Zamkati
- Nawa Zizindikiro 9 za mbendera yofiira, zomwe zimatiuza kuti tizingonena ayi, kuukwati
- 1. Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa
- 2. Kutengeka mtima
- 3. Nkhani za m'banja
- 4. Kusayankhulana
- 5. Ngati simukukonda ana, musakwatire amene ali ndi ana
- 6. Nkhani zachuma
- 7. Osakwatira ngati mukuyembekezera kuti mnzanu asinthe
- 8. Kugonana
- 9. Osakwatirana ngati munathetsa chibwenzi posachedwapa
Ukwati mdziko lathu wasokonekera, ndipo awa ndi mawu abwino kwambiri. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti 55% yamaukwati oyamba amathetsa banja, 72% ya mabanja achiwiri amathetsa banja ndipo 78% ya mabanja achitatu amathetsa banja.
Ambiri aife tili ndi malingaliro, kuti ngakhale ubale wathu wapano ungathe kugwira ntchito pano, titangokwatirana zonse zidzakhala zabwino.
Gwiritsitsani. Osadutsa kupita. Werengani izi.
Nawa Zizindikiro 9 za mbendera yofiira, zomwe zimatiuza kuti tizingonena ayi, kuukwati
Ukwati, osachepera ukwati wathanzi, wakhala chinthu chongopeka mdziko lathu.
Anthu amalingalirabe kuti akangokwatirana, zonse zidzakhala bwino.
"Inde ndikudziwa kuti tikulimbana tsopano, ndipo sitigwirizana bwino, ndipo pali zovuta zina ndi ana, ndipo pali zovuta ndi omwe tidagwirizana nawo kale, kapena mwina pali zovuta zina ndi maluso athu olumikizirana ... Koma titakwatirana, zonse zikhala bwino. ”
Zimakhala ngati kuwerenga magazini azimayi.
Kapenanso buku lazachikondi layenda molakwika.
Ukwati wakhala chinthu chotayika mdziko lathu, komanso mdziko lathu lino, ndipo pokhapokha ngati titafikadi ku maubale m'malo mwa zongoyerekeza, palibe, ndipo ndikutanthauza kuti palibe chomwe chidzasinthe.
Izi ndi zifukwa 9 zabwino zomwe muyenera kuyankhira kuti ayi, ngati mukuziwona muzochitika izi ndi mnzanu wapano, ndipo mukukonzekera kukwatira:
1. Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa
Pambuyo pogwira ntchitoyi ngati phungu komanso wophunzitsa anthu zaumoyo kwa zaka 30, ndikukhalanso chidakwa, nditha kukuwuzani kuti maukwati ambiri amafa chifukwa chomwa mowa.
Posachedwa ndidagwira ndi banja, ndakwatirana ndendende zaka ziwiri, zomwe zakhala zikulimbana kwa chaka chimodzi ndi miyezi 10 ndipo chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe ali nazo pakati pawo ndikumwa mowa.
Mkazi amawona kuti ndizabwinobwino kukhala ndi magalasi atatu kapena anayi a vinyo usiku uliwonse, kenako kuti azisangalala nawo kumapeto kwa sabata.
Ndipo mwamunayo sali kumbuyo kwenikweni. Ndiye vuto ndi chiyani? Masiku aliwonse a 14 kapena kupitilira apo amagogoda kwambiri, amakoka nkhondoyi, yomwe imangowononga moyo wawo kwa masiku 3 kapena 4 pambuyo pake.
Koma onse adadziwa kulowa m'banja, kuti mfungulo imodzi yomwe idawabweretsa pamodzi inali mowa.
Amakonda kusangalala limodzi, amakonda kumasuka ku lanai madzulo akumwa, koma sanazindikire kuti kumenyana konse ndi kukangana komwe kumachitika nthawi ya chibwenzi kumangopitilira muukwati.
Momwe ndimagwirira nawo ntchito onse awiri, ndidapereka ndemanga yosavuta kuti pokhapokha ngati akufuna kulekerera mowa, ayenera kungolekerera ukwatiwo. Unali machesi owopsa, ndipo mowa udaphulitsa kusatetezeka kwawo ndikuwopa za kudzipereka ndi chikondi.
2. Kutengeka mtima
Ngati sitinakwanitse kumaliza maubwenzi athu onse akale, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ngati sitinakhululukire anzathu onse omwe tinali nawo pachibwenzi kapena okwatirana chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe zinabweretsa m'miyoyo yathu, sitili pafupi kukwatiwa .
Amatchedwa katundu wokhudzika. Amatchedwa kukhala osapezekanso.
