Zamkati
- 1. Mumathera nthawi yabwino limodzi?
- 2. Mumagonana kangati?
- 3. Kodi mnzanu ndi mnzanu wapamtima?
- 4. Kodi mwakhazikitsa malire oyenera (ngakhale wina ndi mnzake)?
- 5. Kodi muli ndi ndondomeko yachuma komanso yopuma pantchito?
- 6. Kodi ndinu okondwa?
Ngati winawake angakufunseni mafunso owunika zaukwati lero, pali mwayi woti angakufunseni kena kake "Ndiye, ndinu osangalala bwanji pachibwenzi chanu?"
Ndipo ngakhale ili ndi funso lofunikira (lomwe tifika kumapeto kwa nkhaniyi), tikuganiza kuti lomwe ndilofunika kwambiri pakuwunika ubale ndi "Momwe wathanzi ukwati wanu? ”
Banja lanu likakhala lathanzi, zikutanthauza kuti limakhala lolimba, lolimba, komanso limakusangalatsani nonse. Ndipo zikakhala mumkhalidwe wotere, zimatha kukupindulitsani inu mwauzimu, mwamalingaliro, komanso mwakuthupi.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake timaganiza kuti ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti maanja azigwiritsa ntchito zida zowunikira maukwati monga kuyesa mayeso awo olimba ukwati nthawi ndi nthawi.
Kwenikweni, ndi mndandanda wa mafunso a 'zaumoyo' omwe inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kudzifunsa kuti mutsimikizire kuti nonse mukuwona kuti banja lanu likuyenda bwino.
Ngati simunayesepo mayeso abwenzi kapena a kuyesa kwaukwati, nayi mayeso (okwanira) a mphindi 10 okwatirana omwe tikukupemphani kuti muchite mukangobwera kuchokera kuntchito usikuuno kapena kumapeto kwa sabata mukakhala ndi nthawi yopuma.
Ngati mwakonzeka kuyesa banja?
Tiyeni tiyambe:
1. Mumathera nthawi yabwino limodzi?
Mabanja ena amaganiza kuti bola ngati agona pabedi limodzi, amakhala kuti ali ndi nthawi yabwino ngati banja. Ngakhale ndichizindikiro chokwanira chaukwati kuti mumagona mchipinda chimodzi, nthawi yabwino iyenera kukhala ndi zochulukirapo kuposa izi.
Mumapita masiku (opanda ana)? Kodi mumachita maulendo okondana limodzi pachaka chilichonse? Mukutsimikiza kuti mumapatula nthawi kamodzi pamlungu kuti muwonerere kanema pabedi kapena kuphika chakudya limodzi?
Izi funso loyesa ukwati ikuthandizani kuzindikira kuti mumaika patsogolo banja lanu kuposa zinthu zina. Mukamakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yocheza ndi mnzanuyo, mumakhala mukumuuza kuti iye ndiye wofunika kwambiri kwa inu, ndipo zimenezi ndi zofunika kwambiri m'banja.
2. Mumagonana kangati?
Ngakhale mayendedwe azakugonana amasiyanasiyana kutengera msinkhu wa banja, ndandanda, thanzi, komanso zomwe amakonda, ngati mukuchitirana kangapo osachepera 10 pachaka, mulidi mu ukwati womwe umaonedwa ngati banja losagonana.
Kugonana ndichimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zokhudzana ndi banja lomwe limasiyanitsa ndi ena onse. Icho chimamanga iwe mwauzimu. Zimakugwirizanitsa. Kuphatikiza apo, pali maubwino ambiri amthupi omwe amabwera ndi izi.
Izi ndichifukwa choti kugonana kumathandizira kulimbikitsa chitetezo chamthupi, kuwonjezera kusinthasintha, ndikumasula kupsinjika ndi kupsinjika. Palibe kukaikira za izi. Chimodzi mwazizindikiro zabwino za banja labwino ndi banja lomwe limakhala ndi moyo wogonana mosasinthasintha.
