Zamkati
- Achichepere komanso akulu-akulu omwe akwatirana muukwati
- Kuledzera kumabweretsa chiwopsezo chachikulu pachibwenzi chilichonse
- Kukhululuka ndi chifukwa chomwe sizibwera mosavuta
- Musati fixated pa nkhani kukhululuka
- Zomwe mungachite ngati simungakhululukire mnzanu
Mukalephera kukhululuka mnzanu, mungamve ngati dziko latha. Maukwati ndi nkhani yovuta, yomwe imabweretsa chisangalalo chachikulu komanso kupweteka kwambiri. Chimodzi mwazomwe mungakumane nacho m'banja lanu chimadalira pazinthu zambiri. Zina mwa izo zili m'manja mwanu, zina sizili m'manja mwanu. Ndipo zikakhala zoipa zomwe zimakhalapo, mudzadzipezanso muli pamphambano - kukhululuka, kupitiliza kumenya nkhondo, kapena kungosiya ndikupitiliza ndi moyo wanu.
Achichepere komanso akulu-akulu omwe akwatirana muukwati
Banja lililonse limasiyana. Palibe amene angadziwe vuto lomwe banja lingathe kulithetsa. Kwa ena, zitha kukhala zovuta kumangosiya mkaka kunja kwa furiji. Kwa ena, atha kukhala kusokonekera kwamalingaliro kapena kuwopseza. Ndipo ena apeza njira yogonjetsera zoperewera zazikulu ndikuphunzira kuchokera pazomwe zidachitikazo.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mfundo ndiyakuti - palibe njira yodziwira zonse zomwe zimagwira ntchito ndi zomwe sizigwira ntchito. Pamapeto pake, ndi anthu awiri omwe amasankha zomwe sangakwanitse kuchita. Muofesi ya asing'anga, nthawi zambiri pamakhala zodabwitsa, ndipo maanja omwe amawoneka kuti aweruzidwa amatha kuchira, pomwe omwe anali ndi mavuto ang'onoang'ono amasankha kupatukana.
Koma, monga kafukufuku akusonyezera, palinso malo ena omwe kusamvana pakati pa okwatirana kumawerengedwa kuti ndiopambana. Awa ndimavuto olumikizirana, komanso zosokoneza bongo. Pankhani yolumikizana, ndi nkhani yomwe ingakhudze chiyembekezo cha banjali mbali zonse ziwiri. Ngati kulumikizana kuli koyipa, nthawi zonse mpando wachimbudzi ukasiyidwa usokoneza ubalewo. Kumbali ina, pakakhala kulumikizana kwabwino, momasuka komanso moona mtima, banjali limakhala ndi mwayi wopambana.
Kuledzera kumabweretsa chiwopsezo chachikulu pachibwenzi chilichonse
Ngati m'modzi kapena awiriwo ali ndi chizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena ali ndi chizolowezi chomachita (kutchova juga, chizolowezi chogonana), chidwi chimasintha. Chofunikira kwambiri chimakhala kupeza zinthu kapena kuchita zinthu zosokoneza, m'malo mongosamalira banja komanso ubale. Chifukwa cha kumwerekera kapena kulumikizana kosalekeza, m'modzi mwa akaziwo atha kukhala pamalo oti sangakhululukirane.
Kukhululuka ndi chifukwa chomwe sizibwera mosavuta
Mwinamwake mwamvapo za momwe kulephera kukhululukira kuli koopsa. Mosakayikira mumakhala ndi chidziwitso chakukhala ndi mkwiyo, chidani, mkwiyo, ndi zina zonse zakumva kuwawa. Ndipo mwina mukukumbukira nthawi zosangalatsa zomwe simunkafunika kumva choncho ndikumva kuwawa.
Musati fixated pa nkhani kukhululuka
Nthawi zambiri timangokhalira kukhumudwa ndikukhumudwitsidwa ngati njira yothetsera vutoli. Ndi zachilendo kukhala ndi malingaliro amtundu uliwonse mukalakwiridwa, ndipo sizimakhala zosangalatsa. Koma, patapita kanthawi, tikuyenera kupita patsogolo osakonzekera zomwe zidatigwera. Komabe, anthu nthawi zambiri samatha kuchita izi.
Izi ndizachilendo chifukwa timafunikira zinthu zina kuti tithe kulamulira zomwe timakhulupirira kuti tili nazo tikasunga chakukhosi. Choyamba, pambuyo pa kulakwitsa kwa mnzathu, tonsefe timayembekezera kupepesa kwabwino, kochokera pansi pamtima. Tiyenera izi kuti tiwone kuti tili mbali imodzi. Tiyeneranso kuchiritsa kuvulala komweko. Timafunikira zowawa kuti tisinthe ndikukula. Pomaliza, tifunika kukhala ndi zoyipa kuti tisiye kubwereza. Ngati zina mwazimenezi sizikwaniritsidwa, ambiri aife sitimatha kuzikhululukira.
Zomwe mungachite ngati simungakhululukire mnzanu
Mukaona kuti mukulephera kukhululuka, ngakhale mutayesetsa motani, dzikhululukireni. Anthu amakonda kudziimba mlandu ngati sangakhululukire anzawo. Ngakhale zitakukhumudwitsani ndi kukukhumudwitsani, mwina mungaone kuti ndiinu amene muyenera kukhululuka ndi kuiwala. Koma, muli ndi ufulu kuti musatero. Chifukwa chake, lekani kudzikakamiza kuti mukhululukire zomwe simungakhululukire mnzanu, ndikudziyimitsani pakadali pano.
M'malo mwake, tengani kamphindi kuti mudzidziwe bwino. Nchiyani chinakupangitsani kulephera kukhululuka? Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe mukusowa kwa mnzanu? Nchiyani chinali kusowa? Kodi zinthu zikadatha bwanji? Kodi mungasankhe chiyani tsopano ndi banja lanu? Pali maphunziro ambiri ofunikira omwe mungaphunzire pazinthu zonse, kuphatikiza iyi.