Zamkati
- 1. Ziwerengero zikuwonetsa kuti upangiri wa maukwati ndiwopindulitsa kwambiri
- 2. Muyenera kukaonana ndi alangizi a mabanja posachedwa — komanso pafupipafupi
- 3. Uphungu wa maukwati umathandizira kulumikizana
- 4. Mutha kusunga nthawi ndi ndalama popita kukalandira upangiri waukwati
- 5. Palibe vuto lililonse
Ngati ndinu munthu amene mumaganizira za inu nokha "amachita upangiri wa maanja? ” simuli nokha.
Komabe, ndi ziwerengero zosonyeza kuti 40% ya maukwati oyamba, 60 peresenti ya mabanja achiwiri ndi 70% yaukwati wachitatu onse atha ndi chisudzulo, sizingakhale zopweteka kuwona mlangizi wa maukwati. Osachepera kangapo pachaka.
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe kupeza upangiri wabanja kumapeto kwake kumatha kukhala chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite m'banja lanu. Nthawi yomweyo, ngati simunapiteko kukaonana ndi mlangizi (kapena wothandizira) kale, ndizomveka kuti mungafune zifukwa zina zomveka chifukwa chake anthu ambiri amaziona kuti ndizothandiza kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake pankhani yakuyankha mafunso- “kodi upangiri wa maukwati umathandizadi?” ndi "zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera kuchokera ku upangiri waukwati?", Nazi zifukwa zisanu zokuthandizani kuti muwone zowonekazo Ubwino wa upangiri waukwati.
1. Ziwerengero zikuwonetsa kuti upangiri wa maukwati ndiwopindulitsa kwambiri
Kuti muyankhe funso lanu kodi uphungu umathandiza bwanji? kapena upangiri wa maukwati ndiwofunika? Tiyeni tisunthireko pazambiri zowoneka.
Kafukufuku wobwerezabwereza awonetsa mobwerezabwereza kufunika kwa upangiri waukwati. Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku adawonetsanso kuti maanja omwe amatenga nawo mbali pakulangiza zaukwati adakhutitsidwa kwambiri ndipo akuti kusintha kwakukulu m'mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wawo.
Kuchokera pakukhala bwino, kwam'maganizo ndi kuthupi mpaka kukulira zipatso m'mabanja ndi ubale ndizomwe zidachitika m'miyoyo ya maanja omwe adadutsamo uphungu waukwati.
Panali kafukufuku wina yemwe bungwe la American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists lidayambitsa zokhudzana ndi kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe adasiya upangiri wamaukwati akuwona ngati ndichabwino kwa iwo.
Oposa 98% omwe adafunsidwa adati anali ndi mlangizi wabwino, 90% adanenanso zakusintha kwaumoyo wawo atalandira upangiri waukwati, ndipo pafupifupi anthu awiri mwa atatu aliwonse adatinso ali ndi thanzi labwino.
Ichi chokha ndi chifukwa chabwino chokwanira choti mungaganizire kopita kwa mlangizi kapena wothandizira, sichoncho?
2. Muyenera kukaonana ndi alangizi a mabanja posachedwa — komanso pafupipafupi
Maanja nthawi zambiri samakhala ndi chitsimikizo cha nthawi yomwe angalandire upangiri waukwati kapena nthawi yoti akalandire upangiri waukwati?
Ngati mungapeze chipinda cha mabanja osudzulana limodzi ndikufunsa ngati adalandira upangiri waukwati ndipo ngati ndi choncho, bwanji sizinagwire ntchito, tili okonzeka kunena kuti ambiri avomereza kuti apita kukaonana ndi mlangizi mochedwa kwambiri muukwati wawo.
Ngati mukufika kale pachibwenzi pomwe muli pachibwenzi pomwe mukufuna kuzitcha “kusiya”, pomwe upangiri wa mabanja ungathandize, ndizovuta kwambiri kuti phungu abweretse zotsatira zabwino.
Kupita kukalandira upangiri waukwati m'njira zambiri ndikofanana ndikuchezera dokotala wanu kuti akapimidwe. Monga thupi lanu banja lanu limafunikiranso chisamaliro chokhazikika makamaka choyang'aniridwa ndi akatswiri.
Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kuti muwonenso msanga komanso kuti musapite kangapo pachaka. Kaya banja lanu lili bwino. Kapena osati.
Mutha kusankha uphungu paukwati pa intaneti ngati simukupeza nthawi yoti mupite kukaonana ndi asing'anga pamasom'pamaso, upangiri wazokwatirana pa intaneti ungakuthandizeni kusunga ndalama, chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zotsika mtengo kuposa upangiri womwe udachitika pamasom'pamaso.
3. Uphungu wa maukwati umathandizira kulumikizana
Kaya mukumva kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumalumikizana bwino kapena mutha kuyesererabe pankhaniyi, phindu lina la upangiri waukwati ndikuti mutha kupeza malangizo amomwe mungayankhulirane bwino.
Choyamba, othandizira maukwati adaphunzitsidwa momwe angapangire maluso oyankhulirana pankhani yakumvetsera, kubwereza zomwe adamva kwa odwala awo ndikupezanso malingaliro.
Komanso, alangizi a mabanja amadziwa momwe angayang'anire moyenera maanja ndikuwona ngati pali malo omwe kulumikizana sikungakhaleko (ngakhale awiriwo sakuzindikira mwa iwo okha.
4. Mutha kusunga nthawi ndi ndalama popita kukalandira upangiri waukwati
Nazi zina zomwe zingakudabwitseni: Mudzasunga ndalama zambiri (mochuluka mpaka 20 mpaka 40 peresenti) ndi nthawi popita kukalandira upangiri wa mabanja ndi mlangizi wa maukwati kapena wothandizira kuposa kupita nokha kukaonana ndi wama psychologist kapena psychiatrist.
Pankhani ya ndalama, ndichifukwa chakuti alangizi ambiri am'banja amakhala ndi mitengo yotsika kwambiri (kuphatikiza, nthawi zambiri amakhala okonzeka kukutengerani ndalama ngati inshuwaransi yanu siyikulipira zomwe amalipira).
Ndipo mpaka nthawi, anthu awiri akakhala mchipinda limodzi, mlangizi wamaukwati amatha kuwona bwino zaubwenzi. Zotsatira zake, amatha kudziwa molondola mavutowo ndikufika pamizu yamavuto.
5. Palibe vuto lililonse
Mukasankha kugwira ntchito ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi mtima wofuna kuwona maukwati akuchita bwino, izi zimangoyenda bwino.
Ngakhale pali mabanja ena omwe anganene izi uphungu waukwati adabweretsa zovuta zina zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi chawo, nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa chakuti phungu atha kubweretsa mitu ndi nkhani zomwe sizingabwere mwanjira ina iliyonse.
Komabe, nkofunika kukumbukira kuti kukondana kwenikweni sikutanthauza kukhala ndi nthawi yosangalala ndi mnzanu. Ndizofunikanso kukhala pachiwopsezo chokwanira kugawana malingaliro, malingaliro ndi mbali za umunthu wanu zomwe ziwathandize kuwona zenizeni inu nonse.
Kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndikudziwana ndi munthu wina posankha kuwakonda ndikukhalabe odzipereka zivute zitani. Upangiri waukwati ndi chida chokuthandizani kuti muzitha kulumikizana bwino ndi zomwe mukudziwa kale pomwe mukuphunzira kukumbatiranso zosadziwika.
Mukadziwa kuchita izi, banja lanu limakhala lolimba kuposa kale lonse!