maganizo ndiopseza mdziko langa; wina kuyandikira kwambiri ndiwopseza chifukwa ndiye malingaliro anga ali pachiwopsezo. Ngakhale ndimafuna, ndimawopa. Wokondedwa wanga akatengeka, ndimatseka zochulukirapo kuti ndidziteteze.
Munthu aliyense amagona penapake mkati mwamagawo awa. Ganizirani zakuwonekera komwe kuwonetseredwa kotetezeka ndikofunika pakati, komanso kuda nkhawa, kusatekeseka m'maganizo mwanjira ina yopewera komanso yopewera, kusakhazikika pamzake. Kulephera kwamaubwenzi ambiri kumachitika chifukwa cha munthu wodandaula komanso wopewa kukondana ndipo nthawi yokwanira ikadutsa, zovuta izi zimawululidwa ndipo munthu aliyense amayamba kuyambitsa mnzake mosalekeza chifukwa, kwakukulu, ndife osazindikira za zosowa zathu zachikondi.
Mvetsetsani masitayilo anu apadera kuti muyambe kuchira
Nthawi yomwe kulumikizidwa kwakukulu kumafunikira, mabala ophatikizika amatuluka ndikuyamba kukwiyitsa ndikupangitsa zovuta. Popanda kuzindikira, kuwonongekako sikungasinthike chifukwa onse mbali ziwiri zimangoyambitsa mavuto am'banjamo, pomwe kwenikweni onse akulephera pazomwe adadalira m'moyo wawo wonse. Sangowululidwa momwe mnzake wapamtima angawaulutsire.
Makasitomala anzanga akangoyesa kuwunika ndikumvetsetsa masitayilo awo apadera, amatha kuyamba kuchira ndikuchiritsa zomwe zingathandize ubale weniweni womwe akuyenera ndikukhumba.Kudzichiritsa nokha ndizotheka, ndipo chiyembekezo cha moyo wa ubalewo chitha kusintha pokhapokha njira yodziwitsa ikayamba. Wobisalira kuyambira ubwana wathu ali ndi mankhwala.