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Kodi mungafune kudziwa zambiri zakugonana motentha, motentha, kukondana, kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu?
Ndagwira ntchito ndi maanja kwazaka zambiri ndipo ndazindikira kuti mavuto obwera chifukwa chaubwenzi ndi ena mwa mavuto akulu mu chiyanjano. Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo chifukwa chake zili choncho? Tinapangidwira ubale ndiubwenzi wapamtima, ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani zili zovuta?
Kodi mukukumbukira kuti munali kumalo ochitira masewera a kusukulu ya pulayimale muli mwana ndipo munamva nyimbo yoimba, “John ndi Susie atakhala mumtengo, akupsompsonana”? Kugonana kumawonetsedwa munjira zambiri m'miyoyo yathu ndipo ndi mphatso yabwino kwambiri yochokera kwa Mulungu, moyenera.
Ndikambirana nkhani zitatu zodziwika bwino zomwe zimawoneka ngati zaphwanya malingaliro ndikuperekanso malingaliro kuti ayambitsenso chidwi:
1. Mukuyembekezera chiyani?
Tikakhala achichepere ndikuganiza za banja, kugonana, banja, ndi zina zambiri, mwina timakhala ndi ziyembekezo zina zomwe timayembekezera.
Ndiye chimachitika ndi chiani ngati ziyembekezozi sizikukwaniritsidwa? Itha kuyendetsa bwino ubalewo.
Kodi njira yothanirana ndi ziyembekezo zosakwaniritsidwa ndi iti? Ndi kulumikizana. Izi zitha kukhala zosavuta kuzinena kuposa kuzichita.
Nayi masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mungayesere.
Payokha, inu ndi mnzanu mumalandira pepala ndikulemba zinthu zomwe mumafuna kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Apatseni tsiku limodzi kapena awiri ndikukonzekera nthawi yoti mudzabwererenso kudzakambirana mndandanda wanu. Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mugulitse mindandanda ndikuwona ngati mukuwona zodabwitsa zilizonse. Tsopano, chenjezo chabe.
Ngati pali madera ambiri pamndandanda wazomwe sakukumana nawo pano, musataye mtima. Khalani ndi kukambirana momasuka komanso moona mtima za zinthu 1 kapena 2 zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri pakusintha.
Kusintha sikuchitika mwadzidzidzi. Pamafunika khama komanso kuleza mtima.
2. Kodi umandidziwa?
Mumamudziwa bwanji mnzanu, malingaliro ake, zosowa zake, momwe akumvera, chiyembekezo chake, ndi zokhumba zake?
Aliyense akhoza kugonana, koma ndizosangalatsa kwambiri mukamadziwana bwino, ndipo ubalewo umakhala wamwamuna mmodzi.
Ngati mwakhala mukukhala m'mabanja ambiri, mwina mudamvapo zilankhulo zisanu zachikondi za Dr Gary Chapman. Mwa njira, iyi ndi kuwerenga kovomerezeka kwambiri, ngati simukudziwa.
Chikondi ndichinthu chochita.
Tidakambirana kale za kulumikizana, koma tsopano ndi nthawi yoti tichitepo kanthu. Zilankhulo zisanu zachikondi zomwe Chapman amabweretsa ndi: Mawu Otsimikizira, Nthawi Yabwino, Kupereka ndi Kulandila Mphatso, Machitidwe Atumiki, ndi Kukhudza Thupi (osati zogonana). Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muzilankhulana moona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu pazinthu izi zomwe zimawakonda kwambiri, kuwapatsa ulemu, komanso kuwaganizira.
Komanso, khalani ndi nthawi yodziwitsa mnzanu zomwe mukufuna. Kenako, yikani izi. Kwa mkazi wanga, mayi wakunyumba wophunzirira kunyumba, zina mwazinthu zanzeru kwambiri zomwe ndimamuchitira, kutsuka mbale, kuponyera zovala mu makina ochapira zovala, ndikupangira banja lathu chakudya kuti athe kupeza yopuma.
Komanso, kupemphera ndi iye ndikutsogolera banja lathu mwauzimu ndikutseguka kwakukulu. Ndikutha kukulonjezani kuti kukondana ndi kukondana zimakulira mukamakhala mwachikondi ndikuwonetsa chikondi kwa wokondedwa wanu mchilankhulo chawo musanafike kuchipinda.
Kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima pa momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu, kulingalira kwanu, ndi zomwe muli nazo mwa mnzanu. Kugonana kwakukulu ndi gawo limodzi chabe la chidwi chomwe mumapeza kuchokera pazogulitsa zanu.
3. Chikondi? Chibwenzi chanji?
Maanja ambiri omwe ndakhala ndikugwira nawo ntchito amakhala ndi lingaliro ili m'maganizo mwawo, "Ndili naye kale bwenzi langa. Palibe chifukwa chochitira chibwenzi tsopano. ” Lingaliro lina lomwe ndimamva pafupipafupi ndi lakuti, "Tiyenera kukhala pachibwenzi liti tili ndi zonse izi _______?" Mutha kudzaza zosowazo ndi zinthu zingapo, maudindo, ana, ngongole.
Chifukwa chakuti inu nonse tsopano simukutanthauza kuti chibwenzi chiyenera kutha.
Inu ndi mnzanu mukukula nthawi zonse, kukula, ndikusintha. Chibwenzi ndi pafupi nthawi yolumikizananso pamene moyo uli wotanganidwa ndikukhala olumikizana panjira. Ndizokhudza kupatula nthawi yosaganizira china chilichonse koma wina ndi mnzake. Tsopano, masiku amatanthauza zinthu zosiyana kwa maanja osiyanasiyana.
Kwa ine, sindiganiza zopita kumalo odyera ndi ana atatu kuti ndikapeze chakudya chokwanira tsiku. Ine ndi mkazi wanga timavomereza kuti kukonzekera ndi gawo limodzi la tsiku.
Pomaliza, kumbukirani kuti chidwi chili pa wina ndi mnzake
Komanso, kumbukirani kuti chidwi chili pa wina ndi mnzake, ndiye kuti palibe ana omwe amayitanidwa. Ndalama nthawi zina zimakhala zolimba, koma masiku sayenera kukhala okwera mtengo. Pezani luso ndi mnzanu. Lembani mndandanda wazokonda mnzanu komanso tsiku lomwe angakhale. Kenako, mutha kuyamba kukonzekera.
Yesani malangizo awa!