Ngati muli ndi zokhumudwitsa kapena zoyipa kwa yemwe kale anali mwamuna wanu, ndikukulonjezani izi, mupeza zovuta zina ndi mnzanu wapano chifukwa chongoti simunaphunzirepo zam'mbuyomu.
Ngati simungathe kuyimirira mkazi wanu wakale kapena bwenzi lanu lakale ndikukhala ndi mkwiyo kapena kuwasungira mkwiyo, simukhulupirira mayi aliyense yemwe muli mtsogolo mpaka mutasiya zakale.
Gwirani ntchito ndi alangizi kuti mufike pachimake chokhululuka, apo ayi ubale wanu wonse uzikhala ku gehena.
3. Nkhani za m'banja
Mukuwona kulephera kwakukulu pakati pa wokondedwa wanu ndi banja lawo, komabe malinga ndi mnzanuyo, banja lawo ndilofunikira kwambiri pachikondi chawo ndi moyo wawo.
Nthawi yomweyo, mukuyenda kudera lankhondo.
Pokhapokha mutakhala ku Japan ndi banja lake, pamenepa, akukhala ku United States, wachibale aliyense wapamtima pomwe wokondedwa wanu samalumikizana naye nthawi zonse amapangitsa gehena kapena banja lanu kukhala labwinobwino.
Yankho lake? Lowani upangiri lero, kuti muwone ngati mungakwanitse kupirira misala yomwe ikubwera panjira.
Bweretsani wokondedwa wanu, kuti nonse mukambirane ndi mlangizi za mantha anu ndi nkhawa zanu zokhudzana ndi ubale womwe amakhala nawo ndi abale awo omwe ali ndi chisokonezo.
Chitani kafukufuku. Pezani chithandizo musanadzipereke kukwatirana, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi apongozi anu ndi misala yawo gawo la moyo wanu pafupipafupi.Zingakhale zopanda phindu.
4. Kusayankhulana
Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe amangotseka mosavuta kapena amagwiritsa ntchito njira zopanda pake m'malo mokomana ndi kukangana, ndiye kuti mwatenga nthawi yayitali kwambiri kapena mwinanso yayifupi kwambiri, koma yovuta.
Ngati simunaphunzire kumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo pachibwenzi chanu ngati simunaphunzirepo luso lololeza zinthu kupita ngati simunaphunzirepo luso lopepesa moyenera kuti muthe kuthetsa mavuto aliwonse pachibwenzi mwachilungamo mofulumira. Simunakonzekere ukwati. Inde, ndizosavuta.
5. Ngati simukukonda ana, musakwatire amene ali ndi ana
Ngati mnzanu amene mukuganiza zokwatira, ali ndi ana, ndipo simukugwirizana ndi ana, musakwatire munthu ameneyu!
Palibe cholakwika ndi wina kukhala ndi ana mwachidziwikire, koma ngati simuli munthu amene amasangalala kukhala pafupi ndi ana, iyi ndiye mfundo yofunika kwambiri muubwenzi wanu.
Mwachiwonekere simungathe kufunsa wokondedwa wanu kuti achotse ana, LOL, koma mutha kupanga chisankho kuti ana sangakhale gawo la moyo wanu ndipo simukufuna kuyambitsa izi tsopano.
Pali anthu ambiri kunja uko opanda ana, omwe muyenera kuwayang'ana.
6. Nkhani zachuma
Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe sanadziwe luso la bajeti, kuchepetsa ndalama komanso nthawi yomweyo kuphunzira momwe angakulitsire ndalama, ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala akulimbana ndi ndalama, kuda nkhawa ndi ndalama, kumalankhula za kuwopsa kwake koma iwo akupezekabe mumkhalidwe wachumawu, osakwatira!
M'malo mwake, limbikitsani mnzanu ndipo mwina mutha kulowa nawo, kuti mugwire ntchito ndi wokonza zandalama kapena mlangizi ndikuwongoletsani mavuto onse azachuma musanalowe m'banja.
Ndipo ngati akubwerera m'mbuyo, ndipo sakufuna kupeza thandizo lachuma? Yendani kutali. Tsopano.
7. Osakwatira ngati mukuyembekezera kuti mnzanu asinthe
Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi wina ndipo mukuganiza zokwatirana naye, ndikuyembekeza kuti asintha china chake chokhudza umunthu wawo kapena machitidwe awo ... Osakwatirana!
Ndinagwira ntchito ndi mzimayi zaka zingapo zapitazo, yemwe anali pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe amadya atatsegula pakamwa pake nthawi zonse akakhala pagulu.
Anaziwona kukhala zonyansa koma amaganiza kuti atha kusintha atakwatirana, ndipo anali kulakwitsa.
Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi tili m'banja, adaganiza zopitanso pagulu kukadyanso naye, ndipo mukudziwa zomwe zidachitika.
Mkwiyo wake unakulirakulira, ngakhale anakana kusintha chizolowezi choipa ichi mpaka banja lawo litasokonekera.
Osakhala pachibwenzi ndi aliyense, kapena kukwatiwa ndi aliyense, kuti athe kusintha mawonekedwe ndi zizolowezi zawo. Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ndiubwenzi wabwino, dikirani mpaka mavuto omwe mukuwona lero akonzedwe musanakwatirane.
8. Kugonana
Ngati simukugonana mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi winawake, ndikhulupirireni uyu ngati phungu komanso mphunzitsi wazaka zopitilira 30, palibe chabwino chomwe chingasinthe muukwati.
Ndi zomvetsa chisoni koma zoona. Pali anthu ambiri omwe sanasakanizidwe bwino muukwati chifukwa zogonana komanso chidwi chawo chili kumapeto kwenikweni.
Anthu ena amangobadwa ali ndi chilakolako chogonana kwambiri, ndipo amafunika kupeza bwenzi lomwe lingafanane ndi chiwerewerecho.
Anthu ena amakumana ndi mavuto azaumoyo, ndipo ngati sawasamalira atha kusintha moyo wawo modzidzimutsa ndi imodzi mwanjira zambiri zosagonana.
Onetsetsani kuti nonse muli chimodzimodzi, patsamba lomwelo, zikafika paziwonetsero zachikondi, kupsompsonana, kupanga chikondi musanayende pamsewu.
9. Osakwatirana ngati munathetsa chibwenzi posachedwapa
Mnzanuyo, kapena inu, mudasudzulana kapena kutha chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali ndipo nthawi yomweyo mudalumphira pano.
Timakhulupirira mdziko la upangiri, kuti anthu amafunikira masiku osachepera 365 pakati paubwenzi wokhalitsa kapena maukwati.
Mukatenga njira iyi yamasiku 365 ndikugwira ntchito ndi mlangizi kumapeto kwa chibwenzi chanu, mudzatha kuthana ndi mavuto omwe angakhalepo panjira.
M'buku lathu latsopanoli, "Mngelo pa bolodi lapamadzi: buku lachinsinsi la zachikondi lomwe limapereka mafungulo ku chikondi chakuya", Munthu wodziwika bwino Sandy Tavish adakopeka ndi mkazi wokongola padziwe, ndipo Tsiku lomwelo amamuitanira kunyumba kwake Botolo la vinyo ndi chakudya chamadzulo.
Akafika, akuwoneka wokongola kwambiri, wokongola kwambiri moti samatha kudziletsa.
Amapitilizabe kumuuza kuti amakhulupirira kuti, Sandy, ndi mwamuna yemwe wakhala akumuyembekezera moyo wake wonse.
Koma zomwe zimachitika kenako, zimasintha chilichonse.
Amamuuza kuti pomaliza pake adathamangitsa chibwenzi chake chomaliza mnyumbamo ... Masiku atatu okha apitawo! ... Koma ali wokonzeka kukondana kwambiri.
Sandy amadziwa kuti palibe amene angakhale okonzekera chikondi chakuya popanda malo ambiri pakati pa maubwenziwo, ndipo amamuuza izi.
Poyamba, izi zimamupweteketsa mtima ndipo amakhumudwa kwambiri, koma akakhazikika azindikira chowonadi, amafunikira nthawi yochuluka kuti achiritse kuchokera pachibwenzi chomaliza.
Kaya ndi inu, kapena mnzanu, yemwe sanatenge nthawi yokwanira pakati paubwenzi, iyi ndi mbendera yayikulu yofiira yomwe tiyenera kumvetsera.
Pumulani pang'ono. Chitani ntchito. Ndipo ngati mukuyenera kuti mukhale limodzi, mutha kukhala limodzi.
Monga momwe mungaganizire, maupangiri 9 pamwambapa ndi poyambira chabe.
Tiyeni pakadali pano tisankhe kukwatirana ndi wina mpaka mutatsimikiza kuti nonse muli malo amodzi mdera lililonse, kapena madera ambiri m'moyo.
Ndikudziwa ngati mutsatira malangizo osavuta awa, mudzipulumutsa nokha kumasautso, mavuto ndi kuwonongeka kwachuma. Chedweraniko pang'ono. Chitani mwachifatse. Ndipo ngati simukukhala ndi winawake pompano yemwe ali woyenera kufanana, khalani ndi chikhulupiriro kuti mudzawapeza panjira ndikukhala mosangalala mpaka kalekale.