3. Kodi mnzanu ndi mnzanu wapamtima?
Mukadzakwatirana, wokondedwa wanu sayenera kukhala mnzanu yekhayo amene muli naye; koma ngati ali bwenzi lanu lapamtima, ndichinthu chabwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndi anthu oyamba omwe mungasankhe kupita nawo ndi malingaliro anu, kukayika kwanu, mantha anu, komanso zosowa zanu zam'malingaliro.
Ndiwo anthu oyamba omwe mungayang'anire kuti muthandizidwe komanso kulimbikitsidwa. Ndiwo malangizo a munthu woyamba omwe mumawatenga (ndi kuwalemekeza).
Chimodzi mwamaubwino okhalitsa kukhala bwenzi lapamtima ndi mnzanu ndikuti zitha kuthandiza kutsimikizira ukwati wanu; makamaka pankhani yopewa zomwe zingachitike.
4. Kodi mwakhazikitsa malire oyenera (ngakhale wina ndi mnzake)?
Kukhala m'banja ndikutanthauza kukhala "mmodzi" ndi munthu wina. Nthawi yomweyo, siziyenera kubwera chifukwa cha kutaya umunthu wanu. Gawo limodzi limakhala kukhazikitsa malire, ngakhale m'banja lanu.
Buku limodzi lomwe lingakuthandizeni kuchita izi ndi Malire mu Ukwati Wolemba Henry Cloud ndi John Townsend. Malire ndi okhudzana ndi ulemu komanso kukulitsa komwe ndikofunikira monga kukonda mnzanu.
5. Kodi muli ndi ndondomeko yachuma komanso yopuma pantchito?
Kukhala olimba muukwati mulinso ndi ndalama zolimba. Pokumbukira izi, kodi inu ndi mnzanuyo muli ndi dongosolo lazachuma? Imodzi yomwe imakuthandizani kuti mutuluke m'ngongole, kuti musunge ndalama, komanso kuti muzisunga ngongole yanu? Nanga bwanji kupuma pantchito?
Ndi nkhani zochulukirapo zomwe zikufalitsidwa zakuti anthu ambiri adzafunika kugwira ntchito yopitilira zaka zopuma pantchito, palibe nthawi ngati ino yokhazikitsira mapulani kuti mutsimikizire kuti simuli m'modzi wawo.
6. Kodi ndinu okondwa?
Munthu aliyense wokwatira angakuuzeni kuti kukwatiwa ndi ntchito yovuta. Ndicho chifukwa chake sizomveka kuyembekezera kukhala osangalala muukwati wanu zonse za nthawiyo.
Koma ngati ndi mgwirizano wabwino, muyenera kupeza nthawi pafupifupi tsiku lililonse zomwe zingakupangitseni kuseka, kuseka kapena kuseka ndipo simukuyenera kuchita mantha, kuda nkhawa, kusowa mtendere, kapena kusasangalala muubwenzi wanu.
Mukakhala osangalala muukwati wanu, zikutanthauza kuti mutha kupeza chisangalalo, kukhutira, ndi chisangalalo muukwati wanu. Ngati mungathe kunena "inde" chonse, kumwetulira. Tengani ukwati wanu kukhala wathanzi komanso woyenera!
Chongani thanzi la banja lanu:
Mafunso Olimbitsa Ukwati
Tikukhulupirira kuti mwayankha mafunso muukwati wothandizira mayeso moona mtima momwe mungathere. Ngati mutayesedwa, mumamva kuti muli muubwenzi wokondwa, wokhutira, komanso wolimba ndi mnzanu, zikomo! Ngati sichoncho, gwirani ntchito malo omwe mukuwona kuti akufunikira chikondi chanu ndi chisamaliro.
Mutha kusintha mafunso awa kukhala a mafunso ofufuza zaukwati za munthu yemwe watsala pang'ono kukwatiwa ndipo nthawi zonse akulimbana ndi lingaliro lakuti "Kodi ndine woyenera kukwatiwa?"
Ngati mkhalidwe waubwenzi wanu ukuwoneka woopsa, musazengereze kusungitsa nthawi yokumana ndi wothandizira. Ndi chithandizo chochepa chakunja, ndizotheka kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mutha kuthana ndi banja lanu kwathunthu. Zabwino zonse!